eraser Posted April 10, 2010 Posted April 10, 2010 And as incredibly mad and frustrated i am at her right now i'm still attracted to her. why? it doesn't make sense You're still attracted to her because she can get you worked up. You're confusing a good worked up with a bad worked up, though. only a few days ago we went out to lunch, and while we were walking she held my hand. i let her everytime, i didn't initiate it until when we were leaving. then a few days later she says she doesn't want to get back together?? like wth happened? I am telling you, dump this girl and cut off all contact. Block her communications...instant messengers, phone numbers, whatever. You're just going to keep going around and around in these circles if you don't. She will make you miserable. By that time, it won't be any fault but your own for allowing her to do so.
sagetalk Posted April 10, 2010 Posted April 10, 2010 "F*** you" and hung up. If a girl did that to me, we would be finished. That is ridiculous to put up with disrespectful crap like this. Any women who treats her man like that is no women I'd want to be with. She sounds like a loony. I encourage you to find a loving relationship elsewhere than the good-ship drama that this girl seems to be.
Author femaletroubles Posted April 10, 2010 Author Posted April 10, 2010 You're still attracted to her because she can get you worked up. You're confusing a good worked up with a bad worked up, though. I am telling you, dump this girl and cut off all contact. Block her communications...instant messengers, phone numbers, whatever. You're just going to keep going around and around in these circles if you don't. She will make you miserable. By that time, it won't be any fault but your own for allowing her to do so. If a girl did that to me, we would be finished. That is ridiculous to put up with disrespectful crap like this. Any women who treats her man like that is no women I'd want to be with. She sounds like a loony. I encourage you to find a loving relationship elsewhere than the good-ship drama that this girl seems to be. thanks, yes, i am still attracted to her, but i feel like you're right, if she treats me like this now then how bad would it be if we eventually married. i'll just move on, i won't let someone treat me like that. it's ashame bc when we were together and not arguing we got along better than anyone i've ever been with, but the other side of her is too volatile. oh well, at least lessons were learned god-ship drama lol
Engadget Posted April 10, 2010 Posted April 10, 2010 Then, forget your ex and enjoy this new girl. Be prepared to have your ex come back for round two, though- especially if she hears that you're dating someone else. Women are incredibly selfish this way, aren't they? My ex is gone, but when I mentioned I got kind of involved with someone she got ultra-jealous. Despite the fact that she doesn't want to be with me. I don't know about other men, but if I cheat/run away from a girl and I find out she's with someone else, I wouldn't care. I would be at the point where whatever they did wouldn't matter to me anymore.
eraser Posted April 10, 2010 Posted April 10, 2010 I don't know about other men, but if I cheat/run away from a girl and I find out she's with someone else, I wouldn't care. I would be at the point where whatever they did wouldn't matter to me anymore. Most men wouldn't. Generally, I think men find it much easier to drop a person and move on. Women, though...I don't even know where to begin. They could absolutely have no interest in you, yet still try to claim you as their own. They will get jealous and even literally fight over you...but still want nothing to do with you. I don't blame men for being confused most of the time. Most of women's actions seem to be completely contradictory.
Engadget Posted April 10, 2010 Posted April 10, 2010 Most men wouldn't. Generally, I think men find it much easier to drop a person and move on. Women, though...I don't even know where to begin. They could absolutely have no interest in you, yet still try to claim you as their own. They will get jealous and even literally fight over you...but still want nothing to do with you. I don't blame men for being confused most of the time. Most of women's actions seem to be completely contradictory. That's because women are insane, yes. It's like quitting a job you don't like and then freaking out when they hired someone to take your spot.
eraser Posted April 10, 2010 Posted April 10, 2010 That's because women are insane, yes. It's like quitting a job you don't like and then freaking out when they hired someone to take your spot. Haha. That's exactly what it's like. It's like quitting the post office because you don't like the routes and the attitudes that people have...and the next day, showing up with an AK-47 to take out the guy that hired your replacement and the replacement herself. Bad analogy? Maybe. It's the best I can come up with this morning, though.
carhill Posted April 10, 2010 Posted April 10, 2010 I'm completely confused! I don't know what this girl is thinking? should i just tell her, "if we're not getting back together, goodbye?" Unconfuse yourself. Who cares what she's thinking. You're not together anymore. She's just f*cking your mind with her words. *Watch her actions*.
Author femaletroubles Posted April 10, 2010 Author Posted April 10, 2010 haha yes, seems to be true about women. She only came back and said she wanted to get back together after she had heard i had a new GF, (i had gone on a few dates, but not yet dating) i told her lets take it slow over the next few weeks, before we get back together. work out the kinks so things run smoothly. We were getting along really well so i say i want to get back together, and then she doesn't?! she says last night after i told her i didn't like how she responded, that i have a date for the weekend (literally took 5 minutes to setup), "she likes me as friend but we won't work as a couple" she was getting all mad, saying things like "i want nothing to do with you. forget you know me" etc she's said that all last time too i feel like she wanted me committed to her, but didn't want to be committed to me, she only wanted the good parts of the relationship, never wanted to talk through any problems. if we had an argument and i wanted to explain my point, she would just say "you're just making excuses" it's not an excuse, it's my point of view on the matter /rant lol
eraser Posted April 10, 2010 Posted April 10, 2010 i feel like she wanted me committed to her, but didn't want to be committed to me That's exactly what she wants. Just drop this girl. Don't be seduced back into the cycle. Find yourself another girl who actually has her head screwed on straight. And stop putting up with BS, because girls will sense that and jump all over it.
Author femaletroubles Posted April 10, 2010 Author Posted April 10, 2010 That's exactly what she wants. Just drop this girl. Don't be seduced back into the cycle. Find yourself another girl who actually has her head screwed on straight. And stop putting up with BS, because girls will sense that and jump all over it. good advice, it's hard though, but you're right the more i look back the more i realize how i wasn't valued by her. oh well, life moves on it's been helpful to get this off my chest. definitely learned a lesson from this one another question: i see her everyday, should i just not speak to her? should i act like she doesn't exist and go back to my "outgoing" personality even when she's around? i know she'll act like i don't exist
eraser Posted April 10, 2010 Posted April 10, 2010 another question: i see her everyday, should i just not speak to her? should i act like she doesn't exist and go back to my "outgoing" personality even when she's around? i know she'll act like i don't exist Don't speak to her. Return to your "outgoing" personality. Don't let her presence dictate your personality or how you interact with others. If you let her do that, you will be allowing her to continue manipulating you. Don't worry about hurting her feelings. She has proven that she doesn't care about yours.
Author femaletroubles Posted April 10, 2010 Author Posted April 10, 2010 Don't speak to her. Return to your "outgoing" personality. Don't let her presence dictate your personality or how you interact with others. If you let her do that, you will be allowing her to continue manipulating you. Don't worry about hurting her feelings. She has proven that she doesn't care about yours. i want to, but i won't speak to her. it's hard because i still really like her, but she takes anything i do for grant-it, and walks all over me. It's a very sad situation, ashame it turned out like this. she was just stringing me on, even though she denied it. because if she really loved me, she would have said she only wanted to date me, and we would have gotten back together. I still don't understand why she got so mad at the fact i said i was going to see other people. makes me think she still wanted me, but i think she didn't want me to be with anyone else? confusing lol thanks, i'm going for the 100% no contact from now on...she does not exist.
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