romer Posted April 8, 2010 Posted April 8, 2010 I was in a relationship with my ex-boyfriend for a year and a half, and we just broke up in late February of this year. His reason is that he may want to have kids one day (I can't have any). This after telling me the whole time he never wants kids...I was having suspicions for a couple of weeks right before the break-up, that he had someone else. I was right. I didn't find out until a week or so ago for sure, and now he and she are all over facebook. She isn't even what I would have thought he'd go for, I am no goddess, but I thought he'd go for someone prettier and thinner than me. She even has a history of smoking crack. I am a responsible single mother, holding down two jobs, never even smoked a cigarette in my life. What gets me is that he is doing things with her that he never did with me. His even having a facebook page is unheard of. I tried getting him to do it when we were together, and he refused. Now there are pictures of them at the beach, etc. I can't stop going and looking at them. During our relationship, he lost a sister, and I lost my mom. We were together during some very tough times. He broke up with me a month or so after my mom died, and immediately started bringing this new girl out in public. I feel used, angry, severely depressed, low self esteem, I don't even want to get out of bed. I am losing weight like crazy. The friends that I do have just say I will get over it. They aren't really listening, and I am feeling like no one really cares. I am trying to deal with the grief of losing my mother on top of this. My world has literally crashed down on me. I was so secure in our relationship, and he knew at the beginning how insecure I was because of the guy I was with before him....he was my best friend. Now he is just gone from my life. I feel like I cannot cope. I have a child and with two jobs I support myself so I cannot miss any work to try to deal with this pain...
GrayClouds Posted April 8, 2010 Posted April 8, 2010 Sorry for your lost, I responded to your post on coping.
tiwani Posted April 9, 2010 Posted April 9, 2010 I am truly sorry for your loss. I cant even imagine losing my mother. In a way I am going through the same thing, and I wish more than anything that I could help you. All I can offer is my support. If you need to just vent to me or anything, please know that you can vent all you want as long as you want:) And if I find a way to cope with at least the break-up part, seeing as I haven't experienced the rest, I will let you know, but if you don't hear from me about it by the time you figure it out, will you tell me what to do? lol Best Wishes and Deepest Sympathy.
EmperorR Posted April 9, 2010 Posted April 9, 2010 sorry I know it sucks but time heals, look we have all been there, most times than not if someone breaks up with you they already have someone waiting in the wings, can't do anything about it stop trying to compare, just know you deserve more.
Author romer Posted April 9, 2010 Author Posted April 9, 2010 Thank you both for your input. Tiwani, I already feel better today. Not great, but more hopeful. After reading all of the posts on this website, I realize I am not alone. My only option is to go on. I still have a life, and as someone pointed out to me, I had one before him. The hardest part is that my mom is gone. She was my best friend and always knew just what to say. I try to think of what she would tell me, and I think I know. She would say there is nothing I can do about it, accept it, and move on. If he wants you he will contact you, but would you really want to get back with someone that you know doubted his feelings for you and told you he doesn't see a future for you? Especially after everything we'd been through? And the answer to that would be no. My mother was the best. We were so close that I can still hear her everyday in every situation, so I am keeping my heart and my ears open and maybe the two will be in sinc.
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