Contact, how often?

[shadowsfall]

I have two concerns. I started dating a girl recently who lives about 30 miles away from me. Due to our busy schedules we really only see each other one day every weekend. I'm a little concerned that this may not be enough contact to sustain us if we decide to progress into a relationship. What do you think? I know it also depends on the frequency of our contact and that's another question I have. We JUST started dating a few weeks ago so I'm trying to be a little reserved with much contact I give her in the beginning stages. She has initiated contact all this week by calling me last Sunday and texting me yesterday. In my response to her text, I did ask if she was available to talk last night, which we did. My question is, how much contact should I be giving her without appearing too desperate yet interested at the same time? I'd like to text her today because I haven't initiated any contact with her this week aside from asking to speak to her last night (as a reply to her text) but I don't want to come across as too eager. I don't want her to think that I'm uninterested simply because I haven't initiated any communication.

Edited April 9, 2010 by shadowsfall

[lostnconfused22]

I say call her when you want too, but if she starts ignoring / not calling back, back off right away and never push contact.

 

I'm not a firm believer in long distance relationships, but if you think she's worth it, keep it casual and try not to stress, she'll let you know if she needs more time with you.

 

Good luck!

[make me believe]

You're playing games & thinking about things way too seriously. If you want to call or text her, do it!! How is she going to know that you're interested if you don't show her? Blah. I hate all of this game playing. There is nothing wrong with showing interest, as long as you're not texting her all day long or going over the top. If I always had to initiate contact with a guy, I would definitely assume he wasn't interested and I would move on.

 

I wouldn't worry too much about the distance for now. 30 miles isn't a lot, and if things get serious you can always stay the entire weekend with her or vice versa, and maybe a night during the week. Or if the 30 miles would make your commute to school/work too much, you could always meet in the middle for dates during the week too.