Chrome Barracuda Posted April 18, 2010 Posted April 18, 2010 Probably should have held her or something, made a move. i mean if your past the marriage and your soon to be ex. I think your doing just fine. ignore the ex and move on. You'll be ok. Her family will probably not let her forget what she done, but they gonna agree with her actions sooner or later, no matter what you do. Focus on your own family, your own future, screw her.
Woggle Posted April 18, 2010 Posted April 18, 2010 You will better off without this woman in your life and things will eventually be better. My ex told everybody that would listen that I beat her, raped her and whipped her with vacumn cleaner attachments. She made me out to be this horrible abusive guy but eventually she showed her true colors and your ex will as well.
Author mikeymad Posted April 18, 2010 Author Posted April 18, 2010 Lesson of the day: You can't argue with stupid.
LisaUk Posted April 18, 2010 Posted April 18, 2010 I beg to differ. Sends me a text "hey, i'm headed home and probly just gonna lay low and watch a movie. You can stop over for a bit if you want". Odd, but I brush it off. I get there round 8:30, she has new kitchen tables/chairs she can't figure out how to put together, so I take the liberty. Then we watch a movie (she sits on the opposite side of the couch) and proceeds to nod off. I know you're all going to say "well 11 is pretty late for a bunch of late 20somethings" ... I suggested maybe it was time for me to leave, and she didn't fight it at all. "sorry I'm so tired, i usually go to bed by 10." Strike 2 with this one. Oh well, have another "date" lined up for tomorrow, we'll see if she's more fun. I'm probably not being assertive enough, but it didn't seem like there were any hints there. Oh well. Ha, I feel like at this point I should be writing "Dear (loveshack) Diary..... Weird! Did you know her for a long time before now or something? If not I can't imagine treating a date this way, I guess she wanted a man to put her table and chairs together - steer clear USER!
Author mikeymad Posted April 18, 2010 Author Posted April 18, 2010 No. I've chatted with her for a couple weeks online, we finally met on friday. No, she didn't use me. Since I'm kind of a fix it/tinkerer type of guy, i just figured it would be nice, and we could talk while i was doing it, so I took the initiative. She didn't have the correct tools, so I told her I would come back and put them together if she made me dinner. Ball's in her court.
Author mikeymad Posted April 19, 2010 Author Posted April 19, 2010 I need some advice. Kind of important decision to make. Today my lawyer is contacting hers, because our court date is scheduled for tomorrow and we're trying to avoid it if we can. The issue at hand? Pictures. Since my wife was the photographer and keeper of all pictures, the last 5 years of my life is stored on her computer. My lawyer even called me yesterday (on a Sunday) to say they were refusing. I have 2 choices. I can roll over and die, forget about getting those, save the money, and have a large chunk of my past gone forever...or... I can go to court and fight it based on the principle she has given me nothing and has made no concessions (the judge will decide in a hearing...not talking about a trial) and show her I refuse to go away quietly.
onedayatatyme Posted April 19, 2010 Posted April 19, 2010 I don't know what to advise. Are the pictures the only thing that would get covered in the hearing?
Author mikeymad Posted April 19, 2010 Author Posted April 19, 2010 Essentially, but I'm sure if we actually go they will rescind on things previously agreed to and more will be brought up.
LisaUk Posted April 19, 2010 Posted April 19, 2010 Mikey I hope you stbxw behaviour over these pictures had brought home to you what a spiteful, petty, unfeeling women she is and that you are MUCH better off without this poison in your life. The pictures, to fight or not to fight? First, you have not lost a chunk of your life, you have the memories in your head and in your heart. Having said that I do understand how hurtful it is not have the pictures. I guess only you can decide what is worth fighting for, no one can advise you here b/c only you know how important they are to you and how important they will be to you when you imagine five years from now. Edit - just a thought, you mentioned this women is a Catholic? Does her Priest know how she is treating you? Perhaps they can get through to her about how hurtful her behaviour is?
Author mikeymad Posted April 19, 2010 Author Posted April 19, 2010 Well it turns out her lawyer is blackballing us, not even giving the option of discussing things, so I guess we are going to court tomorrow. This will get real interesting. Grab your clown shoes, because the circus is coming to town. Unbelievable.
sumdude Posted April 20, 2010 Posted April 20, 2010 Choose your battles wisely. My perspective on pictures? I have our old PC which has 8 years worth as well as all the wedding shots. Hasn't been turned on for 2 years. I guess I should be glad I have them but I remember everything anyway. I find it really strange that this would be a major issue for her. Watta B****! Heck my ex practically forced the negatives of our wedding photos down my throat!
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