Ilovecake Posted April 9, 2010 Posted April 9, 2010 found a way around the block feature on facebook. I can't believe it. What a piece of work that guy is. September will be two years since he dumped me, getting married to the girl he dumped me for yet he’s still constantly in my face. What do you guys think a dumper gets out of torturing the dumpee for so long? He’s not trying to get back together with me, thank god. It’s more about making sure he gets info to me about what he’s doing, especially if it’s stuff he knows would bother me or stuff I want to do. Like he's trying to show off that he did it first. What is that about? I never did a thing to him besides tell him I can't be his friend and will no longer be speaking to him. That hurt his ego I guess. That was many many months a go but since then he's been doing all this weird stuff to make me aware of his existence.
GrayClouds Posted April 9, 2010 Posted April 9, 2010 That hurt his ego I guess. That was many many months a go but since then he's been doing all this weird stuff to make me aware of his existence. Yes your right his ego his hurt, but knowing he can still have this affect on you after two years will sure make it feel better. I really wish you could be close to indifference (or at least humorous pity) at this point. What will help you get there?
Author Ilovecake Posted April 9, 2010 Author Posted April 9, 2010 (edited) [FONT=Times New Roman][sIZE=3]I don't react to him at all. He has no idea he's bothering me by doing this, he just assumes and unfortunately he's right. I act as if we never met. Then I came here and complain about it. The funny thing is he's the one who blocked me on facebook first. What will help me get there? I need a new boyfriend that I can do fun stuff with then I won't care what he does with his fiancé. He can go see all my favorite bands with her (even though she hates music) and go to all my favorite restaurants that he used to not like but all of a sudden are his favorite. I do pity him because this is taking up a lot of his time I'm sure. The actual stuff he does isn’t bothering me only the fact that he’s still trying to hurt me is hard to get beyond. I changed a lot about my life so that I could heal without him being in my face. I miss a lot of the people and places and maybe I could slowly get back to my old way of life if he just learned to ignore me. I feel held back by him because I'm still trying to get away. I've seen him at rock shows and stuff and he never tries to talk to me but he'll come over and interrupt a conversation I'm having with a mutual friend, so I stopped going to rock shows. I stopped going to websites he frequents because he would send me messages. I don't know what else I can do to live life without him. [/sIZE][/FONT] Edited April 9, 2010 by Ilovecake
Art_Critic Posted April 9, 2010 Posted April 9, 2010 The funny think is he's the one who blocked me on facebook first. So you stalked him by finding a way around his block on facebook ? I've read some of your threads before.. Have you ever heard of NC.. You need to apply it... Why post in forums that you know he posts in ( not here but the other forums you both post in ) ?
DontWorryBHappy Posted April 9, 2010 Posted April 9, 2010 ^ Uhhhhh, I'm pretty sure HE is the one that contacted HER. Take a chill pill.
Author Ilovecake Posted April 9, 2010 Author Posted April 9, 2010 So you stalked him by finding a way around his block on facebook ? I've read some of your threads before.. Have you ever heard of NC.. You need to apply it... Why post in forums that you know he posts in ( not here but the other forums you both post in ) ? What are you talking about? You have it completely assbackwards. I have him blocked on facebook by email address, I blocked him months a go. When we first broke up he would block me then unblock me then block me then unblock me. I don't look at his page ever. I only saw posts he wrote on my friends’ pages. When I realized he was following me around and sending friend requests to all my facebook friends I made my profile invisible and my friend list invisible. I stopped going to forums he goes to many months a go. Like I said above, I stopped hanging out with mutual friends, I stopped going to places there is a chance he might be at. I don't know how much more NC I can implement. It's been almost a year since I last spoke to him (via email) and that was to tell him to leave me alone. Yeah last month some girl forwarded a bunch of messages I sent to him via email when we were fist splitting up. He obviously forwarded all my private messages to her had her do that to piss me off. I stopped going to the site she posts on right there and then. I also had him blocked on that site. How do you see that as me stalking him or are you just trying to be a jerk for the sake of being a jerk? Should I cancel my internet account, turn off the lights and lock myself in the bathroom? You read my posts? Please show me one post where I’m stalking him!
Author Ilovecake Posted April 9, 2010 Author Posted April 9, 2010 Oh and by the way what happened today is that I posted something on a facebook group page that has to do with a TV show I like and he never watched. All of a sudden I see his name pop up, it's blocked out so you can't click on it but you can still see his post. I guess when you block someone you can still see them in facebook discussions, he found that out somehow and posted in a discussion right after me.
Perhaps Posted April 9, 2010 Posted April 9, 2010 It's pretty sad how he's putting so much effort into trying to hurt you. Don't worry, what goes around, comes around.
selena_cat Posted April 9, 2010 Posted April 9, 2010 Cake, He is just trying to get at you,and he knows that he can do that online. Whatever you do or no matter how mad you are,go and stay on NC. I am pretty sure your not reponding to his childish antics is bothering him big time. Don't not go to concerts,screw this,go out with friends and a have police officer for to arrest his a$$ if he comes near, have a good time. Best of luck
GrayClouds Posted April 9, 2010 Posted April 9, 2010 Why don't you just give up FaceBukaka? It is simple a cyber circle jerk degrading the human sprite.
Author Ilovecake Posted April 9, 2010 Author Posted April 9, 2010 Right now since I had to give up must of my friends in real life to stay away from him it's my only way to keep in touch with them and I've made some nice new friends on there. I'm even talking a really cool guy I met through a mutual friend. Also my family all lives in Europe so it's our way of keeping in touch. After today I know not to go into the facebukaka (haha) groups where I can see him. Hopefully that’s his last avenue to me.
Art_Critic Posted April 9, 2010 Posted April 9, 2010 ^ Uhhhhh, I'm pretty sure HE is the one that contacted HER. Take a chill pill. Before you tell someone to take a chill pill maybe you should look into why I read what I did... I must have read it wrong.. I got the impression by reading her OP that she not he found a way around the block feature in FB... I didn't get that her subject line was also the opening line of a half finished sentence... Sorry ILC
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