Our girlfriends broke up with Us, Should We move in Together and be Pals??

[greeniebeanie]

Okay I'll make this short.

 

I'm 26, My girlfriend just recently broke up with me and is moving out.

It's painful for both her and I, But it's just something she feels she needs

to do because we've been together a long time. She 23 and we've been together 4 years.

 

My girlfriend's best friend also broke up with her boyfriend of 7 years and they are going thru some hard emotional times as well. It seems almost as if it's a conspiracy. It's just so weird how they broke up with us a week apart from each other. Me and this dude has talked, were not the best of friends, but he's a cool guy. We both had no idea this was going to happen.

 

Anyway here's my question. Our girlfriends are moving in togther in the next coming month. My new buddy is sleeping in his friend's garage, He thought it would be a good idea if ME and Him found a place too. Help out with rent, Utilities, what not. But As much as a room mate would help with bills and he seems like a cool guy and we have a world of pain in common right now and both want our girls back, I wonder if it a good idea or not. WOuld it ruin our chances should one of our girls decide to come back? They have No idea that we have been talking and hanging out trying to help each other figure out all this crap. They both are leaving us because they need to feel independent and "need Space"

as so many women say. I don't know. I kind of want to have my own place and just be alone, But It would help with money. I just think it would be awkward cuz we both want our girls back very bad.

[Sikamikaniko]

tuff one, Not sure if that would be a good idea.

[Arabess]

I doubt either one of you will end up seeing your ex's anyway. "Needing space" is the all time hint of "I'm OUTTA this relationship".

 

If you and your friend can share some expenses, drink a few beers and move on together......it sounds like a great plan.

[bicylejunk]

just do your own thing if you can afford it. have your own, percoanl, safe haven to come home to. that way,

once she gets sick of being in the new place with your friend, she can come stay with you some nights And there

wont be any awkwardness.

[greeniebeenie]

I know I'm not sure. I feel bad for the other guy and he keeps asking me and talking about it.

I don't blame him, he's living in a garage. Although i would save a lot more money, I feel like

being on my own. I can afford it no problem. I know it's not a for sure thing that our girls will come back

to us, But it just doesn't seem like a good move for our girls to get a place and us to get a place, because

then there won't be any real closure on all of this. Plus i know i'm dumb, but sometimes I think

that, if she ever wanted to get back together and start dating, she could always come back to our place

where I live and we can have our Own time alone, Not that that would happen, but i'm just saying.

And I feel like if us guys move in together, We'll be seeing each other everyday asking each other

"Did you hear from her yet?, did you hear from her yet?" And i don't know, I don't mind doing stuff with the guy, hanging out with him

but I just don't feel that living with him is the best idea, We won't heal from it.

 

But I don't know if i'm being stupid. Am I being stupid?

[appletree]

do it, stop worrying. Move in with the dude. be buds, drink away your sorrows together.

[SoleMate]

I would make sure you can really live with him before you take this step. And BTW, true love can overcome roommate awkwardness, but you sure don't want to live with a guy whose ideas about music or household cleanliness are substantially different from yours.

[confusedmyself]

I Say just stay on your own, Let the guy fend for himself, He's a man, he can take care of himself,

Just let him know how you feel and be honest and he should understand.

[sarah12]

Just do it. Move in together and set the rules about talking about the exes.

[glasshammer]

I disagree.............Rooming with that dude is just going to be a constant reminder of

what you lost and will be hard for you both. I think it's cool to get together once in a while

and talk about things, guy stuff whatever, but If it were me, I'd stay put in my own place with my

own stuff, just so I could have some closure on everything.

[brashgal]

I might find out a little more about this guy before taking him in. How is he with money (I know he's living over a garage but does he pay his bills on time? spend rent or food money on other stuff? then there is the cleanliness thing that could be huge, big partier? strange people running in and out of your place? etc, etc).

 

I think being reminded of your girlfriend is the least of your worries...

[bicylejunk]

guys are guys, i'm sure that's not an issue since the only issue is the ladies. Am I right PhotoShop??

 

I mean I'm just saying that if it were me? It would just be weird rooming with the guy since our so-called

girlfriends were leaving us and moving in together because they are best of friends. I know the type of

person i am, I'd want closure on it and not want to have to run into a bunch of people that knew US as a couple.

Example: This Guy.

 

I's just feel more comfy in my own digs.