dfbrooks888 Posted April 7, 2010 Posted April 7, 2010 Well a quick breakdown of the situation. -Dated a girl for about 14 months. -Everything was great for the first 10 months. -Never argued and we both were not pushing anything. -I took her on a trip to las vegas and alaska/seattle and numerous other adventures. -Summer came and the last 4 months stuff started to break down. Her mom got cancer, she is in grad school so alot of work for that. And I basically renovated and sold my house by myself. So alot went on in that time. -She broke it off with me. Saying she didn't think we could raise kids with different religious beliefs. She wasn't even that religious. I always told her that I would go to church if she wanted me too. -After the breakup, I told her that maybe it was for the best that we did breakup and for the first time I told her I loved her, she said she didn't feel the same way, I said I didn't care if she loved me back. I have never broke down and got angry or accused her of anything. - We work together so I see her at least every week. I have tried to get her to do stuff with me (lunch, dinner, etc....) but she says she is always busy with something else. -After 7 months of very short communication I texted her about hanging out. She called me and said she didn't really feel like doing anything, but thought she would call and chat for a bit, (15 minutes.). -I told her straight up she was making me believe she didnt want to do anything with me. She said she has been very busy and to an extent I believe her. After that she said she would text me this weekend and we could go walk the dogs. So do you think there is a chance to get back with her? I really do love her, and don't want to scare her away!!!!
monkeymaid Posted April 7, 2010 Posted April 7, 2010 honestly. ....just stop calling her. NC ftw! if shes biting enough to blow you off, all u have to do is push her buttons. be aloof and stop calling. within 3 weeks she will try to see you. then all you have to do is make her work for it. people dont appreciate the things they dont have to work for
Author dfbrooks888 Posted April 7, 2010 Author Posted April 7, 2010 Well, I have went with NC for two months at a time. And she never has contacted me, its always me after 2 months of NC that contacts her about doing something.
DustySaltus Posted April 7, 2010 Posted April 7, 2010 You have to cut all contact with her. Unless she initiated contact with you, said she made a big mistake and is willing to do whatever it takes to make it work......there's nothing to discuss or talk about. No contact is used so that YOU can heal. Every time you contact her you start from DAY ONE again. She clearly has been avoiding you and it I know it sucks. Pick yourself up, dust yourself off and ask yourself why you feel the need to constantly contact someone who thought that you weren't good enough for them and thinks that they can do better? I wouldn't continue to chase someone who made me feel like that. She's made excuses. You have made yourself WAY to available for her. Drop off the face of the earth and focus on yourself. Otherwise you will never move forward with your own life. Don't you want your own life? Don't you want to be happy again? You were alive before you were in the relationship with her, right? Get back out there, focus on your needs OUTSIDE of her, reconnect with old friends, have a BBQ, work out, pick up a new hobby...do something to make YOU a better person. Use the energies you have focused on her on yourself.
Author dfbrooks888 Posted April 7, 2010 Author Posted April 7, 2010 (edited) Its kinda hard to fall off the face of the earth when you are the IT guy for the department and she is one of your customers that works down the hall from you. I see her and its usually "hey." Sometimes, we stop and do the usual how are you blah blah. Impossible to go total NC. Also, its not a matter of getting on with my life, I have had at least 7 dates with 3 different girls, but I still love her, and I know we could have been amazing together. Edited April 7, 2010 by dfbrooks888
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