bluz73 Posted April 9, 2010 Posted April 9, 2010 (edited) So its been 6 months since the idiot walked out of my life and started something new with his 18 yr old GF (he is 32 now) I was doing good when I saw pics of them surface on the internet and I saw him not smiling but she was with a beer most likely drunk. She looks 14 and I felt pretty good knowing how hotter and sexier I am. That I wasnt a party girl and he liked that. So I was happy and thought i am over him. WRONG..I had a bad day dont know what triggered it just thinking about them together all happy and here I am wondering why I wasnt good enough? knowing in less than 2 years they wont even be together and him and I could have been well on our way building a future. I dont want him back, I just am sad and hurt how he ended things. Not in any order 1. He couldnt look at me 2. He assured me of my beauty and my great love 3. How much he loved me all those years 4. Please take care and make sure the new guy is a good guy? wtf? 5. I care and it does bother me you live 1 mile away from me 6. (this is the torture) me and her plan to be together for a VERY long time 7. I couldnt wait anymore and im sorry it didnt work out(i was out of state for 1 year sick parents)(he never believed I was coming back) 8. met up with me when i moved back told me he loved me and looked for our own place together, madelove to me like nothing was wrong then the next day stabbed me in the heart. 9. THE WORST CHANGED HIS CELL NUMBER/EMAILS 10. he never gave me a chance to change his mind So I just feel so used and tricked I feel like a fool and I hate feeling this way. I am sure he hurt too and it wasnt easy for him but all of the above was unnessasary and I dont know how you could love someone that many years who done nothing wrong and you just erase them? Was he over me just like that? Edited April 10, 2010 by bluz73
Tamia78 Posted April 10, 2010 Posted April 10, 2010 It sounds like he doesn't know what he wants, just as long as it's new and fun and interesting. Do you think he might be afraid of commitment? My ex told me that he loved me, and we were gonna get married, have kids, all that......and now he's over me. I know part of it is due to his issues (he has LOTS!), and maybe one of them is commitment or something similar. He's not over any of his exes, due to him talking about them all the time he was with me. Listen, it's not you, Bluz, please remember that. You were as good to him as you knew how, and he doesn't know what to do with someone like that. He is always gonna be looking for the next best thing, and guys like him will always be single sooner or later. They aren't capable of relationships. It's not your fault. You were good enough, he just didn't want to see that. My ex spent most of our time together telling me all of my faults and how I needed to change myself. Remember it's not you, okay? He made his decision, and the best thing you can do right now is let him live with it. If he did it to you, you better believe that he's gonna do it to everyone else he's with. He's not going to magically change. I know you're hurting right now, but it WILL get better, I promise you! --T
stillafool Posted April 10, 2010 Posted April 10, 2010 Why do you feel tricked? You didn't do anything wrong but love him back. Who knows his reasons for choosing this girl but you have got to move on. Sometimes we never get the "truthful" answers we seek after a break up. It has been my experience that some guys will try to sleep with you before they break up so they can get "break up sex". I know it is rotten as hell. Don't worry about how long they will be together, whether it is 2 years or 25. Try to concentrate on how to improve yourself so you will be ready for the next guy who is coming around the corner.
Author bluz73 Posted April 10, 2010 Author Posted April 10, 2010 Why do you feel tricked? You didn't do anything wrong but love him back. Who knows his reasons for choosing this girl but you have got to move on. Sometimes we never get the "truthful" answers we seek after a break up. It has been my experience that some guys will try to sleep with you before they break up so they can get "break up sex". I know it is rotten as hell. Don't worry about how long they will be together, whether it is 2 years or 25. Try to concentrate on how to improve yourself so you will be ready for the next guy who is coming around the corner. I feel tricked because he had me move back to his state believing we were gonna spend our life together we have sex (amazing on so many levels like usual)then the next day he breaks my heart and then 2 days later changes his number/email so i cant talk to him at all WHAT KIND OF PERSON DOES THIS?
Odyssey Posted April 10, 2010 Posted April 10, 2010 OP, sometimes it takes a breakup for people to show their true colours... most of the time during a breakup, the words are complete BS anyway. When in doubt pay close attention to action.
Author bluz73 Posted April 10, 2010 Author Posted April 10, 2010 OP, sometimes it takes a breakup for people to show their true colours... most of the time during a breakup, the words are complete BS anyway. When in doubt pay close attention to action. I see that now, He was my best friend for a longtime and I feel like he has died. I just dont want to have any feelings for him anymore, but I do and I cant deny it. Although he hurt me. How could his feelings for me just disappeared like I meant nothing?
just1guy Posted April 10, 2010 Posted April 10, 2010 It sounds like he doesn't know what he wants, just as long as it's new and fun and interesting. Do you think he might be afraid of commitment? My ex told me that he loved me, and we were gonna get married, have kids, all that......and now he's over me. I know part of it is due to his issues (he has LOTS!), and maybe one of them is commitment or something similar. He's not over any of his exes, due to him talking about them all the time he was with me. Listen, it's not you, Bluz, please remember that. You were as good to him as you knew how, and he doesn't know what to do with someone like that. He is always gonna be looking for the next best thing, and guys like him will always be single sooner or later. They aren't capable of relationships. It's not your fault. You were good enough, he just didn't want to see that. My ex spent most of our time together telling me all of my faults and how I needed to change myself. Remember it's not you, okay? He made his decision, and the best thing you can do right now is let him live with it. If he did it to you, you better believe that he's gonna do it to everyone else he's with. He's not going to magically change. I know you're hurting right now, but it WILL get better, I promise you! --T Wow, it sounded like I was in a relationship with the female version of your ex.
Odyssey Posted April 10, 2010 Posted April 10, 2010 How could his feelings for me just disappeared like I meant nothing?When they find someone else to replace you (even if it's only a distraction), the quicker the 'disappearing' will happen, yes even abruptly! It's like when a new toy comes along, it's exciting and you kinda forget about your old toys. But people can't be erased from memory so easily.
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