Odyssey Posted April 10, 2010 Posted April 10, 2010 Depends. But 'loved' (past tense) might be correct. they just don't dig you now! If they don't come back, it's because they're moving on.
skydiveaddict Posted April 10, 2010 Posted April 10, 2010 what is? lol If they dont come back they never really loved you
Author ussy Posted April 10, 2010 Author Posted April 10, 2010 If they dont come back they never really loved you Yup..... I believe that 100%
This Hurts Posted April 11, 2010 Posted April 11, 2010 Not for everyone. I think there are two possibilities. If they don't come back... 1) They never loved you 2) They stopped loving you Don't beat yourself up. Maybe they did love you at one point, they just stopped loving you. I know that still hurts, but it's not as bad as thinking they NEVER loved you Like Odyssey said, if they don't come back, it's because they're moving on. And why aren't you coming back right now? Because you're moving on, too! So stop dwelling on this thought, pick yourself up, and keep on going down that healing road. You deserve better.
ADF Posted April 11, 2010 Posted April 11, 2010 Of they did. They just don't anymore. It isn't that complicated.
atlast3 Posted April 11, 2010 Posted April 11, 2010 I didn't come back to my ex but I did really love him, more then he probably ever knew. Some things he did and said to me were unforgivable and I couldn't be with him anymore.
Citizen Erased Posted April 11, 2010 Posted April 11, 2010 One thing is for certain, they at least don't love you now.
atlast3 Posted April 11, 2010 Posted April 11, 2010 One thing is for certain, they at least don't love you now. Not true. I can't speak for everyone but I really did love my ex and I still love him. I feel if you really care and love someone that feeling never goes away. I just know what he did to me and how he is. I can't be around any longer. It was too toxic and it bought me down a lot. I'll always want whats best for him.
ingridh Posted April 11, 2010 Posted April 11, 2010 They just don't anymore. It isn't that complicated. Yep, whether they did or didn't.... Does it matter now?
Jilly Bean Posted April 11, 2010 Posted April 11, 2010 I think it's very naive to think love is all you need to keep a relationship together. It's entirely possible to truly love someone, and not want to be with them. There are many reasons people can love, and still chose to move on. Like, abuse, addictions, career, family obligations, money, position, status, religion, race, etc. Get what I mean? You can really love someone, and want them on many levels, and then still acknowledge there are dealbreakers that make you decide to move on. May not be the best decision, but it happens.
Rearden Metal Posted April 11, 2010 Posted April 11, 2010 Case by case. I know my ex-wife loved me. She then fell out of love, regained her self respect and moved on with her life. Others plainly never did. We moved on and within a short time the effort of contact severely outweighed the benefits and we never bothered. I think that's natural...
Tamia78 Posted April 11, 2010 Posted April 11, 2010 Even if they do come back.......it doesn't necessarily mean they love you. It might mean that they just can't be alone, then the dance starts all over again for us. --T
Engadget Posted April 11, 2010 Posted April 11, 2010 I still love my ex, well actually I love who she used to be, despite the fact that I never, ever want to speak with her or know her again.
Beeotch Posted April 11, 2010 Posted April 11, 2010 I keep thinking this Different relationships serve different purposes. I broke up a year ago with my ex and I have grown immensely! I went on a spiritual journey and delved into myself....and am still doing so. In doing so I have come to understand the greater purpose of things in our lives, relationships (romantic and otherwise) especially. ALL relationships serve the purpose to TEACH us lessons. Most of us do not end up marrying or spending the rest of our lives with the 1st person we've dated....and it makes sense. We need experiences on the physical and spiritual level to help us grow. Loving someone does NOT mean you have to be with them forever. Their "purpose" in your life might be over (karmic relationships as they are called sometimes) and you will move forward to another relationship and lesson.Embrace it!
Beeotch Posted April 11, 2010 Posted April 11, 2010 Also...REAL love is love is love is love and always will be. It has no ending. Being "inlove" has an ending though. You can still love someone but not be romantically inlove with them.
Nikki Sahagin Posted April 12, 2010 Posted April 12, 2010 I agree they probably did love us but fell out of love. A small percentage probably never did love us to begin with. I also think people can walk away and STILL love you for many reasons, the primary one being fear. I think a lot of people leave people they love because of their own issues. I know I was mad about my ex but pushed him away all the time. I loved him but didn't know how to handle that feeling so I pushed it away from me.
carhill Posted April 12, 2010 Posted April 12, 2010 I see two scenarios: 1. Feelings change. The past can be honest but it is the past. The present is now and those feelings are valid now. 2. One can love someone (feel the emotion) but realize or come to understand that the relationship is not possible due to incompatibility, which is a separate issue from love (the emotion). For some, including myself, it's a mix of 1 and 2.
sao2 Posted April 12, 2010 Posted April 12, 2010 It is never so simple. I believe my ex loved me and I hope she believes the same about me. But I don't expect either one of us to turn back. Sometimes it is better to turn away than to try and revive something that just didn't work.
goatee Posted April 12, 2010 Posted April 12, 2010 there's this huge myth that love is unconditional. FALSE. love is conditional, and when the condition changes then the love disappears.
MrsPeaSoup Posted April 12, 2010 Posted April 12, 2010 I believe that someone can really love you, but sometimes that just is not enough. If they don't come back does not necessarily means they have never loved you, it means that they don't love you any longer at this time. Also, I don't believe any more that real love never stops. Real love CAN stop, under the right (or in this case: wrong) circumstances. I know I've had real love and I just blew it because I couldn't cope with the long distance.. he couldn't handle our fights any longer and his love for me has dissapeared. But god knows how much he has loved me, yes he did.
bluz73 Posted April 12, 2010 Posted April 12, 2010 I believe that someone can really love you, but sometimes that just is not enough. If they don't come back does not necessarily means they have never loved you, it means that they don't love you any longer at this time. Also, I don't believe any more that real love never stops. Real love CAN stop, under the right (or in this case: wrong) circumstances. I know I've had real love and I just blew it because I couldn't cope with the long distance.. he couldn't handle our fights any longer and his love for me has dissapeared. But god knows how much he has loved me, yes he did. I believe real deep love never stops either. I for one I love my ex hubby and my ex BF and I prob always will, but I dont love any other guy who ever was in my life. I could careless about them..but these 2 mean the world to me and i would care if something bad happened even though right now my ex bf is a foolish idiot and i cant stand him. I can look back at his past releationships and can say he never loved any of them like he loved me so I hope even though he has moved on I will remain in his heart forever.... Love lasts forever, like/lust fades!
Author ussy Posted April 13, 2010 Author Posted April 13, 2010 Can someone just asnwer my questions please. Why would my ex rub it in my face? Like when we used to talk after the break up she would really get me feeling down when we had a conversaton and i know she even knew that what she was saying to me was really hurting me. So i guess in short my question is that if a person really loved you, would they rub it in your face? And 2, I was her first bf so do ya'll think she'll "forget" me? I know i sound pretty sad but im just having one of those days!
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