MalachiX Posted April 8, 2010 Posted April 8, 2010 A couple months ago I ended up flying out to California to attend a film festival. I kinda had my eye on a girl for much of the fest but was too shy to talk to her since it was my first festival, there were people a lot further in their careers than I, and I felt kinda out of my league (my group didn't even have fliers or a promotional poster). Much to my surprise, my film ending up winning the festival which made it a bit easier to talk to the girl. Unfortunatly, by that point, everyone was heading home so we got to hang out a bit on the last day but that was it. Interestingly enough, we stayed in touch with face book and have chatted quite a bit online. Initially, she invited me to crash with her next time I visited New York City (I was booked at another fest on the East Coast) but I ended up having to bail on that event because of another in LA. In what seems like an awesome stroke of luck, she also is now in LA working on an indie-film and we made plans to hang out after my stuff this Friday. The thing is, I'm not quite sure exactly how to proceede when I'm only in town for one night. Despite being absolutely gorgoues (kind of out of my league actually), I'm pretty sure this girl likes me (we started text recently and I she keeps ending with emoticons which, in my limited experience, is always a good sign). Normally when I start dating someone I take things slow (because I'm a wimp), but this time limit of kinda throws that strategy out the window. I'm not just trying to get into this girl's pants (of course, I wouldn't be opposed to it) but I'm trying to figure out how one handles oneself when it's basically a "one-time" date.
PhillySpecial Posted April 8, 2010 Posted April 8, 2010 Show up to her door with a dildo and be like "I wanna f*ck".
cooldudeinberlin Posted April 8, 2010 Posted April 8, 2010 too shy to talk to her... I felt kinda out of my league... which made it a bit easier to talk to the girl. ... I'm not quite sure exactly how to proceede ... Despite being absolutely gorgoues (kind of out of my league actually), I'm pretty sure this girl likes me ...(because I'm a wimp), ...time limit of kinda throws that strategy out the window ... I'm not just trying to get into this girl's pants (of course, I wouldn't be opposed to it) but I'm trying to figure out how one handles oneself when it's basically a "one-time" date. Dude... you need to work on yourself... your self image, confidence, liking yourself, being comfortable with yourself all need some serious inner reflection. There is no strategy to creating attraction... its an emotion that is either there or it isnt... and falling back on some festival award because you didnt have the nads to do it, isnt going to work in your favor... even if it does slightly, not for long. you putting this girl on a pedalstal is a huge mistake. You are already putting yourself beneath her and she basically has you eating out the palm of her hand... trust me, there is nothing you can do to hide this... your body language, comments, actions, etc. will all reveal this and whatever interest she has will dissipate. 1.) there is no "protocol" for a one night... nothing wrong with this agenda of yours to getting laid... but its most likely not going to happen, even if she wanted to... women arent attracted to inconfident men who put themselves beneath them... they have to look up or feel equal. 2.) I would really suggest you stop putting yourself down and focusing on all these negative things about yourself that YOU are manifesting... these fears and insecurities dont exist... they only do when YOU make them real. Best advice... relax, have NO expectations, stop fantasizing (because its not going to happen... probably not even a magical kiss)... so get that out of your head and just enjoy your time with her as if she was a regular buddy... dont compliment her looks or come across as trying to buy her drinks/dinner ("bribe"), etc. Its pretty transparent. Treat her like a chick you are totally not attracted to... keep yourself under control, calm and cool....
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