happygirl1234 Posted April 8, 2010 Posted April 8, 2010 This may sound like a weird question. But I'm a MW and I'm contemplating an A with a MM. We are friends and, depending on how things go, I can see crossing that line with him one day. So here's the weird question: I can't quite figure out WHERE we could consummate the relationship? We work together, so in theory there could be some great quickies at the office. But this is always risky, and I have no desire whatsoever to be caught. I would prefer another location. Our houses are also too risky (and I wouldn't do that to my H, as strange as that may sound). I know hotels/motels are always available, but this seems kind of expensive. And what's the etiquette about that? Who pays? Do you rotate payment? And I assume it has to be in cash, so there's no credit card statement. But man, this could get pricey if it's a couple of times (or more) per week! I mean, how else can you get your partner in a good bed, where you can have sex for hours until you're both tired and sweaty? All I can think of is hotels, but maybe I'm not thinking outside the box enough..... I'd love to hear about your experiences, and how you worked out a place to have long sex sessions in private, where you can get as kinky and loose as you want....
LadyDi Posted April 8, 2010 Posted April 8, 2010 Hotels, since they are expensive you'll need to limit yourself to once or twice a month then
GreenEyedLady Posted April 8, 2010 Posted April 8, 2010 Let's see: We went to movies, museums and restaurants. And my place. I guess if you are having logistics problem you should probably ask yourself if you're doing the right thing. It shouldn't be that hard. GEL
Author happygirl1234 Posted April 8, 2010 Author Posted April 8, 2010 Dumpsters are good and private if you put down the plastic lid. There is the pesky problem of the smell though. Yes, I hear the venom in that response! Not looking for judgment, just some practical suggestions for those who have been OM or OW....
PhillySpecial Posted April 8, 2010 Posted April 8, 2010 This may sound like a weird question. But I'm a MW and I'm contemplating an A with a MM. We are friends and, depending on how things go, I can see crossing that line with him one day. So here's the weird question: I can't quite figure out WHERE we could consummate the relationship? We work together, so in theory there could be some great quickies at the office. But this is always risky, and I have no desire whatsoever to be caught. I would prefer another location. Our houses are also too risky (and I wouldn't do that to my H, as strange as that may sound). I know hotels/motels are always available, but this seems kind of expensive. And what's the etiquette about that? Who pays? Do you rotate payment? And I assume it has to be in cash, so there's no credit card statement. But man, this could get pricey if it's a couple of times (or more) per week! I mean, how else can you get your partner in a good bed, where you can have sex for hours until you're both tired and sweaty? All I can think of is hotels, but maybe I'm not thinking outside the box enough..... I'd love to hear about your experiences, and how you worked out a place to have long sex sessions in private, where you can get as kinky and loose as you want.... The first thing you should do is reconsider having an affair with a poor man. A hotel/motel isn't that expensive... 99 bucks plus tax... he can't afford that twice a month? He needs to pay, come on honey. I may be old school but to me that's the gentlemanly thing to do. If he's too cheap to pay for the room he doesn't deserve the booty. He can purchase a reloadable giftcard at greendot.com and put the cost of the room on there, no traces, no credit card receipt/statement... (I know, how do I know these things...don't ask;)) A romp in the back seat is ok occassionally but come on... that get's old. I personally am not 16 years old, I'm grown & like to stretch out on a nice bed, relax and be comfortable.
Author happygirl1234 Posted April 8, 2010 Author Posted April 8, 2010 Let's see: We went to movies, museums and restaurants. And my place. I guess if you are having logistics problem you should probably ask yourself if you're doing the right thing. It shouldn't be that hard. GEL Well.... I know I'm not doing the "right" thing!!! But sometimes doing the wrong thing is what we humans do! I know you can always get it on in a restaurant bathroom or theatre, etc. But you can't really strip down full monty, whip out the sex toys, and have long, fun sex sessions! And frankly, if I'm going to cross the line, I want to fulfill some of my sexual fantasies. I've had lots of quickies and, though I'm sure there would be some good ones in an A, I would prefer to have the marathon sex sessions.... I could never invite him back to my place; he could never invite me to his. Spouses are there. Guess hotels are the best option!
Author happygirl1234 Posted April 8, 2010 Author Posted April 8, 2010 The first thing you should do is reconsider having an affair with a poor man. A hotel/motel isn't that expensive... 99 bucks plus tax... he can't afford that twice a month? He needs to pay, come on honey. I may be old school but to me that's the gentlemanly thing to do. If he's too cheap to pay for the room he doesn't deserve the booty. He can purchase a reloadable giftcard at greendot.com and put the cost of the room on there, no traces, no credit card receipt/statement... (I know, how do I know these things...don't ask;)) A romp in the back seat is ok occassionally but come on... that get's old. I personally am not 16 years old, I'm grown & like to stretch out on a nice bed, relax and be comfortable. He's definitely NOT poor. Neither am I! So I guess part of me feels a bit guilty about asking him to "pick up the tab" for getting booty, when the truth is that I'm just as interested as he is, and I make nearly as much. Honestly, if I were dating him (neither one of us married), I would feel the same guilt after a couple of dates-- like we should share the dinner expenses, etc. Guess I'm just not that old fashioned about finances, since I make more money than most men! I like the gift card thing, though-- great idea. Devious and untraceable.
