stu1973 Posted April 13, 2010 Posted April 13, 2010 Folks, Here's my story, your take would be very much appreciated. Here's my story, tis a long one! Well folks I'm sitting here, unable to eat as my stomach is in knots, unable to sleep, and unable to stop thinking about her, and what went wrong. We met early December via an online dating site, and from the off, there was obvious chemistry, attraction, without any of the "playing hard to get" BS. Everything was brilliant until the beginning of February when she went away for a weeks ski-ing. Beforehand, she used to text me ( with kisses at the end ), come round 3 or so nights a week, stay over etc. Everything seemed natural, didn't even have to ask her to stay, didn't even have to ask her back after the cinema, it always just happened. If I was away overnight she'd text to say I wish I was with you etc. The night before she went away, she called just to say hello, and texted to say she'd miss our nights in while away. The night before she went away, she texted "What're you up to?" basically to see if she could come round and see me. I was up at my dads helping him out with stuff, she was obviously wanting to see me before she went, but I couldn't make it, I'd seen her the night before though. Next day, before her flight, she texted to ask if she could call me, I said, sure, so she did, and we chatted just before she left. When we hung up, I texted her to say, "When you come back, I'll cook a 3 course dinner for you, have a fantastic trip x". No reply, but I didn't expect one. So a few days into her trip, I text her to say hi, how's your trip, and a few texts go back and forward, but then she doesn't reply. Again, I'm not bothered, as she's on holiday, and I don't want to pester her. Anyway, she comes back from holiday, and we arrange that she'll come round that night, she cancels, saying she's tired. Next night she comes round, and only stays an hour, doesn't say much, I walk her home, and she says sorry for not staying long. The night before Valentines Day, we go to the cinema, and afterwards she just wants dropped at hers, no kiss. I get back home and text "are you sure you're ok?" No reply, so I phone, no answer. Valentines Day comes, I've taken the day off to plan and cook her dinner, so I wait for her to return the text/call, nothing, so I figure she's blown me off. Forward to Wednesday, I call her to see whats going on, and she goes off on a rant about how all her friends while on holiday asked whether she's been getting texts from her new man ( me) and she felt sad I hadn't been in touch more. She goes crazy about Valentines too. Anyway, I buy her flowers with a card "You are the best thing to happen to me in a long time, I don't want to lose you" and have them delivered to her work. She invites me round later. We chat, she says "I think we could have had something but might've lost it/missed it". So we hug, I say ok, and make for the door, she shouts out my name, calls me back and says "don't leave it this way". We have a good kiss and she says I can thank her sister, as she says I should get another try. I drop round the next day as it's her birthday and I have a small gift for her, We arrange to do something on sunday together. Saturday evening comes and she phones to ask if i want to go skiing the next day as her sister has had to pull out with a sore back. I say yes of course. Next morning she's too hungover to go after a birthday night out, so we arrange I'll pick her up for a walk with my dog later, which we do. So fast forward to last week when I phone her to ask her to my brothers wedding, and although she doesn't come right out and say it, it's over, she says she thinks we've missed the window, she says we've so much in common she wants to keep in contact. She says she'll probably regret this when she's still all alone at night. She says we didn't make it work, and that it shouldn't have been so hard so soon. I email her sister to ask if we can chat, she tells my ex, so my ex emails me to say "we don't have a future together", asks for a dvd back, so I go round drop it off and say bye! And that's it! That was 6 weeks ago, all of them NC and they've been the hardest of my life. What the hell happened?!
amz Posted May 9, 2010 Posted May 9, 2010 My heart goes out to you, you seem like a great guy. I am kinda in the same boat as you. Had a great relationship we were in love and happy and them BOOM out of the blue she breaks up with me. Its been a month now, 2 weeks NC and i am starting to wonder if she even cares. I hope you feel better soon. NC is the best, show your ex that you don't need her in your life and move on. It may seem hard to do but time heals everything. She will be back around if she loves you. Just let her come to you.
witabix Posted May 9, 2010 Posted May 9, 2010 That all sounds odd. What did she mean miss the window? Because your texts were insufficient while she was on holiday? My gut tells me something else from the description. I am a suspicious person though. Keep up the NC, hard as it may be. Not too much invested.
amz Posted May 9, 2010 Posted May 9, 2010 The worst thing that we can do is Analyse things like this and what they said. When is the last time you talked to her? I have no idea by what she meant
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