always_searching Posted April 8, 2010 Posted April 8, 2010 I'd rather be alone than try to force myself to love someone. Now, if I was in love with the person I am with and that love faded, I would do everything in my power to retrieve and maintain it. That's presuming I was married to this person--otherwise, I'd just leave.
TaraMaiden Posted April 8, 2010 Posted April 8, 2010 *I'm jiggin' here*.... If you can't be with the one you love, and you love the one you're with - you're a cheater. if you can't be with the one you love - don't be with anyone. Sex-text and use a vibe. You know it makes sense....
123BeachFan Posted April 8, 2010 Posted April 8, 2010 As wonderfully pragmatic as it sounds, you cannot will yourself into loving someone. Either it's there, or it's not.
aerogurl87 Posted April 8, 2010 Posted April 8, 2010 Yeah if I was with someone for a few months and I wasn't in love with them I'd just leave. Because it's kinda selfish when you think about it to lie and tell someone you love them, when you know you don't. And eventually it'll come to the light, and in the end both people will be more hurt.
marsle85 Posted April 8, 2010 Posted April 8, 2010 Theoretically - if you're the ideal background (single, attractive, economically independent) you have a lot to offer the romantic world. I say "drop the loser and move on"... However- this is not the case for a good amount of people. You simply cannot drop your husband of 20 years when you have 3 children and other financial responsibilities. Well you can, but not if you want to avoid financial hardship and (most importantly) provide a strong, stable foundation for your children. I know this conflicts with many people's views. But coming from parents who have been married 30 years and nearly got a divorce 5 years ago- I KNOW what stress I was under. Children and adolescents are sponges and can psychologically be HUGELY impacted by changes like above, often moreso than parents. My adolescence has easily been the hardest part of my life as of yet- and I know this would have been greatly impacted had my parents not stuck it out, gone to therapy and continued to provide a loving environment. I KNOW for a fact, that if my parents were to get divorced today- I could respond in a more mature, understanding and capable way than had they divorced when I was 15. I appreciate them everyday for giving me that strength. So. Yeah, in some cases... love the one you're with.
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