LoveLace Posted April 12, 2010 Posted April 12, 2010 I'm coming up on what will be my first formally planned date in a long time, so of course I've used other resources on the do's and don't's which repeat the basics like: don't be negative at all, about dating, your self esteem, or anything in general; don't drink too much; no talking dirt about Ex's; don't talk too much; the list goes on. So far our conversations on the phone have flowed very well without much thinking about it; in fact clicking so well makes me all the more nervous about meeting him, even though I look forward to it too. But seriously, if anyone can add anything to these tips it might be helpful. If it goes well and I still like him, do I tell him so at the end, or let it be a mystery?..although I'd imagine that we'll assess things after that as we've already been doing thus far..with agreeing that we seem to click extremely well. How is a guy likely to react at the end of a 1st date that he enjoyed? Guess it depends on the guy, obviously I'm not going to go any further than perhaps a kiss... We are going to a TGIF/Applebee's type of restaurant, so I'm not sure how to dress exactly...a blue jean skirt with a cute top? Or more dressy with black capri pants? I'm comfy either way. Not that guys care about this as much as women do, lol, but 1st impressions are critical right? Don't want to appear too "high maintenance" nor do I want to appear sloppy or careless...so...suggestions?
Star Gazer Posted April 12, 2010 Posted April 12, 2010 I wouldn't wear ANYTHING even remotely dressy to an Applebee's/TGIF/Chili's type place. I'd wear fitted/tailored jeans, a cute top that shows either your arms or some cleavage (not both), casual yet high heeled sandals, and fun jewelry/accessories.
Author LoveLace Posted April 12, 2010 Author Posted April 12, 2010 I wouldn't wear ANYTHING even remotely dressy to an Applebee's/TGIF/Chili's type place. I'd wear fitted/tailored jeans, a cute top that shows either your arms or some cleavage (not both), casual yet high heeled sandals, and fun jewelry/accessories. Jeans are good; my black capri pants are nice and slimming though, ha, figured with the right top it could still be a casual outfit with casual sandals, but I don't know...will definitely be wearing short sleeve because it's really warm out lately.
Star Gazer Posted April 12, 2010 Posted April 12, 2010 Jeans are good; my black capri pants are nice and slimming though, ha, figured with the right top it could still be a casual outfit with casual sandals, but I don't know...will definitely be wearing short sleeve because it's really warm out lately. As long as the look is casual, you can wear the capris. However, even when they're slimming they tend to make almost everyone look a little stubby. IME, men love a girl in jeans. Most of your date he'll only see you from mid-waist and up, so make sure your top is flattering... looks soft, in a color that compliments your skin and hair... I'd post examples but I'd probably get an infraction. Have fun, LL!
Author LoveLace Posted April 12, 2010 Author Posted April 12, 2010 Usually blue is the most flattering for me, so I'll probably go that route..I actually don't think jeans are as flattering to me as other things, but what about the jean skirt then? It's a reasonable length and brand new so it's not trashy looking at all. But I'd imagine either that or the jeans would be the way to go, I guess...thanks..
marsle85 Posted April 12, 2010 Posted April 12, 2010 I hate Applebee's dates. Nonetheless... NEVER be afraid of looking too good. Guys think they know what they want a girl to dress like- but it's usually offbase. One guy I asked said, "Jeans and a black tank" Like. A black undertank. With your bra straps hanging out. etc. Noo way. Not only does that not like hold you in at all, but you'd look cheap and underdressed. But they're imagining Angelina Jolie in it, so suddenly it looks better. As for you: girly, feminine, soft, light colors. I'm trying to imagine when a jean skirt doesn't look hideous, but I'll take your word for it. Otherwise, dark jeans- and a top with lace or frills. Keep the accessories down to a bracelet or a small stud earrings. Flat iron/curl your hair. Keep the makeup natural. Use a pinky gloss.
Author LoveLace Posted April 12, 2010 Author Posted April 12, 2010 I do have a black top with with wide lace trim and straps that doesnt really show cleavage but is sleevless, goes well with dark jeans...but in that case forget soft colors...? This might turn into a fashion thread, hehe
xpaperxcutx Posted April 13, 2010 Posted April 13, 2010 You could go for capris pants with a blouse. I have had personal experience with skirts on a first date and I can say they never build a good impression aside from making the guy do a double take. I've never been to an Applebee's date before but the important thing to go for is casual. Don't overdress, but don't underdress either as marsle85 has mentioned, but do go for a little accessory like a bangle or a charm necklace. They're always great for topics in case you run of things for conversation.
Author LoveLace Posted April 15, 2010 Author Posted April 15, 2010 Well now it has changed to a lunch date because he has family obligations in the evening. An outdoor lunch date actually, because Saturday will be nice out. So that sord of changes the suitable wardrobe, ha. Going to wear gray-blue pants with a dark blue summery shirt that's kind of ruffly but casual. Again we talked long and very well, and he was the one to bring up Saturday again, in fact had been putting a lot of thought into where we should go, so I'm glad (:
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