rehab Posted April 9, 2010 Posted April 9, 2010 The girl I've been seeing has been saying she wants to call it off yet every time we see each other it just leads to sex/comfort/everything else you'd expect. Last time this happened she said that was it, we've been texting the same amount and everything over the past week and after reading a few threads I feel the best option (both in terms of getting her back and/or dealing with the end of our relationship). It's my birthday this weekend and I told her not to come, she cracked the ****s with me over it and I explained my approach, she agreed it was reasonable but I ended up telling her to come anyway as we're good friends and were before we started seeing each other. Regardless of what happens this weekend I need to know how to deal with this, NC sounds good but we have (alot of) mutual friends so I'm going to hear about her life from friends which will be **** (and knowing that they see her when I'm not). My greatest concern I guess is her seeing someone else, I dunno how I'd deal with that. Help
Author rehab Posted April 9, 2010 Author Posted April 9, 2010 Last time this happened she said that was it, we've been texting the same amount and everything over the past week and after reading a few threads I feel the best option (both in terms of getting her back and/or dealing with the end of our relationship) I NO CONTACT. Amended, sorry.
haushy14 Posted April 10, 2010 Posted April 10, 2010 It seems to me as if this girl is kind of using you for something. In my opinion, I feel that when you guys get together it's because she needs love or something, not because she needs you. And she probably doesnt mind cutting things off, because she knows that you care about her and she takes advantage of that. I think you should sit down and have a convo with her, basically saying that you care about her, but she needs to make up her mind about what she wants and you cant keep being at her call. It helps that you guys have mutual friends because maybe you can gain insight from others that actually know her. But if it were me, I would have to make it either all or nothing regaurdless of how much it hurts. Its ultimatley best for you
monkeymaid Posted April 10, 2010 Posted April 10, 2010 yup. shes being wishy washy. step up and put your foot down. either shes in or shes out. no more of this on/off crap. ...i know its not that easy, but it is that simple!
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