Kamille Posted April 8, 2010 Posted April 8, 2010 im gonna think shes just looking for that nice guy after every jerk used her as a cum dispenser through the years and im just there for emotional support as she has begruding sex with me once in awhile.. Wow! Is that really how you think about women?
AD1980 Posted April 8, 2010 Posted April 8, 2010 Wow! Is that really how you think about women? Learn some reading comprehension skills instead of picking a word and running with it.. Thats how the players she dealt with looked at her and treated her as..
eraser Posted April 8, 2010 Posted April 8, 2010 I don't think a woman has to wait to their late twenties to appreciate the advantages of a nice guy, but I see where you're coming from. And, yes, I agree, 'being nice' alone, is not enough to spark attraction. Another common misperception. It's more of a basic requirement, in my opinion You're right, they don't have to wait until their late 20s to appreciate a nice guy. It's just more likely to happen then. Sometimes, it takes a little time to realize that behind all the superficial charm and confidence of a jerk is an insecure brat who will likely never grow up. Then, they start looking at nice guys, not only as nice guys, but as real treasures. I guess the closest parallel I can think of is when some guys (not all) hit their 30s and kind of get tired of banging hot bees just because they're hot bees. That's when they're more likely to to look at the whole package, when pursuing a relationship. Like women, they might be a little bit more mature then. Being nice is a basic requirement, I agree. It's too bad more people don't feel that way, though.
Woggle Posted April 8, 2010 Posted April 8, 2010 Wow! Is that really how you think about women? It is not we think about women but that is how the players women chase after think of them and they come back for more.
eraser Posted April 8, 2010 Posted April 8, 2010 When women hit 30 and start wanting nice guys many men feel like they are being settled for because the women couldn't tame the player. Well, they shouldn't feel that way. There are some women, like me, who simply like nice guys. I have no interest in taming a player. There really is no taming a player, anyway. Players play, as they say.
Kamille Posted April 8, 2010 Posted April 8, 2010 Learn some reading comprehension skills instead of picking a word and running with it.. Thats how the players she dealt with looked at her and treated her as.. Why, you're charming AD. I do know how to read and I understand there is a nuance. Hence my question. Yet those were your words, not the players words - unless one magically spoke through your typing fingers. You said: every jerk who used her as a cum dispenser. You think of her as a cum dispenser for jerks. Not the jerks. That is how you described women. Perhaps you have issues and hate women, which would also explain why you felt compelled to insult me as soon as you could. Learn manners, learn to respect women and then you can call yourself a nice guy.
Woggle Posted April 8, 2010 Posted April 8, 2010 Well, they shouldn't feel that way. There are some women, like me, who simply like nice guys. I have no interest in taming a player. There really is no taming a player, anyway. Players play, as they say. I am not saying you are like this but usually when men trust one of these women and commit to them a few years down the road they end up cheating with the hot guy at work and giving the man the I love you but I am not in love with you speech. I have seen it happen time and time and time again. There is no taming a player but it does not stop many women from trying.
AD1980 Posted April 8, 2010 Posted April 8, 2010 Why, you're charming AD. I do know how to read and I understand there is a nuance. Hence my question. Yet those were your words, not the players words - unless one magically spoke through your typing fingers. You said: every jerk who used her as a cum dispenser. You think of her as a cum dispenser for jerks. Not the jerks. That is how you described women. Perhaps you have issues and hate women, which would also explain why you felt compelled to insult me as soon as you could. Learn manners, learn to respect women and then you can call yourself a nice guy. Stop the drama queen bs anyone with half a brain knows there was no malice in the words i was using it for emphasis..
eraser Posted April 8, 2010 Posted April 8, 2010 I am not saying you are like this but usually when men trust one of these women and commit to them a few years down the road they end up cheating with the hot guy at work and giving the man the I love you but I am not in love with you speech. I have seen it happen time and time and time again. Those aren't women who like nice guys. Those are women who like any guy who can boost their egos. Whoever is in a relationship with one of those types and gets left is much better off.
