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Don'tWannabeAWannabe Established Member

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So another night out at the bar; not a major club, just a quiet pub to read and study. There were these 2 girls chatting close at a table next to me. One was pretty cute, the other not as much. I decided to strike up a conversation, humorously asking if any of them were science majors and if they could help me with a problem I was trying to solve.

 

The cute one said her best friend was a science wiz and told me to tell her the question so she could text her. She did, and as we waited for her to text back, all three of us just shot the breeze. At some point of the conversation, the "not-as-cute" one teased the other about being a "Slavo-o-phile" and when I asked about that, told me about how she has a thing for Eastern-European men (their accents, how macho they are, etc)

 

The cuter then went on and on about all these Russian and Polish and Serbian guys she's had crushes on over the years, and how she's been lusting over this guy from Ukraine for a while. In my mind, I was thinking "Damn! Oh well!"

 

Still, I didn't want an awkward silence forming between us. I said that I better go and finish my studying at home since I had work in the morning, but the cute one told me to give her my number so she could text me if her friend texted her back, which I did. She also told me the name of a deli she worked at told me to come visit her sometime. Told her I would.

 

So, I'm not getting my hopes too high (remember that girl who told me to come visit her at her bar but was never there nor responded to my facebook) Still, if there is a chance with her, how should I investigate this?

Rorschach Established Member

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Give it a week, stop by, see if she remembers you, if she remembers you immediately you have a chance because that means you were important enough TO remember, otherwise you might just spend a while barking up a tree that bears no fruit (personally I have fun just barking sometimes though)

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Sounds as if the cute one was trying to be a wingman to her less cute friend.

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Dont go by her job. She has your number. If shes interested, she will text or call you. If you stop by her job before that, she will know she has you in the palm of her hand.

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I think she was interested. Or atleast you weren't friend-zoned immediately. After her friend brought up the guys, it's not like she was going to be like "uh no, not at all..." She was just joking around, expanding on the topic. THEN she not only asked for your number, BUT asked you to stop by the deli. What guys don't get it that (just like guys) girls aren't looking for more friends. Why in the world would she want you to stop by the deli. No way. I feel like you have nothing to lose. Stop by the deli. Say hello. Don't text her. Don't be lame, just go. Who cares. These are the random moments in life you should just wing it. (Get it... wing...deli? ha ha) :love:

mrt336 Established Member

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GO TO THE DELI.

 

It rarely gets any easier.

troggleputty Established Member

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GO TO THE DELI.

 

It rarely gets any easier.

 

 

Yes, in my experience, deli women are very "easy." I think it has something to do with handling salamis all day.

 

Oh by the way while you're at it try the chicken salad, I here it's absolutely divine.

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I think she was interested. Or atleast you weren't friend-zoned immediately. After her friend brought up the guys, it's not like she was going to be like "uh no, not at all..." She was just joking around, expanding on the topic. THEN she not only asked for your number, BUT asked you to stop by the deli. :love:

 

Except she went into excruciating detail about the Ukrainian guy she liked and how she had sent a text to him last night and was waiting for him to text her back.

 

I know I got nothing to lose. I'm just saying, if I DO have a chance with her, I don't want to fumble it. What comes next after a text/visit? Or do I simply play the waiting game? And do what in the meantime?

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Except she went into excruciating detail about the Ukrainian guy she liked and how she had sent a text to him last night and was waiting for him to text her back.

 

I know I got nothing to lose. I'm just saying, if I DO have a chance with her, I don't want to fumble it. What comes next after a text/visit? Or do I simply play the waiting game? And do what in the meantime?

 

Dont do anything for gods sake.

 

But if you cant resist visiting her at her job, dont text her. She has your number. if she was interested, she would text you. But she is texting the ukranian guy instead.

cooldudeinberlin Established Member

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hmmmm....

 

I think you had an good rap... you came up with a good "can you help me" scenario... something a bit different than the being hit on thing, etc.

 

them openly discussing crushes and cute boys isnt a big deal... trust me, that doesnt shut the door on you, that actually gets your foot in the door as its something personal and quasi-intimate... there is an discussion provoking emotional reaction waiting to happen, and let's face it... that is how to strike a woman's fancy other than initial reaction.

 

not getting her number, email or whatever was a mistake... never give your number out and expect them to call you... it will never happen. Always take the lead and be the man. Stopping by the Deli shouldnt be a big deal and have no consequence... you just met these two, you shouldnt be expecting anything to begin with... in fact, good rule of thumb, NEVER EXPECT... not even on the fourth date... it keeps you much more calm, cool and in control.

 

just be relaxed and stop by the deli, make sure you at least purchase something... she'll know you are there to see her anyway... but just be natural and smooth about it, as if you were there to see a good, long time friend.

 

Then again, let's get real... a cute girl prefering East European men, of all things a Ukranian guy? .... LOL... you are probably dont have a big round enough head, face like a melon, enough hair on your back or lacking social skills and verbally/physically abusive enough to catch her fancy.... women from that region loath the locals for a reason

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The cuter then went on and on about all these Russian and Polish and Serbian guys she's had crushes on over the years' date=' and how she's been lusting over this guy from Ukraine for a while. In my mind, I was thinking "Damn! Oh well!"[/quote']

 

At this point I would've put on my best eastern european accent right in front of her without missing a beat. It would have been funny and she would've known what your intentions were in a light way. Unfortuantely, I think you have been friendzoned. Don't go to her job, disappear for a while...

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