ladyjane83 Posted April 7, 2010 Posted April 7, 2010 Hey, I posted on here the other day about falling over in front of a guy I had been talking to online (cringe!) and never met before. Abridged version: -swapped emails back and forth through facebook for about a month - HE suggested we meet up one night, I said yes - Further emails with no actual arragements to meet up made - gave him my Phone number saying "let me know when you fancy that drink" - HE text me a few days later, swapped a few texts, still no mention of actually arranging a meet up. - Text him a week later. No response. - Text him a couple of weeks later after her had been on holiday asking how hol was. No response. So at that point I gave up. No huge loss as we had never met, although I did find him attractive from photos and seemed to get on well, so a bit disappointed. 1 month later (Sunday night) - See him in the Club. Recognise him from photos. eye contact, not sure if he recognise me - eye contact a few times through the night - I go to the bathroom and walk right by him so I smile and wave and he says hello and asks if Im ok - I come back from the bathroom, slip on a drink and fall flat on the floor in front of him (ugh!) - I get a text from him later that night (not heard from him since he stopped responding) saying "it wasnt that bad :)" - we then have a text convo back and forth he teases me about falling over, apologises for being a "massive flake" (his words) and says that it wasnt that he wasnt interested he has just been being a bit flakey at the moment. Lots of smiling and winking faces in his texts. He is the last one to text. - Next day I put a jokey comment about falling over as my facebook status and he "likes" it. - I text him that afternoon, laughing about falling over and asking if hes had a good weekend. He replys, again with teasing and a smiley face. I responded but he then didnt reply. Basically I just want to know if he is interested or not. He wouldnt have intitiated contact again if wasnt would he? So am thinking of texting and a light hearted way and just being like "so, are we ever going to go for that drink then?!" My friends say that if he wanted to, he would ask me. And I guess I know that, but I just want to ask and know for sure if he is interested. If he says no or doesnt respond then thats it done and at least I know right?? Guys....would it put you off if a girl text you that or would you like them being up front??
sugarmomma Posted April 7, 2010 Posted April 7, 2010 Let him ask you out. He wants to pursue you but you won't let him. He seems extremely flaky and usually that is just a preview of the coming attraction ime. Let him come to you. Trust me you will be happy you did.
123BeachFan Posted April 7, 2010 Posted April 7, 2010 If you pursue him, you'll chase him off for sure. Follow Sugar's advice and let him come to you. He might not, though, he sounds socially inept.
boogieboy Posted April 7, 2010 Posted April 7, 2010 He's not interested. He is responding to be nice, but he's not interested or else he would ask you out. A smiley face in a text is pretty much lazy. I use a smiley face to discourage conversation. This plus the last few times you talked to him he didnt ask you out, so he's obviously not interested. Dont bother asking him out. Find someone else.
Author ladyjane83 Posted April 7, 2010 Author Posted April 7, 2010 He's not interested. He is responding to be nice, . Well, I hadnt actually contacted him for over a month so the responding just to be nice thing isnt really correct.... He contacted me off his own back on sunday night after I fell. So he initiated that conversation. I dont know. pffft.
Author ladyjane83 Posted April 7, 2010 Author Posted April 7, 2010 Let him ask you out. He wants to pursue you but you won't let him. He seems extremely flaky and usually that is just a preview of the coming attraction ime. Let him come to you. Trust me you will be happy you did. I know thats what I want to do. But Im what if I leave it up to him to come to me...but he doesnt?! Some people are shy and need a nudge dont they? I dont know. He is a confusing one. Its the fact that he initiated text convo again on sunday when we hadnt spoken for ages and it was over and done with. He could have just said hello to be poilte and left it at that if he wasnt interested, no harm done. He didnt have to start texting me again.
O'Malley Posted April 7, 2010 Posted April 7, 2010 Take heed when someone tells you about their flaws. Contacting you after such a long period isn't a big deal to him, because he had no serious investment in your initial encounter. He likes getting attention, but if he were genuinely interested he would have taken you up on your offer of getting a drink. Hell, he didn't even have a drink with you at the club. He's not going to pursue you; all you will end up with is more of this hot and cold texting and facebooking.
boogieboy Posted April 7, 2010 Posted April 7, 2010 I know thats what I want to do. But Im what if I leave it up to him to come to me...but he doesnt?! Some people are shy and need a nudge dont they? I dont know. He is a confusing one. Its the fact that he initiated text convo again on sunday when we hadnt spoken for ages and it was over and done with. He could have just said hello to be poilte and left it at that if he wasnt interested, no harm done. He didnt have to start texting me again. This guy doesnt need a nudge, he knows he's not interested, so he doesnt ask you. But if youre so hell bent on believing he is, just call him and get it over with.
xpaperxcutx Posted April 7, 2010 Posted April 7, 2010 Well, I hadnt actually contacted him for over a month so the responding just to be nice thing isnt really correct.... He contacted me off his own back on sunday night after I fell. So he initiated that conversation. I dont know. pffft. And you were the one waving and staring at him before he noticed you. Honey, he can tell you have the hots for him but you should take heed to him saying he's flaky. They are like an addiction, giving a little of themselves and then pulling away. There's no point in snatching them up. It's in their nature to run away.
PhillySpecial Posted April 7, 2010 Posted April 7, 2010 (edited) He's just not that into you... maybe you should watch that movie. If a guy wants you, he'll make it happen. Move on. Edited April 7, 2010 by PhillySpecial
make me believe Posted April 7, 2010 Posted April 7, 2010 - YOU had to give HIM your phone number, completely unprovoked. He didn't even ask for it. - He avoids meeting up with you. - He ignores your texts repeatedly, then ignores you completely for a month. - You see him at the club and he says hello, but only after you initiate contact. - After a passing hello, he makes no effort to converse with you/buy you a drink/ANYTHING. - He STILL is not asking you out and is the one to end all of your texting conversations. .....But yet you think because he initiated contact ONCE, he might be interested in you? You're reading way too much into something completely insignificant because you want to convince yourself that he's interested. But, seriously, if he wanted you he would make an effort to ask you out. Period. This guy is NOT interested, and asking "so are we ever going to go for that drink?!" would make you look really desperate. It's obvious that you aren't ever going for that drink!
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