counterman Posted April 9, 2010 Posted April 9, 2010 I have a friend who's girlfriend is tall than him and I think it is cute. She's about 2 to 4 inches taller than him. However, when I was with my other friends today, they brought this up and started laughing about it and making a big deal out of it. Now, he wasn't there to hear it and my friends would never tell him directly but I thought it was a bit insensitive. I reckon good on him for getting out there and dating. Whereas my other friends, they talk about these "standards" that they have about dating hot girls and whatnot, when 1) they've never dated in their whole entire lives and 2) they've never approached any girl before. I'll say that my friend and his girlfriend wouldn't care about what people say, but I was wondering what you guys thought? Girls would you date a guy shorter than you? Guys would you date a girl taller than you? Do you care about what your friends think?
Els Posted April 9, 2010 Posted April 9, 2010 I'm 5'1", so I'd be pretty hard pressed to find a guy shorter than me.
Chicago_Guy Posted April 9, 2010 Posted April 9, 2010 If the girl is hot, I don't think that most guys would care that much if the girl was a little bit taller, although the 4 inches mentioned in the original post is a huge height difference.
ZachNormand Posted April 9, 2010 Posted April 9, 2010 Honestly, I wouldn't care about what my friends have to say about the girl I'm dating. Anyway, even if the girl is shorter, it would still be pretty hard to find someone about whom the friends won't have any "comments"...
bayouboi Posted April 9, 2010 Posted April 9, 2010 Who cares what others think. They are most likely just jealous. I'm 6'1" & saw this one girl that had to be 7' one time, but she was well proportioned. I thought to myself that'd be one mountain I'd like to climb!
Fouts Posted April 9, 2010 Posted April 9, 2010 I'm 6'0 and have never been attracted to tall women, 5'7-5'8 is about the cutoff, otherwise it starts to feel weird
BWLoca Posted April 9, 2010 Posted April 9, 2010 My last and current b/f are both an inch shorter than me. I'm 5'8" and still love to wear my 3 and 4 inch heels. Though, I do tone it down around my b/f since I don't really care to tower over him.
boogieboy Posted April 9, 2010 Posted April 9, 2010 I think the bigger issue (i have a girl taller than me now) is that youre letting your friends make fun of him, to make themselves feel better because they are lonely. You really need to call them out on that.
Author counterman Posted April 9, 2010 Author Posted April 9, 2010 Yeah, I agree that it should not matter what anyone else thinks as long as both people in the relationship are comfortable with it. Though, I know that some people have preferences, or even standard, on how tall they would like their partner to be. You're right, boogieboy. I don't tolerate nonsense like that and it seems like a really sad way to make yourself feel better. It makes me smile when I see my friend together with that girl. I will call them out next time. I guess I let it slide because the "joke" wasn't shared with me.
Ruby Slippers Posted April 9, 2010 Posted April 9, 2010 I'm tall, and I've dated a guy exactly my height and a guy an inch shorter. I'm progressive and free-thinking, but it does bother me slightly to be taller, and not because I judge him. For me, it brings up those adolescent feelings of being made fun of for being tall. I know, it's silly, but I can't help how I feel. It's ridiculous how much attention (positive and negative) you get as a woman just for being tall. I have heard... You should play basketball.They say long legs lead straight to heaven. Wow, you're tall. Have you thought about being a model? (whatever) ...hundreds of times. And the funny part is that every guy who makes these statements thinks he's so clever and original.
You'reasian Posted April 9, 2010 Posted April 9, 2010 I'll say that my friend and his girlfriend wouldn't care about what people say, but I was wondering what you guys thought? Girls would you date a guy shorter than you? Guys would you date a girl taller than you? Do you care about what your friends think? You're facing a value judgement. Personally, I wouldn't mind dating a taller, attractive woman. Are these friends who got your back through thick and thin? Would they save your life? How old are these friends? or are they loosely associated with you?
You'reasian Posted April 9, 2010 Posted April 9, 2010 I'm tall, and I've dated a guy exactly my height and a guy an inch shorter. I'm progressive and free-thinking, but it does bother me slightly to be taller, and not because I judge him. For me, it brings up those adolescent feelings of being made fun of for being tall. I know, it's silly, but I can't help how I feel. It's ridiculous how much attention (positive and negative) you get as a woman just for being tall. I have heard... You should play basketball.They say long legs lead straight to heaven. Wow, you're tall. Have you thought about being a model? (whatever)...hundreds of times. And the funny part is that every guy who makes these statements thinks he's so clever and original. I'm down with tall women; they're hot.
