McGrupp Posted April 7, 2010 Posted April 7, 2010 i realize this whole thing is a process... but with the warm weather outside and actually a thread on a music board no less...that mentioned the bar we had our breakup dinner at as a good place to pick up single women... i feel ill. btw im seeing 2 really cool women right now...but **** i miss my ex. 7 months i think...4 months NC....
mickleb Posted April 7, 2010 Posted April 7, 2010 Rather than getting all senti*mental*, McG, why don't you use your healing wisdom on someone who could really use it, right now? http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t226541/ You know it makes sense. x
GrayClouds Posted April 7, 2010 Posted April 7, 2010 Yes there is something about the weather getting nice, feeling the sun warm your skin, and the birds and the bees reminding you about the birds and the bees that really sticks it to ya. What a kick in the ass. Give me that gloomy, cloudy and cold days of winter that reflected my inner torment so well, at least then it gave a reason to feel *****ty, Hang in their Grupp, you down to a bad day about once every two months. By summer it will be even less. (and for those who are unfamiliar to the McGrupp Story do a search and you will see a man at his worst and then his best; a "how to" example of making a break up meaningful)
Author McGrupp Posted April 7, 2010 Author Posted April 7, 2010 (edited) yeah this quickly passed just that one thread that threw me for a loop. btw im having so much fun with all these new women in my life. (besides the 2 im seeing, there are a couple others in the wings) life is fun again. but wow...the rollercoaster can sometimes be started unexpectedly for one go around... btw: these were the 2 friends i was looking for. Edited April 7, 2010 by McGrupp
DontWorryBHappy Posted April 8, 2010 Posted April 8, 2010 Ha, thanks for the plug, Mickleb McGrupp, you appear to be a strong individual... I have nothing to say to you except keep up the good work.
Perhaps Posted April 8, 2010 Posted April 8, 2010 i realize this whole thing is a process... but with the warm weather outside and actually a thread on a music board no less...that mentioned the bar we had our breakup dinner at as a good place to pick up single women... i feel ill. btw im seeing 2 really cool women right now...but **** i miss my ex. 7 months i think...4 months NC.... holla atcha boy c'mon man, you're one of the very few people who gave me solid advice when i needed it. 7 months is a long time... besides dating women, what have you been doing to work on yourself? EDIT: I dedicate my 100th post to you, my dear sir.
DustySaltus Posted April 8, 2010 Posted April 8, 2010 You're making moves Grupp. We all have our moments of weakness but as Gray said for you they're becoming more and more spaced out. Have fun with the plethora of women you have met, just don't break any hearts...
mickleb Posted April 8, 2010 Posted April 8, 2010 Too busy snogging birds to help out a damsel in distress, eh, McGrupp? Shame on you! x
Author McGrupp Posted April 8, 2010 Author Posted April 8, 2010 thanks for the love. good to see you guys. i came up with this metaphor today in bed: so your on an island with this person. and your walking along on the beach. and then they say "get away" and at first your like, "well what did i do?" and they say something...and you say, "i can fix that" and you chase after them. and they run faster. and you keep chasing. and then you follow them for awhile, and they get further and further away. your going in circles around this little tiny island. so one day, you say , "Hey...f this... im getting off this island." so you jump in the water. and the water is gross. not only is it thick and black and murky but its also filled with sharp rocks and little piranhas. and the murk is so thick you really don' t feel like your getting anywhere. and somedays you dont. you just sit there. and other days you swim till your muscles burn with battery acid. and you think about going back and you really think about going back because now its not only dark and gross and unknown but its really ****ing painful. and then one day you realize your out of the piranhas and rocks but now your just swimming in the abyss. theres no rocks or pain, the water is getting clearer but you are so lost. and there are storms. raging lighting storms. that scare the **** out of you. again you think about turning back, but you remember all the pain and the gross water and think well it wouldnt be worth it to go back now, and you also realize the storms are becoming less sever as you swim. so you decided to keep swimming. and this is long. its not hurting but you feel like your not getting anywhere. are you swimming in circles? you wonder. you ponder. should i go back? maybe.... and then one day your swimming and you think...well whats that on the horizon? ohhh...its another island. but its far. its super far. so you swim faster. and really fast. and now you remeber not the bad things that happened on that last island...but all the good things. You think i hope this new island has some of the same things, but hopefully some different things. and you imagine all the good things this new island could have but you try not to get your expectations to high. you know these islands and what they can do. this time will be different you say. so you get close, you get really close...and slowly you reach the shore. after months of ****ing swimming. and you are beat. more beat up then youve ever been. but your also strong. and you look down at your new fit body, your new island and kinda smile. you walk on the beach and start again....
