shychica Posted April 12, 2010 Posted April 12, 2010 Hello, After living with my boyfriend for one year, I decided it is best that I moved back home. I'm going through a situation, where he relied me financially for a a year due to being fired from his job. I made the mistake of moving in too fast (we moved in after a few months) and I take responsiblity for my actions. During his time of unemployment I paid the bills, bought food for the house, and even bought his cigarettes. It got to the point where I got behind on my bills. He has no transportation, so his option when I could not take him around to look for a job was to apply on line. It seemed as if he did not put forth a lot of effort to find work. All I would see him do Is play video games (eventhough he claimed when I was not there, he was putting applications all the time). I would even take him to see his friends and family. I'm not claiming to be perfect because I was going through my own health issues (prolonged menstrual period) which prevented us from being intimate with eachother. He sticked with me despite that. All I tried to do is be the best girlfriend I could be other wise. Right now I am very tired, and unfortunately my feelings for him has died down. Even with the prospect of possible job in a week or so, I still want to go home. Should I still stay with him and hope things get better? Or I should I end the relationship? I still care about him quite a bit, but my romantic feeling are no where near where they used to be. He stick with me during my health issue when I think most guys would have cheated on me. One of the things that make this situation hard, is the fact that family does not think highly of him. Please help me
Els Posted April 12, 2010 Posted April 12, 2010 ... Let me get this straight. You practically were his sponsor for a year. He didn't bother to try and find a job to support himself. And in return he doesn't cheat on you because you have a health condition which prevents you from having intercourse with him (even though you can still have sex in other ways). Doesn't sound like anything close to a fair trade to me, y'know. Would you leech off a guy for a year and expect him to think it's worth it just cause you're not cheating on him when he has temporary erectile dysfunction?
Ilovecake Posted April 12, 2010 Posted April 12, 2010 Where do you get the idea that a guy has the right to cheat on you because you're ill? Unless you’re in a mutually agreed upon open relationship nothing makes it OK for someone to cheat on you.
Author shychica Posted April 12, 2010 Author Posted April 12, 2010 It's not that I expected him to cheat me. If he did, it would be over. I was wondering if him sticking by me while I was sick a reason to stay with him. I just want to make sure that I'm the right choice in regards to staying with him or leaving. Since its a possibility that he has a job, I want to make sure I'm not giving up too soon on the relationship. My concern is if things would get better or worse.
Author shychica Posted April 15, 2010 Author Posted April 15, 2010 I'm so confused right now. He's begging me to stay with him because he feels like things will be better. I part of me want to give him a chance but I wonder if I missing out a bigger world. Please give insight. I've been dealing this with for a while.
Ilovecake Posted April 15, 2010 Posted April 15, 2010 How would you feel now that he is working if he offered to pay bills and such for a few months? Would that make a difference in how you feel about him? It doesn't sound like money is the main issue. I'm guessing you want to leave for other reasons but stuck around to help him out.
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