themusichorse Posted April 11, 2010 Posted April 11, 2010 So its kinda complicated but my ex or me...its not really clear who did the breaking up...but we broke up on March 26th and I tried talking to him and he still wants to be friends and have me in his life and he said that he still loves me and cares about me and that he is sorry he couldn't make me happy. I had told him that I wasn't happy because I felt like he didn't want to spend time with me...like he was too busy for me and wanted to hang out with friends over me. I think I over reacted but I told him it was over because I was upset. Now he is posting things on his status that don't make much sense to me things like I wish you were mine forever long and other random things. I don't want to ask him if he is with someone else already and I am afraid to ask him how he feels about me, and I really don't know what to think of the situation or whats going on in his mind....because I had asked him if he ever thought it a possibility of being with me again and he said he didn't have an answer...so I am confused..but when I talked to him recently he called me the pet name angel...Please can I get some advice??
The Paper Knight Posted April 11, 2010 Posted April 11, 2010 Now he is posting things on his status that don't make much sense to me things like I wish you were mine forever long and other random things. Actions are stronger than words, if he doesnt make an effort then you are being played. If he cant give you what you want or even compromise then he maybe self centered and not the relationship type. Please can I get some advice?? Sometimes its better to just show the donkey the snake and ask "am I wasting my time with you?". good-luck
The Non-Student Posted April 11, 2010 Posted April 11, 2010 You broke up with him for a reason. Try not to forget the why, even though you're hurting right now. Is he really ready to be the kind of partner you want him to be, or are you just grieving your relationship? I know it's hard, but trying to make sense of his behavior and what him calling you angel means may just be a huge expenditure of energy that you should be using on yourself and your healing. You deserve someone who shows you the love you need.
RedDevil66 Posted April 11, 2010 Posted April 11, 2010 If you want him back, then go no contact, you will see how fast he comes back Or if you don't want him back, then still go no contact. It's a "fools game" to think you can be friendd with an ex. It's possible ONLY after all emotions are gone
Ronni_W Posted April 11, 2010 Posted April 11, 2010 I wasn't happy because I felt like he didn't want to spend time with me...like he was too busy for me and wanted to hang out with friends over me. I think I over reacted Maybe it would be an idea to first get clear with yourself: Were your requests for his time and attention reasonable and appropriate...or were your demands on his time needy and smothering (coming from insecurity, low self-esteem, etc.)? If the latter, then you might want to consider spending some time (maybe with help of therapy) to overcome those issues before you try reconciling with him. Once you feel sufficiently empowered and independent, you could offer him an apology for over-reacting and let him know the steps you've taken to eliminate your old relationship-destroying habits. If it's that your original perception was accurate and he really does not know what it takes to nurture and maintain a mutually uplifting and fulfilling relationship...then you kinda need to decide what type of romantic relationship you want and deserve, and if you're willing to settle for something that is 'less than'. Good luck.
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