Author happygirl1234 Posted April 8, 2010 Author Posted April 8, 2010 Not being snide, but if you're coming here looking for an instruction manual on how to have an affair, that should be your first clue not to have one. I hear ya, jthorne. But I know how to have an affair! I just have some logistics that I'd prefer to consider before jumping in, since honestly my motivation is sex, and sex of specific types/manners. Need to fulfill those fantasies-- isn't that what As are for?
Author happygirl1234 Posted April 8, 2010 Author Posted April 8, 2010 The first thing you should do is reconsider having an affair with a poor man. A hotel/motel isn't that expensive... 99 bucks plus tax... he can't afford that twice a month? He needs to pay, come on honey. I may be old school but to me that's the gentlemanly thing to do. If he's too cheap to pay for the room he doesn't deserve the booty. He can purchase a reloadable giftcard at greendot.com and put the cost of the room on there, no traces, no credit card receipt/statement... (I know, how do I know these things...don't ask;)) A romp in the back seat is ok occassionally but come on... that get's old. I personally am not 16 years old, I'm grown & like to stretch out on a nice bed, relax and be comfortable. Hey PhillySpecial, I'm with you on the stretching out on a nice bed and getting comfortable! The back seat or a desk is great once in a while, but the long, sensuous sessions are the ones that float my boat the most! So long and so physical that you work up a good sweat, reach the peak, take a short nap, and wake up and do it all over again.... followed by one final go in the shower!
GreenEyedLady Posted April 8, 2010 Posted April 8, 2010 Not mean-spirited at all. Completely in the spirit of your post to me and to my personality in general. Plus, I don't think you're personally offended at all. I think you're full of it and I'm sticking to it... GEL
jwi71 Posted April 8, 2010 Posted April 8, 2010 Yup, GEL is right. Don't feed the trolls folks...nothing to see here, move along...
Author happygirl1234 Posted April 8, 2010 Author Posted April 8, 2010 Not mean-spirited at all. Completely in the spirit of your post to me and to my personality in general. Plus, I don't think you're personally offended at all. I think you're full of it and I'm sticking to it... GEL Okay, GEL, now I'm completely baffled. What on earth in my post to you had anything to do with your "personality"???? No, I'm not offended (hard to offend). But I am surprised by the personal tone of your response, when my post really wasn't meant to be personal in any way, shape or form. I'm just asking people to post their creative ideas. Figured folks on this OM/OW forum would have some fun ideas or memories they could share. Not sure what you mean by "full of it"???? But whatever!! Kind of get the feeling your A ended badly and now you're mad at people who sound like they're looking forward to having an A? Or maybe you were the BS? Whatever the case may be, GEL, I mean you no offense.
GreenEyedLady Posted April 8, 2010 Posted April 8, 2010 Kind of get the feeling your A ended badly and now you're mad at people who sound like they're looking forward to having an A? Or maybe you were the BS? Whatever the case may be, GEL, I mean you no offense. My A ended badly?! Ha, I'm married to my honey now! GEL
Author happygirl1234 Posted April 8, 2010 Author Posted April 8, 2010 My A ended badly?! Ha, I'm married to my honey now! GEL GEL, That's actually pretty great. I was wrong. Just got the feeling you were angry at me for something I don't quite understand. Am I being too frank in seeking advice on this logistical issue? Just assumed this would be a good place to share an admittedly weird thought with others who maybe had experienced the same thought themselves....
Author happygirl1234 Posted April 8, 2010 Author Posted April 8, 2010 As I said, if you are looking for advice on how to conduct an affair, you may not have much luck here. I read your posts on the Business and Professional board. Looks like you didn't have much luck there either. Try the Sex board, maybe they'll help you. Actually, the B&P board post was about another issue entirely--the crush itself and whether I should pursue it. I got some really great advice on that! Very helpful, especially the nice woman from Melbourne. A lot of kindred souls out there. Funny how you say people may not have much luck here "looking for advice on how to conduct an affair," since basically the bulk of these posts are exactly about that. Admittedly, they deal more with the emotional side of "how to conduct an affair" rather than the logistical side (as my question deals with), but hey, six one way, half dozen the other, IMO. Maybe you're right-- maybe there will be some good advice on the sex board. Will give it a try!