Kamille Posted April 8, 2010 Posted April 8, 2010 Stop the drama queen bs anyone with half a brain knows there was no malice in the words i was using it for emphasis.. Wow, who's in drama mode now? I love it when posters over-react and then tell posters they're the ones provoking drama. All right. So you don't think of women as cum dispenser for jerks. Glad to hear it AD. In the future, abstain from describing them as "women jerks used as cum dispensers" then. And nice little dig with the 'half a brain thing'. ooh I'm so insulted. ooh.
Mutant Debutante Posted April 8, 2010 Posted April 8, 2010 Stop the drama queen bs anyone with half a brain knows there was no malice in the words i was using it for emphasis.. I'd say I have at least 3/4 of a brain and you are coming off like a total hole to me, too. You chose the language you used and the contempt for a woman who might have made some dating mistakes in the past was visceral. Your instant dismissal of anyone with the guts to disagree with you as a lackwit drama queen doesn't further your credibility as a good guy, either.
phineas Posted April 8, 2010 Posted April 8, 2010 Why, you're charming AD. I do know how to read and I understand there is a nuance. Hence my question. Yet those were your words, not the players words - unless one magically spoke through your typing fingers. You said: every jerk who used her as a cum dispenser. You think of her as a cum dispenser for jerks. Not the jerks. That is how you described women. Perhaps you have issues and hate women, which would also explain why you felt compelled to insult me as soon as you could. Learn manners, learn to respect women and then you can call yourself a nice guy. Please. Even I KNEW what he meant. That should mean something because i'm sure your going to denegrate me for not agreeing with you. LOL! He was describing how a player views women & he was spot on accurate. Though the proper term is cum dumpster. That is exactly how men who use women for sex view these women. They don't give a ratts ass about them. If they arn't putting out, they don't want to know them because they can always find a woman that will. women who are attracted to these types of men over & over again are damaged. They eventually get burned to a cinder, have a momment of clarity & decide they need a nice guy. They will then go for the guy who treats them right up until the moment when another player catches their eye & then they feel like they "settled" so then their making up BS excuses as to why thier cheating isn't wrong & they can just keep doing it.
Author MrNate Posted April 8, 2010 Author Posted April 8, 2010 You're right, they don't have to wait until their late 20s to appreciate a nice guy. It's just more likely to happen then. Sometimes, it takes a little time to realize that behind all the superficial charm and confidence of a jerk is an insecure brat who will likely never grow up. Then, they start looking at nice guys, not only as nice guys, but as real treasures. I guess the closest parallel I can think of is when some guys (not all) hit their 30s and kind of get tired of banging hot bees just because they're hot bees. That's when they're more likely to to look at the whole package, when pursuing a relationship. Like women, they might be a little bit more mature then. Being nice is a basic requirement, I agree. It's too bad more people don't feel that way, though. More confidence, and proper assertiveness, from the nice guys, would solve a huge deal of these problems, in my opinion. Not all, but most.
phineas Posted April 8, 2010 Posted April 8, 2010 I'd say I have at least 3/4 of a brain and you are coming off like a total hole to me, too. You chose the language you used and the contempt for a woman who might have made some dating mistakes in the past was visceral. Your instant dismissal of anyone with the guts to disagree with you as a lackwit drama queen doesn't further your credibility as a good guy, either. Mistakes? The women i've met didn't make a few dateing mistakes. Their complete fricken train wrecks. I've been burned by them a few times in the past. My STBXW turned out to be one of them. I've since learned to recognize these women & have nothing to do with them. However at 38 it's much easier than when I was 28. See when a woman is never married with no kids at 30 it isn't that uncommon. When she's 35 - 40 no kids, never married it's huge red flag unless she put her life on hold for her carrer & is loaded. There are plenty of women out there that have chased the player most of their life then say "Why can't I find a good man" they don't want a good man. They want a guy that has no interest in settleing down & treats them like their cum dumpsters. There I said it. neener neener.
Kamille Posted April 8, 2010 Posted April 8, 2010 First, I don't buy the whole "Women date jerks" thing, hence the problem I have with the whole analogy and claiming that "jerks think of those women as cum dumpsters and dispensers", certainly not the nice guys. And the phrase was ambiguous. I asked AD if he that is how he felt so he could clarify. He chose, instead, to try and insult me in various ways. Refer a few post up and you will all see that I accepted his defense that he obviously meant that the jerks think of women that way, not himself. I assume this means he never thinks of women as cum dispensers. Let's agree to disagree folks and let's all get back to the male empowerment. Seriously, I think empowerment is a great idea. I don't think there's a need to belittle women in the process. Proceed.
