rose45 Posted April 10, 2010 Posted April 10, 2010 I did bring it up and i asked if he wants to see me randomly and he said hmm and i said you can say no right off the bat and he said its not a matter of no he just knows i'm not really looking for that (i guess b/c i want to get back but i do know that would take time and actual dating all over again) so i said i never expected to see you once and thats it and that although its a nice idea it isn't very realistic to have that happen. So he said ok. I asked are you agaisnt this? and he said he isn't against this in a nice voice and he said soon let me just get my head together. So i said ok and dropped the subject. He called a few nights later on a friday to talk for a bit so it was a nice suprise. Since then--i only got my permit a week ago due to money stuff in the past. He called a few days ago at night (b/c i told him i was going to take it this week) to wish me luck not knowing i already took it. It was on a friday when i took the test and i said i wanted to call and tell you i passed but didn't know if you were busy or what not and he said i could have called which was nice. I did joke about him teaching me to drive and how he should be doing it and he said my father would probably want to do all that stuff; he would probably be insulted if he didnt. The next time we spoke, i texted him about a price for a driving lesson..he called an hour later or so and said i saw your text (it was $40 for 45 min) and he joked saying i will give a whole hour for $35. And i kinda joked back like what? it should be nothing, what happened to generosity. I'm nice to you etc and i said i would give him $10. It went back and forth for a minute or two and we started talking about something else.. He did ask after how come my good friend so and so can't teach me and i said she is really busy with her schedule and he mentioned my friend's b/f and i said its ok i'm gonna take the lessons and maybe ask someone from the team to help..hopefully he doesnt think i was tryng to make him jealous b/c its a coed team. He said ok. I think he sort of slipped as well with his words as. He used to call me honey and i joked do you think i will be a good driver? and he jokingly said(it was a joke so no offense to anyone reading) no, women aren't good drivers honey. I kept talking as if i didn't hear b/c i didn't want to make him pull back after that but i'm pretty sure he said honey by accident which hasn't happened at all since we were together. I think he was just distracted doing some other stuff so it slipped out; of course probably doesn't mean much but it made me miss him more. Keep it up with the light conversations? My friend said maybe he does just need time and is being genuine or maybe he doesn't want to be seen as the bad guy. I tried to be direct as possible in our last serious conversations that maybe he knows that he doesn't want to see me and is trying to spare my feelings and he said that's not really right b/c if it was about me he would be seeing someone already or looking for someone.
MrsPeaSoup Posted April 12, 2010 Posted April 12, 2010 If I understand it right, you want him back by trying to keep up the light convo's, then slowly tend towards the more 'relationship' convos?
Author rose45 Posted April 12, 2010 Author Posted April 12, 2010 thanks for responding! i don't think i am trying to lean towards the relationship convos because we already had a serious talk. So i think for now and probably for awhile I will steer clear of putting pressure on things and hope we are talking for a reason and he is being genuine with just giving him time as we talk here and there. Just get a little nervous about things at times
torranceshipman Posted April 12, 2010 Posted April 12, 2010 Hi there, I don't really understand what the thread is about. Have you both broken up? I got the vague feeling that he broke it off, and if so, is the point of this staying friends to try to get back together? If so, I think the best thing is to just move on, as I don't see any indications from him that he has changed his mind. The honey comment is said by lots of men to female friends so it doesn't mean anything. It would be more heart breaking for you to continue waiting for him and eventually see him with another girl than the alternative which is to accept that it is over now and start the process of moving on, which would require NC (I know, painful, but worth it). Good luck...
Author rose45 Posted April 12, 2010 Author Posted April 12, 2010 hey there! i responded to you on my other thread. BTW, he isn't really the type to call any female friend honey or a girl on the street honey..it just kind of isn't his style. It took him awhile to call me honey and i was his girlfriend. He just doesnt really express himself like that.
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