Marks Posted April 9, 2010 Posted April 9, 2010 So basically I've hung out with this girl twice, once for coffee and once for a very casual dinner. After the dinner (Wednesday), I asked her how her weekend looked and whether she wanted to hang out on Saturday. She said she didn't have any plans and that she wanted to hang out. Great I thought. So now it's Friday and I was about to call or text her about tomorrow, but before I did that I get a text from her that something came up on Saturday and that she won't be able to hang out. She said we could reschedule to another day that works for me. Am I to believe this? Or is she basically cutting me loose? I'm skeptical by nature and it feels like she just doesn't want to hang out anymore. I haven't responded yet and I'm not sure what to think.
reservoirdog1 Posted April 9, 2010 Posted April 9, 2010 I'd text her back. Something light and breezy. E.g.: "Hey, no worries -- Saturday's actually looking bad for me too now. Let's touch base during the week and figure out something else." Doesn't matter that Saturday may still be fine for you -- that's not the point. Then, don't contact her until Tuesday at the earliest. I'd be surprised if she doesn't text you of her own volition before then.
boogieboy Posted April 9, 2010 Posted April 9, 2010 When you reschedule with her, if she blows you off again, then youre in trouble. Dont give her a second chance after that.
sagetalk Posted April 9, 2010 Posted April 9, 2010 So she blows you off, it's one meeting. The only time there is a problem is if 1. she doesn't like you, or 2. she found another guy. My advice is to find out 1 and 2 as fast as possible. If you don't know, then you could be screwing up an otherwise nice relationship beginning. Just because people see each other three times a week does not mean they are great together, nor does does seeing each other once a month mean they are terrible. It just depends on the individuals involved.
Author Marks Posted April 9, 2010 Author Posted April 9, 2010 Well, coincidentally I was actually asked to do a musical performance on Saturday night, so I guess I too had "something come up" tomorrow. But I like this girl enough that I was prepared to turn it down in order to go out with her. I don't know, I just texted her back mentioning that I was asked to do a performance tomorrow too, and if she wants to reschedule for the next day (like in the afternoon). We'll see if she gets back to me.
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