GrayClouds Posted April 8, 2010 Posted April 8, 2010 but your also strong. and you look down at your new fit body, your new island and kinda smile. you walk on the beach and start again.... Yes life is a beach, but with it is sunny day the view can be amazing. Even though the Lucifer invented speedos, God invented bikinis. It is our choice to focus on the beauty of life or see it as life simple giving us the shaft. Here is to a beach full of bikinis for you, McGrupp.
This Hurts Posted April 9, 2010 Posted April 9, 2010 so your on an island with this person. and your walking along on the beach. and then they say "get away" and at first your like, "well what did i do?" and they say something...and you say, "i can fix that" and you chase after them. and they run faster. and you keep chasing. and then you follow them for awhile, and they get further and further away. your going in circles around this little tiny island. so one day, you say , "Hey...f this... im getting off this island." so you jump in the water. and the water is gross. not only is it thick and black and murky but its also filled with sharp rocks and little piranhas. and the murk is so thick you really don' t feel like your getting anywhere. and somedays you dont. you just sit there. and other days you swim till your muscles burn with battery acid. and you think about going back and you really think about going back because now its not only dark and gross and unknown but its really ****ing painful. and then one day you realize your out of the piranhas and rocks but now your just swimming in the abyss. theres no rocks or pain, the water is getting clearer but you are so lost. and there are storms. raging lighting storms. that scare the **** out of you. again you think about turning back, but you remember all the pain and the gross water and think well it wouldnt be worth it to go back now, and you also realize the storms are becoming less sever as you swim. so you decided to keep swimming. and this is long. its not hurting but you feel like your not getting anywhere. are you swimming in circles? you wonder. you ponder. should i go back? maybe.... and then one day your swimming and you think...well whats that on the horizon? ohhh...its another island. but its far. its super far. so you swim faster. and really fast. and now you remeber not the bad things that happened on that last island...but all the good things. You think i hope this new island has some of the same things, but hopefully some different things. and you imagine all the good things this new island could have but you try not to get your expectations to high. you know these islands and what they can do. this time will be different you say. so you get close, you get really close...and slowly you reach the shore. after months of ****ing swimming. and you are beat. more beat up then youve ever been. but your also strong. and you look down at your new fit body, your new island and kinda smile. you walk on the beach and start again.... You're a genius. *Edit Do you have any more of these? I would honestly love to read more.
cdt76 Posted April 9, 2010 Posted April 9, 2010 Because I'm an idiot I have a question. How do you date more than one person at a time? And how do you date, when you know you are not capable of feeling anything? I realize this should be under the dating blog but you seem to have figured something out.
