melodymatters Posted April 12, 2010 Posted April 12, 2010 I can't tell you how many threads I've read lately where guys ( mostly under 30) seem to expect a blow job the same way I would ask someone to please grab me a beer while their head was already in the refrigerator. I realize I am ancient at 43, but my rule then and now was either; we are fooling around together: having sex, mutual oral play etc, or we wait until we can. Not saying I never gave a serious BF or husband a practical HJ ( wasn't horny myself), or BJ treat ( he did something sweet for me), but it seems almost....expected from these young guys, like "Oh yeah, on your way out of my apt I share with roomates, in our "non labled relationship", ya think ya could suck me off ? In other threads, it seems if the woman engages in mild foreplay, she OWES the guy a BJ so that he doesn't have to "suffer" or else she's a "tease". I was: married, serious LTR, and then married again, so maybe I didn't get the memo, but UGH ! I don't owe you sh*t ! Girls blow guys nowadays, and seem expected to, as if it's asking to bum a cigarette or the like !
Rorschach Posted April 12, 2010 Posted April 12, 2010 I don't even particularly like BJs.... (or I never had a good one) but I return the favor so to speak (one of my favorite things to do anyway) But personally I wouldn't say that I expect women to do that at all, let alone whenever I want, I know I wouldn't want to put that in my mouth.... so why would you?
VertexSquared Posted April 12, 2010 Posted April 12, 2010 Some people are just more sexual than others -- consider it an incompatibility. We all have "expectations" in relationships.
Engadget Posted April 12, 2010 Posted April 12, 2010 I've had very little good oral sex, so I don't bother asking for it.
aerogurl87 Posted April 12, 2010 Posted April 12, 2010 I like giving bjs but ONLY when I'm in a committed relationship where the guy is willing to give as much oral as he receives.
USMCHokie Posted April 12, 2010 Posted April 12, 2010 I'd have no problem with a woman expecting it from me whenever she wanted...
PJKino Posted April 12, 2010 Posted April 12, 2010 (edited) Women on here demand their partner is great at sex and has a large penis why cant men expect bjs? It seems as if women have no responsiblity in the bedroom except judging Men Edited April 12, 2010 by PJKino
TheBigQuestion Posted April 12, 2010 Posted April 12, 2010 Last summer, I stopped seeing a girl after a few weeks primarily because she flat out refused to either give or receive oral sex. Granted, the fact that she was vapid and JAP-y (you'll know what I'm talking about if you live in the NYC metro area) also played a big role in this decision. I enjoy both giving and receiving very much. Our sex life as a couple would've been crap without it, in my opinion. We weren't "officially" dating but I didn't feel like waiting to get to that point to see if she would do it, as we were already having sex. Do I feel "entitled" to it? That's tough. I view oral sex as standard sexual practice, and I'd view any potential partner who either won't give it or who gives it only as a "sacrifice" because she "loves me" as incompatible due to being more sexually repressed than me. So yes, I guess I do feel entitled to get (and give) oral sex, as much as I feel entitled to having sexual intercourse. Besides, if the girl's on her period but we both get in the mood, what is she supposed to do, give me an HJ? This isn't 8th grade, and you can't give me an HJ better than I can do it myself.
linwood Posted April 12, 2010 Posted April 12, 2010 I realize I am ancient at 43, but my rule then and now was either; we are fooling around together: having sex, mutual oral play etc, or we wait until we can. Why? I`m 43 too, I don`t really have any "rules". Why must it always be mutual? You don`t like giving unless you get?
Agent Thomas Posted April 12, 2010 Posted April 12, 2010 Women on here demand their partner is great at sex and has a large penis why cant men expect bjs? It seems as if women have no responsiblity in the bedroom except judging Men Girls are psycho, men are pigs, girls are gold diggers, guys are cheaters, [continue inserting sexist rhetoric] Both men AND women are idiots when they make sexist statements. Ignorance isn't sex specific.
