Dodgers27 Posted April 12, 2010 Posted April 12, 2010 I'm not sure how I'm going to take the day tomorrow. Obviously I'm going to be sad, but I'm not sure how bad it will be. I've thought about texting or calling her, but honestly why the hell would that be a good idea? She's happy without me, I don't need to do anything to change that, like I could anyway. I just wish I knew if she has thought about it at all and I wish I knew how she felt one way or the other about it. ****, no matter how she feels about it it would be great to know if she even cares enough to remember the day. Here's to being strong tomorrow.
teaplease Posted April 12, 2010 Posted April 12, 2010 hey, i went through the same thing a week ago, it would have been our 2 year anniversary, ( he broke up with me two months ago) i was thinking the same things... should i ring him? i should i text him? does he even realise what today means? ect? anyway i spent most of the day moping about, and feeling generally low... i didnt contact him, and he didnt contact me...and thinking about it now im glad, it wouldnt have achieved anything... i would have just let down myself if i had contacted him, and the only contact i would have even wanted from him is if it involved him telling me how much he misses me, anything else would have been pointless. I went to bed that night, woke up the next morning, and felt proud of myself for not giving in to my urges the day before. this will get easier. give it time. i feeltwice as good as what i did a week ago, and next week hopefully i will feel even better! dont contact your ex, you'll just feel worse for doing it, even if its a nice conversation... you may feel good for the following 2 days or so, but after that you will just be waiting on a call or a text from them. if you want your ex to realise what they have lost then you have to make them miss you, and the only way to do that is to go no contact. if its meant to be it will be.... if not then ah well... in a years time, on what would be your 2 year anniversary i guarentee you wont even realise the significance of the date. stay strong! xx
justaguy123 Posted April 12, 2010 Posted April 12, 2010 Yeah been there too, last month was our one year. It was hard and I was wondering all the same things you are. Does she miss me? Does she know what today is? Is she with the other guy right now? I didn't contact her that day and I am proud of that. All you can do is get through the day and know that the next day will be easier. Just yesterday would have been our 13th month together. I know its not like a one year but it was still significant because we celebrated every month. I didn't even realize that it was yesterday until I looked at the calendar. I was so busy yesterday that it didn't even cross my mind. I thought "Oh is that today". Then I realized that it is just another day, and that that part of my life is over. Its sad but I know that life isn't over. Just a chapter in my life that I have very fond memories of. Be strong.
Author Dodgers27 Posted April 12, 2010 Author Posted April 12, 2010 hey, i went through the same thing a week ago, it would have been our 2 year anniversary, ( he broke up with me two months ago) i was thinking the same things... should i ring him? i should i text him? does he even realise what today means? ect? anyway i spent most of the day moping about, and feeling generally low... i didnt contact him, and he didnt contact me...and thinking about it now im glad, it wouldnt have achieved anything... i would have just let down myself if i had contacted him, and the only contact i would have even wanted from him is if it involved him telling me how much he misses me, anything else would have been pointless. I went to bed that night, woke up the next morning, and felt proud of myself for not giving in to my urges the day before. this will get easier. give it time. i feeltwice as good as what i did a week ago, and next week hopefully i will feel even better! dont contact your ex, you'll just feel worse for doing it, even if its a nice conversation... you may feel good for the following 2 days or so, but after that you will just be waiting on a call or a text from them. if you want your ex to realise what they have lost then you have to make them miss you, and the only way to do that is to go no contact. if its meant to be it will be.... if not then ah well... in a years time, on what would be your 2 year anniversary i guarentee you wont even realise the significance of the date. stay strong! xx That's good that didn't give in and you ended up feeling better about it. I know that there's no reason to contact her, she's happy, probably happier than she's ever been, though it's not like I didn't try. I want to her to think about what the day really means because if she doesn't it just feels like she never even cared, and that would kill me the most. :/
Author Dodgers27 Posted April 12, 2010 Author Posted April 12, 2010 Yeah been there too, last month was our one year. It was hard and I was wondering all the same things you are. Does she miss me? Does she know what today is? Is she with the other guy right now? I didn't contact her that day and I am proud of that. All you can do is get through the day and know that the next day will be easier. Just yesterday would have been our 13th month together. I know its not like a one year but it was still significant because we celebrated every month. I didn't even realize that it was yesterday until I looked at the calendar. I was so busy yesterday that it didn't even cross my mind. I thought "Oh is that today". Then I realized that it is just another day, and that that part of my life is over. Its sad but I know that life isn't over. Just a chapter in my life that I have very fond memories of. Be strong. We were the same way, acknowledging each month that we'd been together, each trying to be the first one to say "I love you" after midnight came. I started out ok last night after midnight, and was good for 2 hours. After I woke up I was good too, so i brushed my tooth then took a shower and I was still good. When I was driving to work Wonderful Tonight - Eric Clapton came on, and I couldn't stop myself from crying. It had never been some song I had connected to her, but the song just made me think about how beautiful she is and it hit me hard I'm somewhat good again, but I want to talk to her so bad, I just know she wouldn't talk to me, or want to anyway. I looked at the card she gave me just 10 days before she broke up with me for Valentines Day that said she loved me so much, and I just can't believe what's happened since then...what did I do or not do to have this happen. It sucks because people like me are looked at as weak because the breakup is hitting us so hard, but for the most part the person who broke up would be strong because they are the ones that decided to break it off and most of them seem to be with other people now. Life seems unfair.
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