cg27 Posted April 8, 2010 Posted April 8, 2010 Yesterday my ex come over to pick up some of her things that have been here a while. This is a girl I proposed to. (I admit I took me a really long time to propose) I was told we need to move forward together, or move on. I told her I want to move forward. I looked for a perfect diamond; well it took me 3 weeks to get it. I was put on hold for a month waiting for an answer to finally get a no. It had some weak moments, I hated this answer, but I had to accept it, she told me NO. I was starting to get better. When she said no I got rid of the diamond, and bought the car of my dreams. I was upset, and struggled. But I made myself go out with friends, and have a good time frequently. She knocks on my door, and gives me a hug. I was surprised a hug, this has not happened in months. She told me she had something she wanted to ask me. I told her OK. I will listen. She asked me if I would talk to her family, and let them know what my intentions were with her. How I bought her a ring, and told her she is the one who I would like to spend the rest of my life with. I asked her if she had a change of heart. She told me has a lot of things going through her mind, and it is very important to her that her family knows my intentions. Her family’s full acceptance would be a deciding factor. I am still in love with her, and I wanted to do this for her. We were sitting on the couch holding hands. WOW I have not done this in 3 months with her. I really started get excited. I thought my second chance was coming I wanted so badly. I felt those butterflies in my stomach come out again. Everything was it ease. We began to talk about some good times in the past, and she brought up a time 2 ½ years ago right before we first began to date. She told me thinks I can do better than her. I told her honey. You are great. You are you, and let’s give this a shot. We began to date shortly after. Well when she was telling me this we were holding hands, and she looks me right in the eye, and says I can do much better then you now. I was so angry, and upset. I busted out in tears, and told her she needs to go. This was my breaking point. I wish her no ill will. I just have nothing to say to her. I was so upset. I actually took the time 9 hours and wrote her a 15 page email. I let everything in my head, and heart flow out, and it sure did. It felt great. It was a friendly, and loving email. But I also let her know what she can, and can’t do and what my limits are. I know she will read it. And read it again. I know she won’t delete it. I also know someday she will be in a low point in her life, and read this email and wish she was not so stubborn, and heartless toward me. When she does I know she will look for me, and realizes what a mistake she made, and see’s that I am in love with someone else that will take care of my heart. Her loss not mine. I do not need people like her in my life. As of yesterday I lost respect for her. I have no choice but to move on. What she did made me realize I don't want a second chance with her.
blueeyedman Posted April 8, 2010 Posted April 8, 2010 I have been there myself and can empathise with you. Over the years I have come to the conclusion that sometimes the fear of being alone drives certain women more than the fact they want to be specifically with me. I think you need some distance to be able to step back and see it from the outside. Then you can discover how you now really feel about this woman. It is not easy but whatever you decide is the right decision. good luck. kris.
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