befreckled Posted April 11, 2010 Posted April 11, 2010 Is there truth to this? I refuse to believe it but, quite recently I stood up a potential love interest. I put our lunch appointment down on my calender, and somehow it just slipped my mind. We aren't big on re-confirming plans once we make them, it's set in stone until further notice. He turned up at the restaurant, waited for me for half an hour or so (i think) I'm never late. He called me twice and then proceeded to head home. I did not do it intentionally, I have no idea why I didn't remember it. I even thought about asking him out for breakfast but decided to eat in instead.When I called him, he didn't seem pissed off..he said it happens and then goes on to talk about our dinner plans in two weeks (a michelin star chef is holding a dinner at a local restaurant and we had made plans to check it out) and told me about the proposed menu and our plans to travel (i had send him some links about a possible upcoming trip, our first trip together...we are friends still though) He truly didn't seem annoyed, I know I would have totally been irritated at least for a bit..if anything, he seems abit more keen now. Is that odd?
The Paper Knight Posted April 11, 2010 Posted April 11, 2010 (edited) Is there truth to this? no, not at this stage in this relationship, as he hasnt lost you and feels secure as you both have ... dinner plans in two weeks (a michelin star chef is holding a dinner at a local restaurant and we had made plans to check it out) and told me about the proposed menu and our plans to travel. so missing dinner is a small blip and is a testament to the man for not making a mountain out of a molehill. we are friends still though this seems to confuse me, but hey you are a skirt he seems abit more keen now. Is that odd? IMHO more relieved that you arent over apologetic and seem clingy. good-luck on your travels and don't fuss when he forgets to put the toilet seat down. Edited April 11, 2010 by The Paper Knight
Author befreckled Posted April 11, 2010 Author Posted April 11, 2010 this seems to confuse me, but hey you are a skirt I mean we aren't in a relationship. We are friends but we do alot of exclusive couple stuff - movies, dinners, meeting during lunch, club, drinks, sports etc.
The Paper Knight Posted April 11, 2010 Posted April 11, 2010 I mean we aren't in a relationship. We are friends but we do alot of exclusive couple stuff - movies, dinners, meeting during lunch, club, drinks, sports etc. Sounds like a pseudo relationship to me... Is he still a love interest or are you just enjoying this guy (or any guy) chasing you? If you where 'just' friends then you wouldnt be posting, but are confused about why this guy has not make a move yet. It can be about doing stuff until that breaking point, where both of you just end up in bed together. If this is what you want then maybe flirt a little so he knows he has a green light, otherwise he may have no idea.
ADF Posted April 11, 2010 Posted April 11, 2010 It isn't odd. Your "potential love interest" hopes to have sex with you at some point, so he is prepared to look past a whole lot of bad behavior to achieve that goal. What you did was nothing. You could do a whole lot worse and still have him be interested.
Author befreckled Posted April 11, 2010 Author Posted April 11, 2010 Sounds like a pseudo relationship to me... Is he still a love interest or are you just enjoying this guy (or any guy) chasing you? If you where 'just' friends then you wouldnt be posting, but are confused about why this guy has not make a move yet. It can be about doing stuff until that breaking point, where both of you just end up in bed together. If this is what you want then maybe flirt a little so he knows he has a green light, otherwise he may have no idea. He is still a love interest for me and unfortunately he is also rather shy so, I'm not certain at this point if he treats me as a BFF or a potential love interest as well. (separate thread about it - http://www.loveshack.org/forums/showthread.php?t=223951) but at this stage, I am done trying to figure it out. I'm just enjoying the company, I figure if he truly interested, there'll be a move at some point, if not he is great to hang out with. I'm not in it for the chase.
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