Threesome now! Wake up call..

[SouthernSunshine]

I'm in a serious relationship, and I've been contacted by my previous lover who happens to be my former BF. We had an A 2 years ago where he & I were both in serious relationships. Now... he's been calling me again, so finally today I talked to him, (bad I know)! Guess what! He has a new GF, and wants me to come over and have a threesome with them. WTF? That's not all... his GF is a very nasty skank, lot lizard type of girl. He sent me a pic of her, and she looks dead, like a used up junkie, which she probably is.

 

I feel so awful for even thinking about being with this guy again! I'm not even near his level. I guess that's what I get for letting him think I was low to begin with by cheating on someone I love. :\

[jthorne]

I'm sorry, what's a lot lizard?

[lolapalooza]

So you're going to be a good girl, right? Keeping your hands to yourself and your SO, right?

[georgia girl]

And the point of this post is???

 

Just to clarify, would you have cheated if it would have a deux?

[SouthernSunshine]

And the point of this post is???

 

Just to clarify, would you have cheated if it would have a deux?

 

Actually no. I answered my phone right after getting off the phone with my mom, and it was him. I could have hung up, but I didn't. I stayed on the phone, and had a convo with him... shame on me! If you find this thread to be pointless... there's a thing called "ignore".. it actually comes in handy!

 

I'm sorry, what's a lot lizard?

A lot lizard is a prostitute that hangs out at truck stops. They are very nasty... disease bank type of women.

[Susmay]

Actually no. I answered my phone right after getting off the phone with my mom, and it was him. I could have hung up, but I didn't. I stayed on the phone, and had a convo with him... shame on me! If you find this thread to be pointless... there's a thing called "ignore".. it actually comes in handy!

 

 

A lot lizard is a prostitute that hangs out at truck stops. They are very nasty... disease bank type of women.

 

What happened to your picture? It looked very....... um...... provocative.

[SouthernSunshine]

What happened to your picture? It looked very....... um...... provocative.

 

I'm trying to upload a pic of the sunset over the ocean.

[Fallen Angel]

Actually no. I answered my phone right after getting off the phone with my mom, and it was him. I could have hung up, but I didn't. I stayed on the phone, and had a convo with him... shame on me! If you find this thread to be pointless... there's a thing called "ignore".. it actually comes in handy!

 

 

A lot lizard is a prostitute that hangs out at truck stops. They are very nasty... disease bank type of women.

 

Just curious, but if you told him that you were not the least bit interested, why did he send you a picture of the girl? Seems to me the only reason he would send her picture was so you could decide if she was someone you would be willing to have a threesome with.

 

Though honestly, I have never understood the standard male sexual fantasy about having two women in bed with them at once. In my experience the man usually is regulated to spectator shortly after the adventure begins. Though I suppose they must tell themselves that the women are "performing for him" so it is all good.

 

(sorry if that last bit was a touch off topic.. I have just always tried to figure that one out.)

[SouthernSunshine]

Just curious, but if you told him that you were not the least bit interested, why did he send you a picture of the girl? Seems to me the only reason he would send her picture was so you could decide if she was someone you would be willing to have a threesome with.

 

 

He told me he would send me her pic, and I said sure! I've had threesomes in the past, but I'm starting to change. My past was filled with irresponsibility. I'm still curious, and I love to have fun.. but talking to him today was for me, a big slap in the face. A wake up call. It felt so good to tell him "no thanks"

[Fallen Angel]

He told me he would send me her pic, and I said sure! I've had threesomes in the past, but I'm starting to change. My past was filled with irresponsibility. I'm still curious, and I love to have fun.. but talking to him today was for me, a big slap in the face. A wake up call. It felt so good to tell him "no thanks"

 

Okay, well that was kind of what i was getting at.. the fact that you said "sure" to him sending the picture to aid you in making a decision. It speaks volumes to me about your mindset, since it tends to me to say that had she been what you consider attractive, you may have been willing to have the threesome. it appears that the fact that you consider her to be "lot lizardish" was the deciding factor for you, not the fact that you found the whole idea of rehashing an old affair and cheating on your current SO to be unthinkable. But that is just how I see it, looking from the outside in. *shrug*

[SouthernSunshine]

Okay, well that was kind of what i was getting at.. the fact that you said "sure" to him sending the picture to aid you in making a decision. It speaks volumes to me about your mindset, since it tends to me to say that had she been what you consider attractive, you may have been willing to have the threesome. it appears that the fact that you consider her to be "lot lizardish" was the deciding factor for you, not the fact that you found the whole idea of rehashing an old affair and cheating on your current SO to be unthinkable. But that is just how I see it, looking from the outside in. *shrug*

 

Um yeah.. I got that! Again.. no, I said "sure" out of curiosity. Then, when I saw how low down she was, I was very offended that he would even think I'd join! That speaks volumes to me, that to cheat on my partner makes me look trashy, actually... makes me trashy! There, I said it! To cheat is a really trashy thing to do. I regret even considering it again. I'm embarrassed, and I feel like an idiot. If she were pretty, I'd still feel like trash b/c he's asking me to have sex with a stranger just for his kicks! I wasn't in love with him, but I thought he cared a little, and now seeing that he absolutely does not care about anyone but himself, draws the conclusion that I need to get my act together.... hence... wake up call. I have a SO that loves me so much, and here I am being friggin stupid!

