stella79 Posted April 10, 2010 Posted April 10, 2010 Hello Everyone. I am back..I've been through hell, and am getting stronger everyday. Anyways, I had my D-day and it was awful. I managed to survive. I have learned a valuble lesson...never mess with a MM. I was thrown under the bus..He lied to his W and my boss (we work together). Humiliated me ect..I had my threads deleted with the fear of losing my job..That is no longer the case. He has not contacted me, in fact, he now goes to church in hopes of redeeming himself... I just would like to give a kind warning to the OW out there that are in love with an illusion of Happy ever after with a MM. I was manipulated and tricked. The BS sent me a nasty e-mail, basically saying that I was only good for sex and he preyed on me. Nice..however she stands by her vows and her scum bag H.. Just wanted to say Hi and give warning. Has anyone experienced D-day lately? Was the blame and shame on you alone? Thanks for listening Stella
jennie-jennie Posted April 10, 2010 Posted April 10, 2010 ((((Stella))))) Sorry to hear you have had such a rough time. I agree on the . Take care!
Author stella79 Posted April 10, 2010 Author Posted April 10, 2010 Hi, work is getting better, he avoids me. People are starting to forget and are moving on to other gossip. I am now going through my angry phase, I know revenge is a waste of energy, but I would just love to tell his W all the things he left out about the A. At least I can move on, he has to live with his guilt with his W for the rest of his life, or at least until the kids are grown.haha..
GreenEyedLady Posted April 10, 2010 Posted April 10, 2010 (((STELLA))) Time heals everything, if you want it healed. Hold your head high and live authentically. Eventually, your XMM will get his. GEL
califnan Posted April 10, 2010 Posted April 10, 2010 Hi Stella.. Thank you so much for checking in... I think "illusion" is a good word for describing the A or expectations of it .. And aside from falling into the trap for whatever reasons, sometimes I think that OWs are romantics beforehand.. ha I am happy that you are rid of him, he has done you a favor, more than you may know ... And he is going to need more than church for sinning against you and treating you so badly .. So so sorry that you must work with him .. he Will notice your growth as you grow stronger .. At least in this day, it is good that you have your job, which you probably would have left, if it weren't a good one.. Take care Stella ..
jerrytodd Posted April 11, 2010 Posted April 11, 2010 People are starting to forget and are moving on to other gossip. Told ya. Glad to see Feisty Stella is here. Big hugs.
Author stella79 Posted April 11, 2010 Author Posted April 11, 2010 Jerry! Everyday is getting easier. Last night going to work, I saw XMM sneak out the side door, with his hood over his head..avoiding all contact with me..I got angry, he is a coward. Until I feel NO emotion for him...then I can really move on. Hugs Stella
fooled once Posted April 11, 2010 Posted April 11, 2010 Hey Stella!! I have missed you and been wondering how you are. So how are you feeling? Do you feel like you are reclaiming your life? I know it is easy to get mad at his wife, but you can't really blame her can you, especially if he is telling her that you were pursing him (which I bet he has done because God forbid he take ownership of his part of the affair). But, lesson learned and you can grieve this and move on and hopefully the next relationship you are in, is one where you are celebrated and cherished (and he isn't committed to someone else ). Nice to see you back again! I am sure your story will help many other OW who are currently going through what many of us former OW have already been through. There are many newer OW here who are hurting badly because of the situation they have gotten themselves into and I know you will be able to offer them some good advice.
jerrytodd Posted April 11, 2010 Posted April 11, 2010 Jerry! Everyday is getting easier. Last night going to work, I saw XMM sneak out the side door, with his hood over his head..avoiding all contact with me..I got angry, he is a coward. Until I feel NO emotion for him...then I can really move on. Hugs Stella Uggh, my ex walks into my office three times a day and on Friday smiled at me all through the staff meeting. I would kill for a hoody over her head, avoiding me!! Or a pillow over her head...
Author stella79 Posted April 11, 2010 Author Posted April 11, 2010 Hahaha.. that's funny..I wonder if my XMM is afraid of me..grrr..he should be. I should start working on that Voodoo doll!..(just kidding)..
bentnotbroken Posted April 11, 2010 Posted April 11, 2010 Jerry! Everyday is getting easier. Last night going to work, I saw XMM sneak out the side door, with his hood over his head..avoiding all contact with me..I got angry, he is a coward. Until I feel NO emotion for him...then I can really move on. Hugs Stella My opinion of most of the them.
DramaQueen Posted April 11, 2010 Posted April 11, 2010 Originally Posted by stella79 Jerry! Everyday is getting easier. Last night going to work, I saw XMM sneak out the side door, with his hood over his head..avoiding all contact with me..I got angry, he is a coward. Until I feel NO emotion for him...then I can really move on. Hugs Stella My opinion of most of the them. I second that!
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