VertexSquared Posted April 9, 2010 Posted April 9, 2010 I got into a debate with some friends tonight and figured I'd share: To those of you who consider yourselves family-oriented/sexually traditional: 1. Why do you choose this type of lifestyle? 2. What is your view on affection and how far is your limit, sexually? (i.e. are you hardcore and don't even hold hands, or do you draw the line at kissing? Oral sex? Intercourse?) 3. What would you think about a guy you were interested in that happened to be sexual? 4. Would you ever change your view (say if you really, really loved the guy) or are you firm in your stance?
Crazy Magnet Posted April 9, 2010 Posted April 9, 2010 Can you define what you mean by family-oriented/sexually traditional?
Author VertexSquared Posted April 9, 2010 Author Posted April 9, 2010 That is precisely what I am asking this board. How do you define it and what are your boundaries/thoughts?
Crazy Magnet Posted April 9, 2010 Posted April 9, 2010 1. Why do you choose this type of lifestyle? I can't really say I'm over the top traditional, but I certainly want marriage and a family and that is my main relationship goal. I hope it happens at some point. 2. What is your view on affection and how far is your limit, sexually? (i.e. are you hardcore and don't even hold hands, or do you draw the line at kissing? Oral sex? Intercourse?) I'm certainly not going to marry someone if I haven't seen what they can do in the bedroom! Other than my...ummm...post divorce insanity phase, I tend to keep sex in long term relationships and require some type of commitment before I'll get naked. I'm very openly affectionate in relationships though. 3. What would you think about a guy you were interested in that happened to be sexual? Yippie! I dated Mr. Traditional Sex Guy once....worst sex of my life. It was one of may contributing factors that led to me ending things with him. Overall he was too traditional for me and kept trying to make me fit into some Martha Stewart role. Ugh. I'm not Martha. 4. Would you ever change your view (say if you really, really loved the guy) or are you firm in your stance? I didn't change my view from non-traditional to traditional, and the guy wasn't willing to become less traditional, so I'm going to say no. We are who we are and we like what we like. No amount of "love" is going to make someone change their sexual style, hence, I believe it's very important to make sure you are compatible before walking down the isle.
Els Posted April 9, 2010 Posted April 9, 2010 I got into a debate with some friends tonight and figured I'd share: To those of you who consider yourselves family-oriented/sexually traditional: 1. Why do you choose this type of lifestyle? Sheer necessity. Abortion is illegal in my country. 2. What is your view on affection and how far is your limit, sexually? (i.e. are you hardcore and don't even hold hands, or do you draw the line at kissing? Oral sex? Intercourse?) Vaginal intercourse. It's the only thing that stands a reasonable chance of getting me pregnant. 3. What would you think about a guy you were interested in that happened to be sexual? Uh. Not sure what this means. 4. Would you ever change your view (say if you really, really loved the guy) or are you firm in your stance? Only if I ever move to a country which does allow abortion and both he and I have discussed the possibilities and are mentally prepared for it (ie he won't chicken out on me if it happens). .................
cooldudeinberlin Posted April 9, 2010 Posted April 9, 2010 1. Why do you choose this type of lifestyle? I can't really say I'm over the top traditional, but I certainly want marriage and a family and that is my main relationship goal. I hope it happens at some point. 2. What is your view on affection and how far is your limit, sexually? (i.e. are you hardcore and don't even hold hands, or do you draw the line at kissing? Oral sex? Intercourse?) I'm certainly not going to marry someone if I haven't seen what they can do in the bedroom! Other than my...ummm...post divorce insanity phase, I tend to keep sex in long term relationships and require some type of commitment before I'll get naked. I'm very openly affectionate in relationships though. 3. What would you think about a guy you were interested in that happened to be sexual? Yippie! I dated Mr. Traditional Sex Guy once....worst sex of my life. It was one of may contributing factors that led to me ending things with him. Overall he was too traditional for me and kept trying to make me fit into some Martha Stewart role. Ugh. I'm not Martha. 4. Would you ever change your view (say if you really, really loved the guy) or are you firm in your stance? I didn't change my view from non-traditional to traditional, and the guy wasn't willing to become less traditional, so I'm going to say no. We are who we are and we like what we like. No amount of "love" is going to make someone change their sexual style, hence, I believe it's very important to make sure you are compatible before walking down the isle. ahhhh.... so refreshing to hear an experienced, confident woman who knows and doesnt delude herself ... nothing more sexy and stimulating than that!
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