tincanman99 Posted April 8, 2010 Posted April 8, 2010 First off let me state that I have quite a few women friends and have good relationships with them and I dont try to sleep with them. They are just friends and thats it. A while back I met this woman at my gym. From the beginning I knew she was married and was never attracted to her. This is not the crazy exercise woman but another one. I was sitting on a bench waiting for my trainer one day she starts the conversation with me by asking me if I can ask my trainer how she can fat reduction in a certain spot. I was like first off, you cant do fat reduction in one spot and second you should ask her yourself. I said you know her, she is friendly and she will tell you. She was like, I am not comfortable doing that and than she tells me she thinks my trainer is a total b*tch. I was kind of taken aback because I have been with my trainer for a year and am pretty close with her. I dont know this person from a hole in the wall and you are telling me my trainer is a b*tch. Needless to say I just rolled with it. After a time I got friendly with her. Turns out she is married to someone I knew from one of my former employers. I sensed not everything was right at home so I have kept my distance. At times she was trying to flirt with me and behave like a woman that was interested. I made it clear though even though I am friendly I am just that - FRIENDLY, NOTHING ELSE. I did not lead her on, nor encourage her. In that time she has said some blatantly sexual things to which shocked me considering that I dont really know her that well. I was not shocked that women think this stuff so much as she verbalized it to me. An example, telling me that she needed a guy's equipmen to be so big. I was like um, ok. On top of this she annoys me at times. Gives me opinions and says things about myself like I was involved with her - telling me that my shirt does not go with those pants, you need to have your 1 tooth whitened (the one that is damaged) and on and on. Frankly I dont want to hear this crap and just because you are friendly with me does not give you the right to critique me. I dont like it and frankly the personalities dont click. The other day I made it a point to tell her a story about a woman I know that wanted to sleep with me and I told the woman no. The reason being is that i just dont want any problems and that I CONTROL where my equipment goes, my equipment doesnt control me. I made the story funny but I she got the point. Last night one of the other trainers asked how my trainer was doing as she had not seen her in a long time. We chatted for about 15 minutes about my trainer. This other woman was there. Now I recognize that many women cant stand my trainer because frankly she is in amazing physical condition and the men love her. But that being said, my trainer is just my pal and thats it. This morning I get this really nasty email from this woman. Telling me I am a piece of garbage, am just like all the rest of the men, think with my equipment, blah, blah. I was like um, thats nice and DELETE without responding. I dont need nor want this grief. I have not slept with her, hit on her or done ANYTHING out of the ordinary. I treat her just everyone else. You are just another FRIEND. I mean for a while I sensed that she was liking me but she is MARRIED and frankly we dont click. And I made a point to keep it light and loose. Is she becoming beligerant because I wont hit on her or she is jealous of my trainer or is it all of the above. In any event I sense major drama ahead and want absolutely NO PART OF THIS.
eraser Posted April 8, 2010 Posted April 8, 2010 Is she becoming beligerant because I wont hit on her or she is jealous of my trainer or is it all of the above. In any event I sense major drama ahead and want absolutely NO PART OF THIS. Both. She is obviously sending cues that you are recognizing but not responding to. Then, she sees you giving another female attention and she gets jealous. She sounds like a bit of a nutcase, too.
LittleMissWonder Posted April 8, 2010 Posted April 8, 2010 Um, yeah. Sounds like a drama queen. She was obviously into you, maybe just for the sake of cheating on her husband, and when you didn't reciprocate, she got pissed at you. Don't even give it another thought. Not worth your brain cells
boogieboy Posted April 8, 2010 Posted April 8, 2010 Part of this story has to be missing because you skipped the part about giving her your email. What did you do that for? And whats the rest of the story?
Author tincanman99 Posted April 8, 2010 Author Posted April 8, 2010 Part of this story has to be missing because you skipped the part about giving her your email. What did you do that for? And whats the rest of the story? I gave her my email because I was being friendly. I am very open to making new friends, I totally into this networking thing and this is how you do it. I did not think anything of it because I share my email with people I am friendly with. Thats all. Hind sight being what it is, it was a mistake.
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