Cristoforo Posted April 12, 2010 Posted April 12, 2010 I'm very attracted to and interested in this particular girl that I see 4 days a week. She works at this place I go to every day after work. We've chatted a few times and she is very friendly towards me. I'm shy around attractive women so I haven't gotten the courage to ask her out. Well I was out with friends this weekend and low and behold I saw her at this bar we went to. We chatted for a bit and then when there was a brief moment of silence, I just went into panic mode and completely walked away to go find my friends. I didn't even say bye to her or tell her that I was going to find my friends. I just walked away and I feel like a douche for doing it. I stood with my friends for a while and I really wanted to go talk to her but I was too nervous. I eventually said screw it and went to look for her to talk to her, but she was gone and I didn't see her again for the rest of the night. Did I blow it or can I still salvage this? I am going to see her today and I was hoping that even though I kind of blew her off and ignored her after our brief chat, I can still talk to her about that night and ask how her night went, etc. Hopefully she doesn't think I'm some inconsiderate jerk. What should I say to her when I see her today? I really don't want to make this awkward.
TouchedByViolet Posted April 12, 2010 Posted April 12, 2010 You f***ed that up. In the bar scene especially, girls like attention and guys with confidence. Blame it on the a-a-a-a-a-alcohol baby.
Author Cristoforo Posted April 12, 2010 Author Posted April 12, 2010 I wasn't even drunk yet. And I never said I wasn't acting confident. For the brief moment we spoke, I didn't come across as nervous at all and I felt confident. It was just that I ran away to go to my friends because deep down inside, I really was nervous. I'll be seeing her in a few hours and I just want to be able to make this right. I guess I could be honest with her and tell her the truth?
make me believe Posted April 12, 2010 Posted April 12, 2010 Yeah, just tell her the truth and apologize for coming across as rude. She's probably just confused about what happened & thinks you're not interested, but I don't think you completely blew your chances.
boogieboy Posted April 12, 2010 Posted April 12, 2010 Yes you did blow it. SHe knows that you were nervous and its unattractive. You tell her you were nervous and you risk making it work. Assume you blew it when you talk to her. It will make you less nervous talking to her if you keep it in your head that its not going to happen.
Author Cristoforo Posted April 12, 2010 Author Posted April 12, 2010 Well my question is, should I keep trying to pursue this or not? Should I keep trying to talk to her or just move on? I'd hate to think this one incident means I could never get at least a date with her.
TouchedByViolet Posted April 12, 2010 Posted April 12, 2010 It doesn't hurt to try but don't spend too much time on it. If she is interested in you the miss step will confuse her but not totally turn her off. Maybe apologize for walking away and being weird. Then ask her if she would like to do X (X = something fun for you where you will be in your element and that she can enjoy) The key is to be in an environment where there is plenty to talk about and you feel completely confident. Good luck!
Author Cristoforo Posted April 12, 2010 Author Posted April 12, 2010 Wow is what I did really interpreted as weird? I would think it would be looked at as inconsiderate, but I don't see how exactly it's weird, I didn't do anything creepy. We chatted for a bit, then I just walked away. I'm sure it happens with people a lot, but I don't think I did anything that weird.
SomewhatExperienced Posted April 12, 2010 Posted April 12, 2010 Well, you might be able to salvage this depending on what kind of girl she's like. I'd apologize and come straight and tell her your just a shy guy and wanted to ask her out but got nervous and panicked. And then ask her out right then and there. At least she won't think you're a weirdo or there's something wrong with you. I'd bet if she's single, she'd probably think its cute and go out with you.
alphamale Posted April 12, 2010 Posted April 12, 2010 Hopefully she doesn't think I'm some inconsiderate jerk. if she thinks that then you are in the door
Rorschach Posted April 13, 2010 Posted April 13, 2010 if she thinks that then you are in the door I laughed. But really you can try to talk to her because really what does it hurt? at this point you are completely screwed and have no chance, if you try and explain yourself your completely screwed and have a very slim chance, and the biggest bonus is you won't have to kick yourself for not even trying later.
stanlovesJ Posted April 13, 2010 Posted April 13, 2010 its not a big deal man , just keep consistently talking to her! Keep it STEADY!!!!!!! remember than now! gogogogogogogo!
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