malika Posted April 10, 2010 Posted April 10, 2010 Has anyone had experiences with a very skilled liar who has excellent excuses and doesn't flinch when he lies? Anyone have experience with men with two girlfriends who do this? Can you tell me the "symptoms" of an excellent liar who might be sleeping with another woman? Is it possible to figure it out when having dated someone for only 2 weeks? On the flip side, any experiences with men who are just inconsistent but are telling the truth?
Arasae Posted April 10, 2010 Posted April 10, 2010 The most prevalent thing I've noticed of smooth liars isn't so much the lying--I'm horrible at picking up on this. But the thing that is always, always, ALWAYS a glaring red flag is this statement here: "Guilty dog barks first". If your guy makes jealous little quips, asks you if you're being faithful, won't let you go out or gives you a hard time about flirting with other guys, it's almost ALWAYS because he is putting how HE acts onto you. As much trust as someone gives you is as much as they can be trusted. We expect other people to act like we would usually. So.. yeah. If you're already having doubts, run. It's been two weeks; I know it's hard to get excited about someone that you're interested in, I get it, but if he's already showing little inconsistencies, what will happen when the big ones show up?
ADF Posted April 10, 2010 Posted April 10, 2010 Two weeks is usually not enough time spot a habitual liar. Not knowing what "inconsistencies" you're referring to makes it tough to say whether this guy is lying or not. But in my experience, people who suspect cheating are not only usually right, but often find the cheating was far more extensive then they initially thought.
123BeachFan Posted April 10, 2010 Posted April 10, 2010 You've only been seeing this guy for two weeks. What signs are you getting that says he's a liar? Have you come right out and asked him if he's seeing you exclusively?
You'reasian Posted April 10, 2010 Posted April 10, 2010 Has anyone had experiences with a very skilled liar who has excellent excuses and doesn't flinch when he lies? Anyone have experience with men with two girlfriends who do this? Can you tell me the "symptoms" of an excellent liar who might be sleeping with another woman? Is it possible to figure it out when having dated someone for only 2 weeks? On the flip side, any experiences with men who are just inconsistent but are telling the truth? If you're dating someone for 2 weeks, you're still getting to know someone. People say that dating means that you haven't entered into a relationship; you or him may be dating other people. If you don't feel comfortable with a guy dating others, then tell him.
2sunny Posted April 10, 2010 Posted April 10, 2010 from my own experience: in someone telling the truth - words always match their actions. when things don't make sense, there is a reason - and YOU are usually not supposed to be noticing what the reason is... when you REALLY pay attention - your gut will always tell you when something seems "off". what is it he's doing/not doing that you've noticed?
Author malika Posted April 10, 2010 Author Posted April 10, 2010 I totally understand. That was definitely how my ex was. But this new guy is not at all the jealous/possessive type. Seems to trust me quite a bit, maybe because I give him so much attention though... The most prevalent thing I've noticed of smooth liars isn't so much the lying--I'm horrible at picking up on this. But the thing that is always, always, ALWAYS a glaring red flag is this statement here: "Guilty dog barks first". If your guy makes jealous little quips, asks you if you're being faithful, won't let you go out or gives you a hard time about flirting with other guys, it's almost ALWAYS because he is putting how HE acts onto you. As much trust as someone gives you is as much as they can be trusted. We expect other people to act like we would usually. So.. yeah. If you're already having doubts, run. It's been two weeks; I know it's hard to get excited about someone that you're interested in, I get it, but if he's already showing little inconsistencies, what will happen when the big ones show up?
Engadget Posted April 10, 2010 Posted April 10, 2010 Read Emotions Revealed by Paul Ekman. The show Lie to Me is based on him and is work in reading faces. I'm fairly good at picking up on liars myself, but usually have to get to know a person better to really pick up on it. A lot of people do certain things when they lie, unless they're a sociopath of some sort. Some scratch their ear, blink a lot, look in a certain direction. It all depends.
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