ImaManDammit Posted April 9, 2010 Posted April 9, 2010 (edited) In the dating forum I posted the fact I was having difficulties dating a woman that was completely entrenched in the gay world. So after some soul searching I decided it was best that we didn't see each other anymore. When we met she talked how about how happy she was that we weren't very spiritual or religious because if one of us and the other wasn't then it wouldn't work out. So when I broke up with her I tried to make her understand, that although this may not be religion that for me fitting into that world was the same thing. And because of that I was uncomfortable, and because I was uncomfortable, it didn't make me feel secure, and without secuity, trust will not grow and without trust there is no relationship. I told her that the life she leads as part of that world was not the life I wanted for mine. As a couple the two worlds would eventually collide. She was completely shocked, floored actually. She had no idea where this was coming from. How's that possible? I told her that I was having trouble fitting in many times, and that some of things she was talked about of her friends were doing and wanted her to do made me feel uncomfortable. I also told her that I was talking to my shrink to help me understand since he was gay too, not to mention the Lesbian and Gay friends that I have. I was trying to gain comfort, but before I could become comfortable with any of it, she threw something new at me. She missed all that? Never clued in that this was a problem for me? Was she that self involved that she never connected the dots that this might happen? I did my best not to judge her, or make her feel that this was her fault, and this was just something for me. But she still didn't get it. I obviously still broke up with her, and she was obviously hurt, but I'm just confused how all this happened. I figured she wouldn't be happy but atleast to understand why. Too much to ask? Should I even care? Any thoughts? Did I not do this right? Edited April 9, 2010 by ImaManDammit Typos
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