PhillySpecial Posted April 8, 2010 Posted April 8, 2010 Actually, the B&P board post was about another issue entirely--the crush itself and whether I should pursue it. I got some really great advice on that! Very helpful, especially the nice woman from Melbourne. A lot of kindred souls out there. Funny how you say people may not have much luck here "looking for advice on how to conduct an affair," since basically the bulk of these posts are exactly about that. Admittedly, they deal more with the emotional side of "how to conduct an affair" rather than the logistical side (as my question deals with), but hey, six one way, half dozen the other, IMO. Maybe you're right-- maybe there will be some good advice on the sex board. Will give it a try! I actually did give you some very good advice. I think people were probably more bothered by the silliness of the questions than anything else. I mean where else would two married people rendevous other than a hotel? And you say that both of you make plenty of money yet you were insinuating that the cost of hotel rooms was "expensive". 100 bucks plus tax for a stay at the Holiday Inn isn't really expensive... If you do that twice a month we're only talking about $225 per month. If you want to pay for the hotel, knock yourself out. I'm sure he won't mind. But you should definitely look into the greendot.com gift card thing and plan accordingly. Other than that, good luck
her_halo_slipped Posted April 8, 2010 Posted April 8, 2010 Yup, GEL is right. Don't feed the trolls folks...nothing to see here, move along... Sorry to T/J but what exactly are 'trolls"
Just a stone's throw Posted April 8, 2010 Posted April 8, 2010 J Thorne it looks like you comment on every single post to have a go at people. You are one sad SOB. Your posts are really irritating and mean spirited. Why don't you give it a rest for a while or better still find another hobby. Del - With all due respect.... JT has a lot to offer on this site and I for one enjoy reading her posts. I think what she said to this OP has a lot to do with the tone of how the OP addressed the OW/OM in a very flippant and immature manner that disregards what the core of this section is about. While her response was a harsh reality, as usual, JT states what many of us are thinking....
jwi71 Posted April 8, 2010 Posted April 8, 2010 Sorry to T/J but what exactly are 'trolls" People who post just to stir things up...hear about titillating experiences, etc... This poster is not looking for help but rather to hear about "stories of how the AP's did it and where and so on"
Confused Lady Posted April 8, 2010 Posted April 8, 2010 Happy Girl.....Having just gotten out of an A (after falling in love with exAP), my first advice is: DON'T DO IT!!! But, you're a big girl and can make your own decisions. ExAP and I just had sex at each other's houses (spouses were working) but if you don't want to go that route, then I suggest the office (after hours) or a hotel. Let HIM pay (cash) that way there's no receipt. ExAP and I never used one. Probably because he never lasted more than five minutes. Why waste the money? lol
Lizzie60 Posted April 8, 2010 Posted April 8, 2010 OK.. HG.. this is the right forum... the OM/OW forum.. it's not just about help and advices and support.. it could be to 'brag' about our affairs.. just like the married people can brag about their wonderful partners.. I can think of something that wasn't mentioned here.. I don»'t know where you live.. but in larger cities, you can find rooms that are available for 2-3 hours.. it's cheaper.. I used one of those a looong time ago... (+35 years ago).. Or in the summer time... you can go in a wooded area.. bring your wine and a warm blanket.. the backseat of a car can be fun once in awhile. in a cinema.. in the afternoon.. you probably will be alone in there... hahaha
Heather1 Posted April 8, 2010 Posted April 8, 2010 If only humans (especially women) could draw the line @ a f fest. You'll find out what your getting into soon enough. It's a lot more complicated than that. Knock yourself out....in 3 months you'll get what we're talking about.
Fouts Posted April 8, 2010 Posted April 8, 2010 Happygirl, I don't think people are necessaryily flaming you, or that you're a troll. It just is striking to read something from someone prepared to do something as serious as what you're contemplating, without even knowing how to walk into a Walmart and purchase a Visa debit card. I think it comes across as someone looking to go on a safari without knowing how to load their gun and probably raised a few eyebrows. Carry on
Passion4Life Posted April 8, 2010 Posted April 8, 2010 Actually, the B&P board post was about another issue entirely--the crush itself and whether I should pursue it. I got some really great advice on that! Very helpful, especially the nice woman from Melbourne. A lot of kindred souls out there. Funny how you say people may not have much luck here "looking for advice on how to conduct an affair," since basically the bulk of these posts are exactly about that. Admittedly, they deal more with the emotional side of "how to conduct an affair" rather than the logistical side (as my question deals with), but hey, six one way, half dozen the other, IMO. Maybe you're right-- maybe there will be some good advice on the sex board. Will give it a try! After reading countless stories on these boards , I am sure after a few months , we will find u on this board asking " what is the best way to tell my husband I dont love him & I want a divorce ? or will mm ever leave his wife ? or we are divorcing because my husband found out ? or I ended my marriage but mm doesn't want to leave his marriage what should I do ? happygirl1234 , This not directed at u but in general this is what we see it goes . Anyway I wish u luck for ur affair .
Passion4Life Posted April 8, 2010 Posted April 8, 2010 After reading countless stories on these boards , I am sure after a few months , we will find u on this board asking " what is the best way to tell my husband I dont love him & I want a divorce ? or will mm ever leave his wife ? or we are divorcing because my husband found out ? or I ended my marriage but mm doesn't want to leave his marriage what should I do ? happygirl1234 , This not directed at u but in general this is what we see it goes . Anyway I wish u luck for ur affair . now to answer your original question , how about places like under-construction or deserted buildings roofs ?
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