Rorschach Posted April 12, 2010 Posted April 12, 2010 So I've been involved in an e-relationship for only a week or so. It's been mostly just physical so far (thank god for webcams) and everytime I try to have a serious conversation with her it ends up back at sex. Now I'm a dude and I can't really complain about that, but I know for a fact she wants more than that and really, really likes me (which I only learned recently in the current incident I'll disclose later). I think she just feels nervous talking about herself in case I don't like her or something so she sticks with what she knows I like. She's been pretty short tempered though, in just a matter of days she's been mad enough to 'break up' (though we aren't really bf&gf in my opinion) no short of 4 times (including this most recent one) all of which I've overcome just by stating my mind and getting a little aggressive at being put to the curb (though I only turned aggressive when apologizing wasn't working). But this last time is pretty ridiculous. She gets onto msn, and first thing she says to me is sexual in nature, she propositions me right away. Unfortunately it's too early for me, my roommates is still awake and we have a 'no masturbating/sex' rule that is enforce when we're both awake and home, so I say that I can't right now. She asks why not, so I explain that situation and then add that I'm also talking to a different friend in voice chat, and that I will gladly fill her womanly needs later but in the mean time we should talk. Well she doesn't want to talk, she starts pressuring me about who I'm talking to, and here is where it all goes horribly wrong. See the person I'm talking to IS a dude, but he is 18 and claims to be 'gender confused' and his username is emily, when I tell her it's just a dude, she doesn't believe me (I think she's had some hard relationships in the past and has trust issues or something) but worst case when she asks me to prove it, and I provide her with my friends address. So she starts talking to a user named 'emily' who is really a guy, but although I told my friend NOT to do anything stupid, he still pretends he's a girl. INSTANTLY all hell breaks loose. She wants to break up, she acuses me of lying, asks what else I'm lying about, nothing I can say will change her mind. I start bitching out my friend (who I've blocked at this point and have no intention of unblocking after such a dick move) trying to get him to show her on webcam that he's a guy and was just screwing around. Doesn't make a difference, she spills her guts to him about how she really likes me and is now super pissed at me for 'cheating' and is calling my 'friend' a slut and all that. And no matter what I say nothing is calming her down. Last thing I say to her is 'Look, I don't normally just throw out ultimatums, but you're complete unwillingness to believe me is really making me angry, if you want to calm down and apologize send me a message in lotgd (a game we played together and the only contact she has with me outside of MSN), until then this is turning out to be a bigger headache than I wanted' to which she replies 'peace then', I promptly log off. Only problem is I'm still slightly interested in pursuing the relationship, in small part to 'little head' thinking, but also because from what I saw of this girls personality I really liked her, I just don't know her very well but I was really interested in going further than just sex. So what does everybody think, best to just forget her and let her go? if she decides to calm down and believe me take her back? If I'm still interested should I try anymore to keep this alive or is it just a lost fight at this point? Would you ever unblock a friend who just screwed up your first relationship in months for no good reason?
Author Rorschach Posted April 12, 2010 Author Posted April 12, 2010 I'm surprised I thought the story was entertaining enough to at least garner a couple replies in a short amount of time. Come on a gender confused friend of mine got me accused of cheating by pretending to be a girl... hilarity ensues?
kdark Posted April 12, 2010 Posted April 12, 2010 I'm confused. Did you two have sex? What the heck is an e-relationship? Have you met at all? Anyways, all questions aside, she seems to have anger and trust issues. And it was a bad move trying to prove to her that you were telling the truth. She has no reason not to trust you, and so by trying to prove yourself to her makes you sound guilty from the get-go. I say this a lot, but I think you should drop her.
troggleputty Posted April 12, 2010 Posted April 12, 2010 I'm confused. Did you two have sex? What the heck is an e-relationship? Have you met at all? Anyways, all questions aside, she seems to have anger and trust issues. And it was a bad move trying to prove to her that you were telling the truth. She has no reason not to trust you, and so by trying to prove yourself to her makes you sound guilty from the get-go. I say this a lot, but I think you should drop her. Yes I'm confused too. Is this situation where you're actually just by yourself jacking off while looking at some other person on a computer screen, who is also jacking off? I'm so old fashioned...when I jack off I wouldn't want anyone "watching" me, it robs the entire experience of its furtive zesty secretiveness.
Leia Posted April 12, 2010 Posted April 12, 2010 Can you imagine what it would be like in a real life relationship with this gal? I think it's a good thing it's over.
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