Author MrNate Posted April 8, 2010 Author Posted April 8, 2010 And as soon she gets the urge to tame another player she will cheat and give me the I love you but I am not in love with you speech. Thanks but no thanks. and AD1980: The women you described sound like absolute headaches in my opinion, and honestly, not worth spending a single second over. Surely there are lots of women out there who are not like this. I know several women who refuse to put up with jerks, because they know they deserve to be treated with respect; and will not settle for anything else. Though, the wiles of the jerk can be impressive. And many a woman are simply decieved.
AD1980 Posted April 8, 2010 Posted April 8, 2010 Wow, who's in drama mode now? I love it when posters over-react and then tell posters they're the ones provoking drama. All right. So you don't think of women as cum dispenser for jerks. Glad to hear it AD. In the future, abstain from describing them as "women jerks used as cum dispensers" then. And nice little dig with the 'half a brain thing'. ooh I'm so insulted. ooh. Ill use any words i please sweetie:) Settle down
Kamille Posted April 8, 2010 Posted April 8, 2010 Ill use any words i please sweetie:) Settle down :lmao::lmao: Nice comeback ace!
AD1980 Posted April 8, 2010 Posted April 8, 2010 First, I don't buy the whole "Women date jerks" thing, hence the problem I have with the whole analogy and claiming that "jerks think of those women as cum dumpsters and dispensers", certainly not the nice guys. And the phrase was ambiguous. I asked AD if he that is how he felt so he could clarify. He chose, instead, to try and insult me in various ways. You never asked me anything you jumped down my throat right away and said this is how I felt about women..
Rearden Metal Posted April 8, 2010 Posted April 8, 2010 For some reason I get a lot of flakes calling me up asking me to go out. Then last minute. Poof. I then hear from them shortly after & they act like it never happened. That's when I just start ignoreing them. 1 started flirting hard with me 6 months later & got pissed because I ignored her. She eventually called me. didn't leave a message. I still see her but I show zero interest. Another doesn't seem to even notice i'm ignoring her because she just keeps texting me even though I never respond. The last one actually made a serious effort to apologize & make it up to me when she realized I wasn't going to tolerate that kind of crap & had no problem cutting people like her from my life. We still talk. But i'm "busy" most of this month landscaping with the break in the weather. Cool, sounds like you've blown off half of your town Got any ppl left you can actually date?
Kamille Posted April 8, 2010 Posted April 8, 2010 I did ask AD for clarifications. Here is the first post that launched this whole discussion. Wow! Is that really how you think about women? I was asking you if that was really how you thought about women. I can see, considering the emoticon I used and the little degree of trust you have in women, why you would have assumed I was jumping down your throat. I needn't point out that you then proceeded to try and insult me. All right, fine, this is a misunderstanding. You personally don't think of women as cum dispensers, you think jerks do. (Even though you never actually came out and said you don't think of women as cum dispensers). Now back to the regular program.
phineas Posted April 8, 2010 Posted April 8, 2010 Cool, sounds like you've blown off half of your town Got any ppl left you can actually date? There are actually 10 people in my town not counting me so your ASSesment is actually incorrect.
Author MrNate Posted April 8, 2010 Author Posted April 8, 2010 Why does every thread turn into a gender war?
threebyfate Posted April 8, 2010 Posted April 8, 2010 Why does every thread turn into a gender war?Does empowerment always have to be a form of leveraging off the opposite gender?
AD1980 Posted April 8, 2010 Posted April 8, 2010 I did ask AD for clarifications. Here is the first post that launched this whole discussion. I was asking you if that was really how you thought about women. I can see, considering the emoticon I used and the little degree of trust you have in women, why you would have assumed I was jumping down your throat. I needn't point out that you then proceeded to try and insult me. All right, fine, this is a misunderstanding. You personally don't think of women as cum dispensers, you think jerks do. (Even though you never actually came out and said you don't think of women as cum dispensers). Now back to the regular program. I stated i did not mean malice behind the statement which meant i did not feel that way about women i was talking about the players pov.. Im sory for insulting you but i felt i was being attacked..It looks like we both misunderstood each other..
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