aussieguy Posted April 9, 2010 Posted April 9, 2010 Hey everyone, Just needed to vent some anger. My G/F of 2 1/2 years broke up with me 13 days ago, i went NC for 9 days and was doing pretty well. Managing to get out of the house a lot and go to the gym/work. Went away for the weekend with a mate etc. During those 9 days i received a few messages from her, firstly having a go at me because she thought i was seeing other girls etc even though i wasn't. At the end of the first week i received a message saying: i miss you... I didnt want to break NC so i didnt respond, didnt hear from her at all over the weekend when i was away. Then once i got back, i received another message saying: i miss you heaps. Still not wanting to break NC i didnt reply, her messages became more frequent ever 2-3 hours asking why i dont respond and why i dont miss her etc. I gave in and replied to one saying i miss you too, just to test the waters. Once i did that i didnt hear back for 2 days until i received another message saying i miss you heaps. I didnt reply, then she started hassling me again saying i must have a new girlfriend and asking how i could move on so quickly and that she wants me to know that she misses me heaps and heaps. I replied saying there was no one else. I didnt hear back from her again for a day. She then had a go at me saying why did i lie about not having someone else and asked if i care that we arent together or if shes the only one hurting? I didnt reply and she messaged me another 4-5 times asking why im not talking to her. I gave in again this morning and replied: Because its hard talking to someone you love when they dont want to be with you. Now i havent heard back from her, been 6 hours. Why do girls play these games? Its confusing me sooo much. Seems like she tries to make me tell her how much i miss her and want to be with her then when i do she ignores me.
GrayClouds Posted April 9, 2010 Posted April 9, 2010 It hurt her ego to think that you moved on and once you confirmed you did not she no longer had need for you. Boys play this game too, girls do not have the monopoly in being selfish. At least you learn not to play her games again.
Author aussieguy Posted April 9, 2010 Author Posted April 9, 2010 It hurt her ego to think that you moved on and once you confirmed you did not she no longer had need for you. Boys play this game too, girls do not have the monopoly in being selfish. At least you learn not to play her games again. I thought that was the case as well. Although she continued messaging me for 2-3 days after i told her that there was no one else. Why would she continue to say she misses me and how much she is hurting?
GrayClouds Posted April 9, 2010 Posted April 9, 2010 I thought that was the case as well. Although she continued messaging me for 2-3 days after i told her that there was no one else. Why would she continue to say she misses me and how much she is hurting? Three reasons to build her ego, to relieve her guilt, and/or to keep you on the hook so if that new guy she has her eye on does not work out. Or more simply she behaving selfish and, sorry to say, she does not really have respect for you for she thinks you will wait around for her while she gives you bread crumbs. Never make someone a priority if they only sees you as as option. It will be better, good luck.
Chochobong Posted April 9, 2010 Posted April 9, 2010 It's f***ing BS unless she shows she wants to be with you again. She's stringing you along trying to have her cake and eat it too. Ego boost too, I agree. You should make it clear that anything less than reconciliation of the relationship is unacceptable. After that NC unless she proves she wants you back (and you still want her back at that time).
Author aussieguy Posted April 9, 2010 Author Posted April 9, 2010 Yep i totally agree with both of you. Im not getting too caught up in it all, i try to separate my feelings from the text messages so that i don't get too down if i don't get a response etc. Just so hard not to reply when she makes me think that she could want me back and that if i dont show some interest back she will eventually move on.
GrayClouds Posted April 9, 2010 Posted April 9, 2010 Yep i totally agree with both of you. Im not getting too caught up in it all, i try to separate my feelings from the text messages so that i don't get too down if i don't get a response etc. Just so hard not to reply when she makes me think that she could want me back and that if i dont show some interest back she will eventually move on. Follow the recommendation in this link to help you: So you want a second chance? if you do it will turn out exactly like it is suppose to.
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