Author wana_b_js_girl Posted April 10, 2010 Author Posted April 10, 2010 Why? Have you considered MC with H? <crossing posts> You have. How long and how did that go? That might be a great place to discuss your M and this new friendship. If you want to rebuild your M, transparency from both of you is critical. If not, then file for D and your new friend can support you in that process. Here's a key aspect. If you D and they got together later, how would you feel about that? Anyway, food for thought. Give MC a try (again). Good luck thank u for ur reply. i would be hurt if they got bak together but i wood know why they did and wood be ok with it in time. i wood want him to choose someone who wood love my child and she does. still i will listen to ur advise as i do everyones. its a weird situation i give u that!
Author wana_b_js_girl Posted April 10, 2010 Author Posted April 10, 2010 How can you be friends with the woman who screwed your husband? That is utterly disgusting!!! That isnt fair to you or your husband, what if she tries to screw him again. WTF are you thinking!? thank u for ur reply. i will think about wat u said cuz ur right.
Bryanp Posted April 10, 2010 Posted April 10, 2010 Has this girl ever apologized to you about the affair?
Bryanp Posted April 10, 2010 Posted April 10, 2010 I forgot to mention that my guess the reason you can be friends with her is because you absolutely do not feel threated by her at all. Even though she had sex with your husband, you know that he just used her and he would never have a serious relationship with her. Am I wrong?
RedDevil66 Posted April 10, 2010 Posted April 10, 2010 The wife of the man I had an affair with wanted to be my friend. I thought it was because she wanted to learn about what made me tick to see what her husband saw in me so she can have the same. There was no way I could be her friend after the hurt I caused. She was a super nice person and it broke my heart for my deception.
Katerina Posted April 10, 2010 Posted April 10, 2010 This has to be a joke... or a really, really unhealthy situation, IMHO.
bentnotbroken Posted April 11, 2010 Posted April 11, 2010 Strange:confused:but whatever floats your boat.
Gradschooler Posted April 11, 2010 Posted April 11, 2010 I could never be friends with anyone who helped my H cheat on me. Stay cautious!
ConflictedGuy27 Posted April 11, 2010 Posted April 11, 2010 This has to be a joke... or a really, really unhealthy situation, IMHO. I have to agree with this. Your desire to want to be this woman's friend is unhealthy. You should bring this point up in counseling and try to better understand why you'd want such a friendship.
Dexter Morgan Posted April 12, 2010 Posted April 12, 2010 ive ben married over 10 yrs and my husband had affair with a girl last summer. she and i began talking after they broke up and now she is my best friend (for the past 6 months) and he doesnt know. can i get someones opinion on that one? the only way she is truly your best friend is the fact that she helped bring about to you that your husband is a lying, cheating, worthless jackass. in THAT sense she did you a favor. other than that, its someone you couldn't trust to not mess around with any man you may find yourself with in the future if you end up getting a divorce. you may consider her your friend, but I wouldn't turn my back on her.
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