rgs1400 Posted April 7, 2010 Posted April 7, 2010 My girlfriend and I have been together for three years. We are still young (20s) but have a mature relationship and have been with each other through major ups and downs in our lives, both involving our relationship and our personal lives. I love her and she loves me and would do anything for me. Now for the "problem": she's my first serious relationship and the first (and only) person I've slept with. At times I suffer from the natural "what if" and wonder what it would be like to be with someone else, both sexually and regarding the other relationship aspects. However, we've grown so close that it would be impossible, at least at this point in time, to feel as comfortable and as supported by someone else. I am not thinking of cheating because that would obviously be wrong, but I feel like it wouldn't be worth it anyway because no one else knows me so well and could relate to and share many things in my life, both good and bad, and jeopardizing that would be pointless. To those of you who have been in this situation before...what were your thoughts?
laRubiaBonita Posted April 7, 2010 Posted April 7, 2010 jeopardizing that would be pointless. To those of you who have been in this situation before...what were your thoughts? exactly what you wrote...... hindsight is 20/ 20.
Template Posted April 7, 2010 Posted April 7, 2010 You obviously have some kind of doubt, or you wouldn't be thinking like this. You should find out where that's coming from, and then work through it. No one ever said you need to date xxx number of people before your find someone you are meant to be with. For some like me, I may never find it, and as Buble' sang, "I've broken my heart so many times I stopped keeping track." For guys like you, you may have just found the one the first try out. So here's the deal. What do you think you are truly missing out on? Now think of what you have? Only you can answer if it's worth throwing it all away to "... see what's out there." Now I personally haven't gone through what you did as my first real true love wasn't really my first. However, I've known many women who gone through what you have, and for some, they've regretted it as they've witnessed the person they dumped for "seeing what's out there.", continue living happy lives, making their eventual mates happy, while she goes through cycles of bad relationships. And some, are happy that they did as they found someone more compatible. So it really is the luck of the draw.
ADF Posted April 7, 2010 Posted April 7, 2010 The odds that you and this woman will be together for the rest of your lives are extremely small. It could happen, but it isn't likely. I doubt you have much to worry about.
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