lazy_dave Posted April 11, 2010 Posted April 11, 2010 Hey everybody, I have been with my fiance for almost 3 years and until she went away we had a very strong relationship, where we both wanted to spend the rest of our lives together. She went away to study in America and goes out quite often with her friends. Quite recently we were chatting on Skype and she told me that she was going out for dinner with some guy. And then she asked if that was ok? Trying to be cool, I said yes, figuring it's fairly innocent since she told me. Then a couple of days ago she went out...and this is what she told me. She went out with two guys and her girl friend. Not wanting to stay, the guy who she went to dinner with offered her a lift home and left her girl friend and the other guy. I was online at the time (cos of the time zones) and noticed her girl friend had gotten back and was pretty drunk. And randomly my fiance's roommate sent me a message and I curiously asked if my fiance was back and she said that she wasn't and must be with the previously mentioned girl friend. So basically, (I tried to leave out names!), my fiance apparently left before her girl friend with this guy, but she was not home til at least an hour after her girl friend got home. It doesn't add up, and I don't know if she didn't tell the truth to hide something totally innocuous and innocent, or to make me jealous, or because there is something more than a friendship blossoming. I'm very confused, and she has changed a lot since she left and now says she wants different things from her life, but she still wants me in it. And we will work on that when she gets home so we are both happy. Any advice or tips are greatly appreciated, because I ahve no way of knowing and need some help! Love you all, hope your LDR's are strong!
Woggle Posted April 11, 2010 Posted April 11, 2010 At least she pulls this stuff before you marry. I hate to say it but I think it is over.
EmperorR Posted April 11, 2010 Posted April 11, 2010 your just being strung along until she emotionally detaches. RUN. Let me guess your fiance is in her early twenties, sorry man your a sega genesis to her at the moment in a ps3 world, stay with her I guarantee soon she will be talking about a break, its me not you, she needs space.
cooldudeinberlin Posted April 12, 2010 Posted April 12, 2010 Not sure what your ages are... but Im assuming late teens are very early 20's... The time away and her new found freedom and being submersed in a new cultural experience (perhaps language), etc. etc. has given her new and exciting prospects... its only natural that she can begin to move on and even perhaps act on some new attractions, etc. Rather than keep yourself in such a situation, it is better to understand that this is an all too common situation, especially at such a young age group, take control of this and do you both a favor and end it. No reason you should be waiting around, pining for her when she is out sewing her wild oats... it isnt fair. Be fair to yourself and do what's best for yourself.
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