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Pink_orchid Established Member

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I wondered if anyone, in their quest for answers, guidance, and/or hope, in an affair or relationship with someone committed, had ever consulted a fortune teller, a psychic or a clairvoyant? If so were they accurate? Did they foretell what was going to happen or have they predicted anything that hasn't (yet) happened..? Have any of their predictions you found at the time to be strange come true?

 

I have had many such psychic readings over the past year with different psychic readers. They have been strangely accurate on so many things (except timing of things) but not as yet about the final outcome, which hasn't happened (yet?). They say me and my MM will end up together and the connection and the love and feelings we have for each other will over-ride everything, but I would have a wait on my hands for it all to evolve.

 

Among things that they have said which were all accurate: they pinpointed the exact month we met, his birthday month and/or zodiac sign, they have described where he lives, they said he was married, two children, and they described the relationship with him and his kids (he is closer to one than the other, for reasons I know and won't go into here). They said the relationship with the wife was over really and had been largely over for three years probably, but he loved his kids and felt very guilty and was staying there through guilt and duty. They said he would lose his job and have financial issues (which I never thought would happen but it's come true) and they told me about about other problems he was trying to sort out (again, true). They described his character, they've even quoted sayings or words he uses. They told me there would be a break between us (well that's come true!) and he would be abrupt with me (again, true) due to being very stressed and not being able to cope with everything and he would come back although he'd be frightened of my reaction after being abrupt with me (because it's totally out of character for him they said, which is true). All along this guy, they say, is in love with me and thinks about me every day, and is fighting his real feelings, trying to do what's right and yet knowing the marriage is not going to work.

 

There were other bits of personal information given. All things I know to be accurate (either about myself or him). I have been told over and over that love will see this through, there will be a split between him and his W and he will come to me and we'll sort everything out. And be very happy together and move (which we'd have to). Just that it will take time, and by then I'll have another option (man) and I will be in a dilemma about what to do.

 

Of course all of this COULD be down to coincidence, and good guesswork (although I don't know how anyone could GUESS some of the information, how do you explain some of that?!).

 

I am trying to get my mind off him because he's not here and I'm trying to be realistic and think to myself he might NOT come back, but then I keep going back to these psychic readings in my mind, they did say don't give him up, it won't be easy but it's so worth it etc, you'll be fine, you're meant to be together...

 

I just wondered what everyone's thoughts and experiences were of this sort of thing. Thanks for your help. :)

Fallen Angel Established Member

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Personally, i do not buy into fortune telling. Our futures are not predetermined, but determined by our actions and inactions.

 

There are a lot of "tells" these people can read when doing so called psychic readings. The tone of your voice, the quickening of your breath, even the way your pupils dialate can all give away to them clues as to if they are on the right track. If they start to relate something that does not appear to fit with your situation they will suddenly change course and speak about something else.

 

It is easy once they realize that you are having relationship issues for example to say something like, "It will be a struggle, and you will have many obstacles, but if you stay the course true love will win out in the end." They really haven't said anything. They are not saying that true love will be with this particular man, simply that you will find true love. They are not saying anything concrete.

 

You will read into their words what you want to hear, and discount those things that they say that do not fit with your relationship. You will twist their words to fit things that happen, and because you want to believe you will twist the reality of events to fit what they say.

 

It is much like those who claim to speak to the dead. Have you ever watched a real seance? They hold them with numerous people hoping to connect with a loved one who has died. They will throw out some very random things like "I am feeling a man, with the first initial J." Some poor woman who has lost her husband John after 35 years will say, "That's my husband. That is John." Now the so called medium knows that her husband died, can guess by her age about how long they were married, (but will reference a long marriage rather than be specific) and knows his name. When the medium starts to describe how John died, he will hold his hands in front of his body moving them up and down watching the hopeful widow. When he gets to the area of his heart, the widow sits up taller and pays closer attention, her breathing catches slightly and she waits to hear, "I feel that he is telling me he died of a heart attack, or something to do with the heart." She feels convinced that he is speaking with her dear departed husband, and goes home happy after the medium passes on the message from beyond that she is still loved even beyond the veil of death.

 

Don't be fooled. Do not take the word of these charlatans and conduct your life to fulfill their predictions.

 

Have you ever heard of a self-fulfilling prophecy? That is all you have, when you follow the "advice" you get from them, which is only what you wanted to hear in the first place.

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Hey PO,

 

How are you doing these days? Any updates since your last thread? Well, funny you should ask....yes, I have done some consults. There are a few practitioners I prefer as most are just inaccurate fortune tellers. If someone gives you timing, then I would mostly ignore it. Timing cannot override free will and those are the psychics I would avoid. You may wish to look up a book by Steve Gunn called Soul Connections. He specializes in areas such as these. His book is really interesting, but I believe they are waiting for a reprint at the moment, so Amazon has ridiculous gouging prices right now. I have read it and it is pretty good.

 

If you would like some more instant information on this subject area, I would try googling Steve Gunn, Jean Green and Fiona Beck. All of these practiontioners have very interesting articles on their web sites that I feel you would find very very interesting and maybe somewhat helpful. Explains everything you are describing in your post and then some. It will be at this point that you may actually understand some of my attitudes on my situation...helped me over the last couple of years tremendously!!! It may help you too.

 

I understand you received these other readings and they may be all true to some extent...however, it is just that we all have free will. In other words, what "they" see today between you and your MM may or may not come to pass. I totally understand where you are coming from though. It is somewhat like keeping hope alive and we all want the happy ending, don't we? I know I do:)

 

One more thing, try not to get too tied up in the psychic stuff. It can be useful and helpful, however that most certainly won't speed up the process of a favorable conclusion to our stories. If overused or relied upon the only thing is that we may have unfortunately run up our credit cards. lol

 

VBH

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jj33 Established Member

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Pink embarrassed to say I did more because I couldnt bore people I knew in real life with it and was overwhelmed by it all when it first ended and during the aftermath before I joined LS.