Author McGrupp Posted April 9, 2010 Author Posted April 9, 2010 as far as metaphors go i got another one that maybe ill flesh out later. its about being stuck in a well (i guess most of my metaphors involve drowning) Because I'm an idiot I have a question. How do you date more than one person at a time? And how do you date, when you know you are not capable of feeling anything? I realize this should be under the dating blog but you seem to have figured something out.well these are both very good questions. when i was still depressed in January i had been talking to a girl online. i was very timid and kinda beating around the bush as far as asking her out. my shrink said to just do it so i did. and she said yes. ok im pumped. also at some point i google "how to stop being a pussy" i find some writings on a board for PuA community guys. i find some really good writings from these guys about how they got over "that one special girl". and also how to get good at life and also how our brain attaches to certain things (like women) and makes us not only addicted, but also unable to view their faults. some of the stuff is super interesting and really not so much about women ( i ignore the pick up lines and the cheesy stuff) but about being your "best self" so i take it all with a grain of salt, but still go out with this girl with the mindset "just have fun" so i do. and we really hit it off. and i sleep at her place. (check my thread - "have a date tnight but cant stop thinking about the ex") so then im like this stuff is working great. really i would suggest checking it out as they have a lot of ways to get over that one girl (pm me and ill send you some cool links), basically how do u know she is the "one" if you havent been with lots and lots of women. i know that mindset is weird (and possibly frowned upon by society and hurt women in here), but my main problem and i think a lot of guys have this is that we think we wont get a girl as good or better then our ex's. im not trying to be a "player" but she was my first real gf, so what the **** do i know...anyway i like to have this mindset where its like, imagine your sitting at a bar. and a your twin walks in. although hes from the future (and has a super cool hover-skateboard!). and you sit there and the first thing you ask him is, "does she come back?" and he looks around, your future self, and is like, "are we still on this?, holy **** dude. no she doesnt come back, but really...really dont worry because everything is going to be alright. trust me" and then we take a shot and he leaves. now, ive also used this time to reflect on what i want from life. basically when i was with her i wasnt doing anything, but being with her. my priorities were all ****ed up. i mean she was great. and i hope she is happy. i really do. but a lot of what these dudes talk about is finding your path and purpose in life, and then if the girl wants to come for the ride, thats awesome, but if she wants to cheat, or dump you and never talk to again, or marry someone else...well that sucks but you are still on your path. and although its not easy to find your path (it may take years) as long as your moving towards what you want in life, you will not only not NEED someone else to make you happy, but you will also be much more attractive to the opposite sex (goals, aspirations, fufillment within). its crazy amazing. i have an abundance mentality when it comes to women, both know im not exclusive, i keep it safe and really, truly just try to have fun. if i find one ill be happy to make her the "one". ive already realized how more attractive i am just by being in a better state of mind. when i was depressed all i attracted was depressed, slutty, drug addled women. now that im in a much better place i attracting not only better looking women but women with aspirations, educations, and good heads on their shoulders. i also read some great books on being an alpha male, setting boundaries for women and in life (amazing stuff here), and how the brain works. (pm for a book list if you care) really nothing helped me out more then realizing i can go out and meet another woman (theres 3 billion of them out there, 1/3 are elderly, 1/3 are underage, 1/3 are datable...so about 1 billion women out there) and to stop dwelling on the ****ing ex. this whole mindset is the single thing that has helped me get out of my rut and see that the future is not so bleak. it is work though. talking to women, going on dates, leaving your comfort zone is work. DONT BE SO ****ING LAZY!. GET OFF THE COMPUTER!! change is the most painful thing in the world. and changing yourself, changing your social circle, your mindset and your beliefs/habits will take time and be incredibly scary/weird/exciting/fufilling and really a whole new rollercoaster. ..... McG
GrayClouds Posted April 9, 2010 Posted April 9, 2010 Oh grasshopper, the student has become the sensei http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7pdsZ3wnElo&feature=related
Author McGrupp Posted April 9, 2010 Author Posted April 9, 2010 let me say though tha life is crazy. i write this up, feel pretty good about myself, right? so as u guys know i work in a furniture store (which obviously isnt my path, but i gotta pay the bills) so i sell a bed to this guy. writing up the order. i ask him what he does. he works in the same place as my ex but in the NYC division (finance). twas great. he didnt know her, but still...wtf
mickleb Posted April 10, 2010 Posted April 10, 2010 That sort of thing is going to happen, innit tho, McG? It's pretty normal. Not a message from God, or owt. I likey your writing about finding your path. Because you are the author of that, aren't you? Take these coincidental happenings as little tests of your faith in yourself. Like the Jesus in the desert. But not. (Cos you're NOT Jesus in the desert are you? That would freak me out.) Re. the well analogy, however, it's not too much like this one, is it? http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t218580 (I never did work out how to stick that on my signature, does any clever person know how I do it? x
Author McGrupp Posted April 10, 2010 Author Posted April 10, 2010 thats a good one. mine had more pirnahas in it and floating skateboards
This Hurts Posted April 10, 2010 Posted April 10, 2010 Re. the well analogy, however, it's not too much like this one, is it? http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t218580 I f**king love these!! Does anybody have anymore or know where I can read others? Somebody should compile a sh*tload of them, and publish it into a book. I'd buy it. I'd buy them all. :love: I apologize; I don't mean to sound obsessed.
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