doomage Posted April 10, 2010 Posted April 10, 2010 I'm little by little having success with women, i'm 21 and growing up i sucked hard with girls, but an overlying problem that I may be projecting to girls I fancy, which maybe why i feel like I can never get a girl I like, is because I'm too needy, clingy, and their all I can think about when i like a girl. A girl i was dating recently cut the chord with me because I guess she felt she already had me and she cut me loose after like three weeks, and she probably felt i was too clingy. I'm having trouble getting over it though, i keep dwelling on her and if i did something wrong, and what I did. Well i talked to her on wednesday and i brought up what were we, are we dating still or no and she said she just wanted to be friends which is wierd after we had sex already. only once though. and that she likes being single, her whole vibe switched up, then i saw her on friday at my job and she was eating while she was on lunch from her job(she works right next to me at another store)so i went outside to talk to her and i said we should go see a movie and she kind of blew me off i think by saying (oh idk because i might work at my new job tomorrow night so call me and see) and after getting advice from some co workers they said not to call her. It's hard for me to do that though, I'm trying hard not to think about her or call her or contact her, so how do you let go?
Tallandslim Posted April 11, 2010 Posted April 11, 2010 Letting Go is Hard to do for any of us, whether you're 21 or 41. I agree with your co-workers that you should not call her. Instead occupy yourself with something or someone else. It is difficult, but the pain will pass and you will meet someone else. I find that in the past I have shown signs of being a little too needy in relationships which I think also turns men off in a lot of cases. You're only 21 and there is a lot of growing that will take place in the next few years, you will see that this situation will be only one of the many that will bring you heartache (sorry, but it's true). Finding out who you are first and what you want is most important to what you bring in a relationship. When you;re very attracted or in love with someone it's hard not to make them the centre of your universe and you're a few years away from finding out what you really want, and some people never figure it out. Also, if you do have a tendency to become very needy, maybe you should hold off having sex until the girl has shown more signs of possibly wanting to have a relationship with you (I;m not judging, it's just a suggestion). You will heal......don't worry....just laugh!!!
sagetalk Posted April 11, 2010 Posted April 11, 2010 and that she likes being single, her whole vibe switched up, Did her pants catch on fire when she said that? When a girl feeds you that crap it's time to go. Girls don't like being single. Listen to the other poster. Don't have sex so early. Make sure she is worth it first before you go that far. It will help keep your heart from being destroyed. Don't beat yourself up. I know guys that tell a girl she is a slut and a whore and fat and then the girls have sex with them. Some girls just act dumb, there is no logic to it. Go after the smart ones .
Author doomage Posted April 11, 2010 Author Posted April 11, 2010 not to call her lol, because it's already getting late, i feel like seeing a movie with her or something, but for what? If she's gonna be all wierd around me and I can't have sex with her again because of the herps, don't wanna risk it. Plus she'll probably give me an excuse why she can't hang,seems i'm the only one trying anything.
malika Posted April 11, 2010 Posted April 11, 2010 You're better with a girl who doesn't play games with you. It's true that some guys are clingy, and it can be a turn off to certain girls. Just try to take things slowly with girls and respond to the amount of attention that they desire, not more.
Author doomage Posted April 12, 2010 Author Posted April 12, 2010 I just wished some girls were straightforward, because i still don't know what i did to turn her off so hard, i have a feeling it could have been that i overdid the affection which she gave me little clues hear and there the last day we were on that level, that she wasnt the affectionette type, which was wierd because i thought she did. or the sex i gave her was bad. but then she said the oldest trick in the book she said "it's not you it's me"
D. It Is Written Posted April 12, 2010 Posted April 12, 2010 Did her pants catch on fire when she said that? When a girl feeds you that crap it's time to go. Girls don't like being single. Hahaha! This cracked me up. And I agree. That's crap. Girls don't like being single.
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