Pfiend101 Posted April 12, 2010 Posted April 12, 2010 Damn right I expect it. Suck me off then go wash those dishes girl. Lmao I love going down on a woman so expect the same in return. If they don't then why should I go down on them.
amymarieca Posted April 12, 2010 Posted April 12, 2010 I agree with you very much on this. It is amazing how many men expect blow jobs from women with little to no effort and don't even return the favour. I would also like to add that many men expect a lot of sexual things from women. They see a woman in a porno movie get done up the butt and then take a big load right in the mouth and they think that is something that all women should do! There is definitely some sense of entitlement in people these days.
alphamale Posted April 12, 2010 Posted April 12, 2010 i'm happy to give oral on a girl, if she refuses to suck on my **** then she is history. thats just the way it is
bac Posted April 12, 2010 Posted April 12, 2010 I agree that the casual men have a special attitude about BJs. In fact, the younger guys at least are thankful and they do not have expectations that a woman would love it for her own enjoyment. But, the older guys are even worse. They expect it, they believe that they please you this way and that a woman should be thankful for the opportunity. The older men also sincerely believe that their own sperm is particular delicious to women. Sure, women tell men a lot of compliments after having sex but men should not take it so directly.
VertexSquared Posted April 12, 2010 Posted April 12, 2010 i'm happy to give oral on a girl, if she refuses to suck on my **** then she is history. thats just the way it is This, basically.
eraser Posted April 12, 2010 Posted April 12, 2010 I would also like to add that many men expect a lot of sexual things from women. They see a woman in a porno movie get done up the butt and then take a big load right in the mouth and they think that is something that all women should do! These types of guys make me laugh so effing hard.
alphamale Posted April 12, 2010 Posted April 12, 2010 The older men also sincerely believe that their own sperm is particular delicious to women.. indeed bac, indeed
boogieboy Posted April 12, 2010 Posted April 12, 2010 But youre 43!! You know by now that a guy with any sort of maturity doesnt expect, nor need anything from a woman he just started dating. So why would this concern you? Why would you deal with anyone with this sort of immaturity?
Author melodymatters Posted April 12, 2010 Author Posted April 12, 2010 Interesting responses everybody, thanks for chiming in ! Boogie, yeah dude, I don't experience this or even worry about it, but there were a few threads lately where 1) a guy followed his GF upstairs while they were entertaining friends and basically demanded a BJ, and kicked stuff when he didn't get off !!!!! and 2) where they got hot and heavy and she was on her P and didn't want to go any further and many said she should have given him a BJ or else she was being a tease. I also know a lot of younger kids, and everything from rainbow parties and the like, seem to be much more acceptable. I'm just curious about sexual mores these days !!!!! The other thing that befuddles me is all the: no label, we are committed but not BF/GF stuff. I always thought if you were monogomous : you were BF/GF ?!? So, I guess I have free time, curiousity and want to hear others thoughts about questions that occur to me.
alphamale Posted April 12, 2010 Posted April 12, 2010 i would KILL to ejaculate in some womans mouth right now
boogieboy Posted April 12, 2010 Posted April 12, 2010 Interesting responses everybody, thanks for chiming in ! Boogie, yeah dude, I don't experience this or even worry about it, but there were a few threads lately where 1) a guy followed his GF upstairs while they were entertaining friends and basically demanded a BJ, and kicked stuff when he didn't get off !!!!! and 2) where they got hot and heavy and she was on her P and didn't want to go any further and many said she should have given him a BJ or else she was being a tease. I also know a lot of younger kids, and everything from rainbow parties and the like, seem to be much more acceptable. I'm just curious about sexual mores these days !!!!! The other thing that befuddles me is all the: no label, we are committed but not BF/GF stuff. I always thought if you were monogomous : you were BF/GF ?!? So, I guess I have free time, curiousity and want to hear others thoughts about questions that occur to me. Oh I gotcha. I thought it was a situation. Well its like anything else...I had to learn also when I was young that I cant set an expectation of BJ's or sex or whatever when out on a date. Over the years I learned its much more fun to mentally tease the woman into a froth.... and THAT actually curbs any carnal urges of mine. Its all mental.
hopesndreams Posted April 12, 2010 Posted April 12, 2010 The other thing that befuddles me is all the: no label, we are committed but not BF/GF stuff. I always thought if you were monogomous : you were BF/GF ?!? Gone are the days of meeting someone, liking someone, going on a date, setting up another date, falling in love. There is no more taking the time to get to know someone without the person you're interested in being distracted by who knows how many others. This isn't just an age thing either. I'm 45 and the forty something men act like they're in their 20's. All full of themselves and YES, they do sulk if they don't get a BJ if there is a little frisky "make-out" session.
CLC2008 Posted April 12, 2010 Posted April 12, 2010 i would KILL to ejaculate in some womans mouth right now TMI, TMIIIIIIIIIII.
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