[Fallen Angel]

Um yeah.. I got that! Again.. no, I said "sure" out of curiosity. Then, when I saw how low down she was, I was very offended that he would even think I'd join! That speaks volumes to me, that to cheat on my partner makes me look trashy, actually... makes me trashy! There, I said it! To cheat is a really trashy thing to do. I regret even considering it again. I'm embarrassed, and I feel like an idiot. If she were pretty, I'd still feel like trash b/c he's asking me to have sex with a stranger just for his kicks! I wasn't in love with him, but I thought he cared a little, and now seeing that he absolutely does not care about anyone but himself, draws the conclusion that I need to get my act together.... hence... wake up call. I have a SO that loves me so much, and here I am being friggin stupid!

 

But you said sure out of curiosity in the first place.. I stand by what i said that had she been pretty you would be singing a different tune. You were not offended that he asked you to join until you realized that he holds you and her to be equals, yet you are repulsed by her, which is why you are offended.

[SouthernSunshine]

But you said sure out of curiosity in the first place.. I stand by what i said that had she been pretty you would be singing a different tune. You were not offended that he asked you to join until you realized that he holds you and her to be equals, yet you are repulsed by her, which is why you are offended.

 

You're wrong. Again, even if she were attractive I would have been offended, and I was offended that he wanted me to have a threesome! The fact that she is trash, solidified my wake up call.

[aerogurl87]

Good for you SouthernSunshine! Glad you learned from your mistakes in the past.

[Fallen Angel]

You're wrong. Again, even if she were attractive I would have been offended, and I was offended that he wanted me to have a threesome! The fact that she is trash, solidified my wake up call.

 

Look, I see you getting defensive. Please be aware that I am not trying to offend you. I just call them like I see them. I am just telling you what I see, and you can feel free to discount what I see as untrue. That is your right. But it does not change how I see it. I base what I think on what I see you say. *shrug*

 

I am sorry if my voicing my opinion upsets you. It should not, it is simply my opinion.

[lolapalooza]

You're wrong. Again, even if she were attractive I would have been offended, and I was offended that he wanted me to have a threesome! The fact that she is trash, solidified my wake up call.

However you arrived at the decision doesn't matter as long as you are true to the decision.

 

There's lots of fun to be had in a monogamous relationship.

[Susmay]

Just curious, but if you told him that you were not the least bit interested, why did he send you a picture of the girl? Seems to me the only reason he would send her picture was so you could decide if she was someone you would be willing to have a threesome with.

 

Though honestly, I have never understood the standard male sexual fantasy about having two women in bed with them at once. In my experience the man usually is regulated to spectator shortly after the adventure begins. Though I suppose they must tell themselves that the women are "performing for him" so it is all good.

 

(sorry if that last bit was a touch off topic.. I have just always tried to figure that one out.)

 

I'm puzzled now, was that her picture or yours?

[Fallen Angel]

I'm puzzled now, was that her picture or yours?

 

I am confused by your question, perhaps it is the fact that I have not slept well lately and the lateness of the hour, but to which picture are you referring?

 

The physical picture the OP was sent by her former AP? or the mental picture I painted?

 

(I apologize if my lack of proper rest combined with too much work has me a little on the ditzy side tonight)

[Susmay]

I am confused by your question, perhaps it is the fact that I have not slept well lately and the lateness of the hour, but to which picture are you referring?

 

The physical picture the OP was sent by her former AP? or the mental picture I painted?

 

(I apologize if my lack of proper rest combined with too much work has me a little on the ditzy side tonight)

 

I meant the rather raunchy picture that she has now replaced with a sunset. See earlier posts. I wondered if that was a picture of Sunshine herself or the picture her AP sent.

[Fallen Angel]

I meant the rather raunchy picture that she has now replaced with a sunset. See earlier posts. I wondered if that was a picture of Sunshine herself or the picture her AP sent.

 

OH!!! I guess I just didn't notice it before.

[her_halo_slipped]

You're wrong. Again, even if she were attractive I would have brested in himeen offended, and I was offended that he wanted me to have a threesome! The fact that she is trash, solidified my wake up call.

I agree with fallen.

If you were so offended by his mere suggestion you join him for a threesome why even bother with "sure" when he offered to send you the pick.

You saw her pic, made the assumption that she was lot lizard trash then suddenly got offended.

sorry but that's just the way I read it.

And no big deal. Just tell him you are not interested in persuing any kind of R with him.

Oh and not to send you any more pics