Template Posted April 7, 2010 Posted April 7, 2010 Just what the title says. Ever since my breakup, and subsequent setbacks and failures (generally in life), I find myself to be a very angry guy. Because of this, I know that I can't even think about any future relationship possibilities. I also know it's affecting my daily life in every way as well. I'm short tempered, less focused, and don't think things through. I just go off the handle at any given moment. I'm THAT guy, that no one wants to be around, and I know this. I know that I should strive to not be so angry, but I just can't. I just don't care. I don't have that compassion. I'm the complete opposite of what people know me for. The funny thing is, I'm not angry at anyone. Some of you may think it's because of my breakup a while back, but really I'm angry with myself. And that's the hardest part. If I'm angry at someone, or something, I can just say screw it, and let go. I can put the source of anger out of my life. However, how does one do that when the source of the anger is my life? -T
123BeachFan Posted April 7, 2010 Posted April 7, 2010 You still have healing from your breakup. You have to forgive the other person, and forgive yourself. Once you do that, you'll find that you are a much more likeable person.
boogieboy Posted April 7, 2010 Posted April 7, 2010 Yeah try not to hold onto the anger. Know that you learned from the last relationship and your rut will pass. One day you will look, the sun will be shining, and you will get motivated again. It just takes time, and you have to cut all connections to your ex. This includes mental, and anything that reminds you of her.
Author Template Posted April 7, 2010 Author Posted April 7, 2010 Thanks for the reply, but I really don't think it's as simple as that. I'm not saying it's not a contributing factor, as it was the lynch pin that started it all. When I was in NC, I wasn't nearly as bad, in fact I was doing great, even though it was the same town she was in. I was literally only about 3-5 miles from her at all times. I moved back to TX, and took a crappy as job, and that where things really started building up. I feel as though I took this job as a settlement to try and get back, and I've left some really good things behind, even though it was one bad thing. And now with this economy, I can't just quit and find something, because there's not much out there. I'm just mired in self-doubt right now, and it seems as every decision I'm making is the wrong decision, or I'm just concentrating on the negative aspects of my decisions, and it's just messing with my mind.
dazzle22 Posted April 8, 2010 Posted April 8, 2010 Have you considered that it might be a bit of depression? Men often experience depressed mood as anger, irritability, fatigue and not as 'feeling blue'..
Author Template Posted April 8, 2010 Author Posted April 8, 2010 I actually have considered that it may be a case of depression as well. Problem is I just started this position and don't have my medical for at least until 90 days. So once medical does hit, I hope there is some kind of plan for a shrink, because I'm probably overdue to seeing one. T
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