Stung Posted April 9, 2010 Posted April 9, 2010 I'm six feet tall and have dated several men shorter than myself over the years. No, I never cared what my friends thought. Although if they'd been such assh*les as to mock me/him about it, I might have cared enough to start reconsidering my friendships with them. I choose not to surround myself with shallow people who have trouble thinking for themselves and behave like children. Personal choice.
make me believe Posted April 9, 2010 Posted April 9, 2010 I'm 5'7" and dated a guy a couple inches shorter than me a couple years ago. I wouldn't immediately reject a guy based on his height, but I do prefer my current bf (who is about 6'1"). I like to wear heels but never wanted to around the short guy because they'd make me a good 5-6 inches taller than him! Plus, I hated feeling like I could pick him up and throw him around if I wanted to. He wasn't scrawny or anything, but I dunno.. Being taller than him always just made me feel like I was a big giant hulk! I think it's super lame of your friends to make those comments, though. Nobody ever commented on our height difference, even when I asked friends/coworkers if they thought it was weird. If they did think it was weird, they were at least polite enough not to say so!!
Engadget Posted April 9, 2010 Posted April 9, 2010 Not a fan of tall women, meaning 5'10'' and over. I love short girls more than anything.
boogieboy Posted April 9, 2010 Posted April 9, 2010 I think it's super lame of your friends to make those comments,QUOTE] Super Lame??? Such harsh language....
PhillySpecial Posted April 9, 2010 Posted April 9, 2010 I have a friend who's girlfriend is tall than him and I think it is cute. She's about 2 to 4 inches taller than him. However, when I was with my other friends today, they brought this up and started laughing about it and making a big deal out of it. Now, he wasn't there to hear it and my friends would never tell him directly but I thought it was a bit insensitive. I reckon good on him for getting out there and dating. Whereas my other friends, they talk about these "standards" that they have about dating hot girls and whatnot, when 1) they've never dated in their whole entire lives and 2) they've never approached any girl before. I'll say that my friend and his girlfriend wouldn't care about what people say, but I was wondering what you guys thought? Girls would you date a guy shorter than you? Guys would you date a girl taller than you? Do you care about what your friends think? Its obvious that your friends are haters. While he's getting laid, your friends are masturbating. Haters are always going to hate regardless- so who cares what they think.
troggleputty Posted April 9, 2010 Posted April 9, 2010 Wow I must be old, because I can't even remember what it was like to be as immature as your friends.
make me believe Posted April 9, 2010 Posted April 9, 2010 One of my good friends is 5'10" and she is constantly being hit on when we go out (she usually wears heels too), and a lot of these guys are shorter than her. So I guess there are a lot of guys out there who don't mind being with a taller woman. Super Lame??? Such harsh language.... OH, but when I was dating the short guy, it really bugged me when we were laying in bed together and my feet stuck out farther than his did. It was just a little thing, but for some reason it always bothered me! Or when we sat on the couch and my knees stuck out further. As far as I know it never bothered him, though.
Dolos Posted April 10, 2010 Posted April 10, 2010 While i wouldn't rule a woman out because of height alone, its pretty unlikely I'm going to meet a woman who is taller than me (That I'm also interested in) considering I'm about 6'4". In the more general sense ive known both men and women who were concerned about height in a potential partner, so i think its something either gender can worry about, though most people i know don't care much about height.
Author counterman Posted April 10, 2010 Author Posted April 10, 2010 As for my friends, it was two of them actually making a real racket about this and the rest laughing along, one of them I am pretty close to and the other I am loosely associated with. As for my closer friend, he has made some shallow comments before and I just let it slide because that's him. The thing was that the other person didn't know that our friend was dating, so my friend brought it up and straight after bringing it up, he would bring up the height joke and laugh about it. It's really immature. They're around their 20s. I do think it is a jealously thing as well. I find it funny how while he's out with a girl and having fun dating while a couple of my single friends, who have never dated, are laughing about it. Who cares what they think though, I know, but I just find it a little rude and I find these jokes are getting old. I mean, I have been the target of my closer friend's shallow jokes before, e.g. about what I wear, and sometimes it would be brought up in front of people and it could be embarrassing but I tend to not let things bother me. I am also sick of people saying "that's just him!", in general about any guy, because it allows people to keep doing what they think is right, when it's not. A lot of my friends just laugh along, whether they think it's funny or not, to avoid any conflict but I'm starting to wonder whether I should speak out or continue to ignore it. I understand where all the preferences and they're fine. I have a preference to date woman same height or shorter than me as well. However, I watched a clip on youtube and this guy was talking about how shorter guys should date women shorter than them because they have to be the man and have to feel like the man. He says he sees shorter men dating models who tower over them and its just weird.
Author counterman Posted June 9, 2010 Author Posted June 9, 2010 Argh. Recently, my friend got together with his close girl friend. We were talking about it and then he says "I think she'll dump him soon" (in reference to the subject of this thread). I don't know what it is with competitiveness or ego, but I think it is sad to wish ill-fortunes for your friends.
espec10001 Posted June 9, 2010 Posted June 9, 2010 I'm about 6'0, and I dated a girl once of about equal height. Woah she was WILD
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