Template Posted April 12, 2010 Posted April 12, 2010 So I know it sounds cliche', but this is really for a friend of mine, as I've never really had any luck getting married (probably a solid precursor to getting divorced.) Well, anyways, I'm hearing this and going to explain it from a 3rd party point of view. The basic jist is that my buddy and his wife are fighting BIG TIME, and surprise surprise, it's over money. She used to be in the Air Force, and retired about 6 mos ago. Obviously she only gets a percentage of her base salary as a pension. It's basically a vicious circle of Her - Let's do xxx, or get xxx Him - We don't have the money, if you want those, you need to get a job Her - I can't find work, and I don't really feel like working Him - Then how do you expect to pay for all of those things without working? Her - Why does it always come back to money? <back to square one> So their last huge fight (I had to go out and chill with him when he left to cool off), was about credit cards that she racked up a huge bill on (that he didn't know about), and wants him to help her pay it off. This puts him over the edge in that he demanded to know what she bought for that money, cuz he doesn't see it anywhere in the house, and that she really needs to find a job if she continues this spending habit. So fast foward to today. My buddy texts message me that it's going rally bad with his wife, and that she wants a divorce, get a place of her own, and leave the kids with him. He's pushing for counseling, but she bull headed and doesn't want it. So my question, for any guy or girl who's been a somewhat a similar situation, is what rights does my buddy have if that's what his wife really wants to do. Basically move on with her life and leave everything to him, kids, mortgage, etc. Again, this is all what my buddy tells me, and I don't know the complete and whole story, but assuming it is what it is... Personally I find it unfathomable that a parent doesn't want to fight for the custody of their children, but maybe she's really that selfish, who knows.
Gunny376 Posted April 12, 2010 Posted April 12, 2010 Fine, have a nice day for the rest of your life without me. Just understand one thing sweetheart? The Air Force retirement check you've been living off of? Well half of its going to be mind. Along with commissary, PX, MWR, Space A privileges. And that's not just me talking smack, that state and federal law, a little something that goes by the title of "Former Spouses Protection Act" And yea? Before I forget? My attorney will be seeking you to enroll in SBP, (Survivor Benefit Plan), and know she doesn't have any say in the matter, (unless he signed a wavier while she was being processed for retirement.) She's thinking that she can live on her retirement check without having to work, and most military can. But that 's all they're going to be doing, putting a roof over their head, food in the fridge, keeping the utilities on. Tell your friend to not to hesitate to go this route in the divorce proceedings. He must for insurance purposes for just he and the children. For example the after payroll tax for family coverage for Blue Cross/Blue Shield is $857 a month. Retiree Tricare Prime? $66 a month for a family coverage, $19 a month for singles. $12 co-pays for doctor's visits you to a maximum of $150 annually. He should also go for the Retiree Delta Dental for him and the children. I've yet to pay more than $3 co-pay for any prescription. Most of the time when I go to the MD or DDM after I'm done I just walk out. To sum it all up? She can't afford to be the spouse that walk out of the martial home. If she does? She's going pay BIG TIME!
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