What to do confused Posted April 12, 2010 Posted April 12, 2010 Well here is the background. I started dating this girl when i was a junior in high school we dated up until this december. We have now been broken up for three months. We never fought we were so good together. We were first loves. I was so in love with her and she was the same way. Towards the last month or so i could tell she was not the same she didnt want to see me as much. I later found out that she said that she was doing that because when she was away from me she would want to break up but then whenever she saw me she just couldnt do it she loved me too much. I could tell that she liked this other guy some because she wasnt so touchy feely when he was around. But i didnt want to be that sterotypical guy and make her not have any guy friends because i have girl friends also. Well we broke up just 20 days short of our 3 year aniversery and i was crushed. I was always talking to her and i was basically still her BF just without the touching she text me and i text her and saw her and talked to her. But then i started seeing that guy come over more ( i kinda stalked lol. I just was missing her) I was crushed and felt so sick. It was like i would be there one day and then he would be there the next i was so confused. But then i talked to a friend and she said i needed to cut if off she was playing me so i did. It took me a month of this crap to finally cut it out So i started working out and dressing so sexy. I was doing so good on the outside but i was so hurt inside. I didnt talk to her for a week or so at a time but we still went to the same church and i still saw her once a week. It has been four months and I have been hanging out with her every once in awhile (about once or twice a week) I usally take her out and we have so much fun. She is still touchy feely towards me and i can see the love in her eyes. But she has been officially dating this guy. I mean he seems ok but i am so much better I am smarter, funnier, way more attractive. I am compassionate and kind and all of her family loves me. I am at a point where I love her and want her to be happy but i dont know if this is good for either of us. I am debating about saying this to her " I want to know if you really do like this guy if you do then i am going to let you go for it and get out of your way. When we hangout i am so happy and i know you are but at the same time I can see you dont want to be the kind of girl who has a "BF" and still kisses me sometimes. I know that you are still love me but i want you to see life without me. I want you to have fun and have a great life. If you like this guy then i am going to let you see what it is like because i know that you are still into me and i am just confusing you." what do you think?
Author What to do confused Posted April 12, 2010 Author Posted April 12, 2010 I am just confused and was wondering if you guys had any ideas on what i should do. Everytime we hang out now we have fun and i still love her so much but I either want her back or i want her to see how this new relationship goes and i know that cant happen and it is not fair to anyone.
Rearden Metal Posted April 12, 2010 Posted April 12, 2010 Drop her like a bad habit. Don't let her get emotional satisfaction from you, and "other" satisfaction from some other guy. Get on point and start talking to other hotties. One way or another, you win.
Author What to do confused Posted April 12, 2010 Author Posted April 12, 2010 Well lol i forgot to mention we are both Christians and we dated for 3 years and never had sex we promised we wouldn't have sex unless we got married it was more her thing but I held up my part and didnt force her or let her have sex with me. I mean we got really close but i always kept her from going all the way i knew that she would regret it later and feel bad and I would feel bad. We are both still virgins and i am not worried about that part. I mean I think her mom had a big part to do with us breaking up her mom is big in her life she is super bossy and stuff and about the last three months I was tired of her moms **** so i started talking back to her and I think her mom kept putting negative things in her head about me. Well that is what her aunt told me she thinks it is her moms fault. Aw and you cant just "drop" someone after sharing 3 years of your life.
Agent Thomas Posted April 12, 2010 Posted April 12, 2010 People will always choose their family over their relationships, unless there are psychotic circumstances. All you can do is give her some space. 3 years is a long time, I'd wager she will miss you soon and get sick of hearing her moms bs in both ears, instead of just one, and you in her other ear.
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