 

They told me the exact same thing (or some did). And it is in their interest to do so because when they tell you there is hope, you will call back to see if the latest installment in your story still holds hope. In my case that hope never came to fruition (or if I called them Im sure that they would say well it hasnt yet but his situation is complicated, hes working on it, thats why he keeps in such close contact with you, in his mind you will be together one say (one day before I retire? the timing is always difficult with these but wait I see someone else coming in.... the night watchman? Who do you see... )

 

I look at those lines as the psychotherapy of our time (to a degree). Some people are actually clairvoyant (few and far between). Most are counselors, coaches astrologers etc. who need a 2nd job and are (in some cases) good listeners. Others are just in need of some cashola.

 

They used to be paid by the amount of time they had on the lines and docked for charge backs (people complaining about the readings) which I believe is now illegal. But that should tell you something.

 

If you find someone that you like to talk to, have the spare cash and are in need of a real life person to discuss it with when LS isnt enough and you cant tell a real person the latest installment I think they serve a useful purpose (pyschotherapy in a box). It can help with feelings of isolation.

 

But only if there is someone responsible on the other end of the phone.

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Well, maybe it's me, but I have had some amazing readings because I have been open to them, I suppose.

 

And I agree some are so much more talented than others; the true clairvoyant started very young as a child with no one to explain their unreal reality to them.

 

The gifted ones do see things, but are not always sure what this number, symbol, name may mean to you or them or the next client.

 

They are also extremely spiritual because they do not just see good stuff, but some very horrific stuff they can't or don't want to interpret.

 

They WILL always tell you you have free will to change or decide your own future, because you do and should if the outcome is not in your best interests.

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Thanks for your interesting thoughts about psychics everyone.

 

VBH, I'm 'survivin'. Still not heard a word from him since the phone call three weeks ago where he was very stressed (stuff going on at home, money problems, his marriage was about to collapse, and all he could be was a friend to me etc). I argued and got mad at the huge pull back, and I'm still mad and sad. Anyway following that I then sent a-do-not-contact-me-again message, which I regretted, it's not what I wanted really but I was upset, and I've since sent him a couple of brief messages saying I was sad about everything (my own behaviour as well as his) and I'd like to talk if he did, but he has ignored them. So I have no news really. I am not going to try to make contact him again, I'll leave him to sort himself out, and see what he has to say when (if) he resurfaces. As I've said, I wanted more and he couldn't give it. I wouldn't be the other woman as I'm looking for a proper loving 1-1 relationship. It's really hurt me though, the whole thing, he and I would be happy together I know we would.

 

You must update us on you VBH?

 

And so the silence is quite a shock really, since we met I have never had this long without hearing from him. And the worst thing is not knowing if and when I will. I feel like I should be DOING something. Yet I know that leaving it is for the best. If he's going to get in touch it has to be when he's ready (and apologises). I feel really a bit lost and that's why I've been going through all my psychic readings (I have notes from them) and I realised that so many of things they predicted or bits of information they gave, they couldn't possibly have known, and I was hoping that this outcome they predict will be reality one day in the future.

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I know of people who have consulted their actual spiritual advisors on matters of the heart, instead of someone that charges a fee and may not tell you anything that's actually in your best interest.

 

It doesn't seem like the psychic in this case actually said much that could only be applied to the specific situation brought before them.

 

Plus, isn't the consulting of anyone about someone else's behavior counterproductive?

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I am planning on becoming a fortune teller to OW myself, as I realize I could provide HIGHLY ACCURATE descriptions of the relationship and predictions of the future.

 

Basically, I'll just boil every OW story from Loveshack together into a script, and read from that.

 

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Hey PO,

 

Sorry it has taken me a little to get back to you. How are you holding up? Anything new?

 

Yes, I have heard from the OM both on Easter and as recently as yesterday. We haven't chatted, so just quick messages. That's ok...I am busy anyway. OM has initiated contact both times, so I am just going to let things ride this way for a bit and let him take the lead. I have responded positively to OM's messages, but certainly not much more than he has sent me. I look at it as you get what you give, you know? I would suspect I will hear from OM again in the not too distant future, but there is no guarantee on that. We'll see. If I do great, if I don't, then I will be disappointed and realize it's his loss. :)

 

PO, the only time you will stop feeling lost is when you find yourself. Really. I know you miss your exAP and I recall the feeling all too well, however I now understand that when I began to find me is when life began to look up. Have you done something nice for yourself lately? That always helps.

 

Let us know how you are doing.

 

VBH

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No offense, but my dog gives better advice than any psychic out there.

And better kisses.

 

Kisses?

 

You kissed your psychic?

 

I trust he "saw it coming" :)

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Kisses?

 

You kissed your psychic?

 

I trust he "saw it coming" :)

That's why he tells her good stuff:cool:

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Hello everyone thank you for the replies. I thought I would give a quick update. Since the middle of March I had heard nothing from him for 6 weeks when he pulled the plug quite spectacularly and he has ignored my subsequent messages. I have pretty much given up, despite all this stuff from psychic readings, saying we will end up together, although they did say 'not yet' I can't live my life in limbo. I have been finding it hard to forget him though, well quite simply I don't forget him, I think about him every day!

 

But I got a brief message from him this week telling me he had a new job. He had lost his job last year and was very very stressed about still being unemployed when we last spoke six weeks ago, he was basically 'losing the plot' over his whole life and he put the phone down on me. I sent a strongly worded NC message, but have subsequently tried to reopen contact which he has ignored. Yeah I know... confused. I was confused. Angry, sad, hurt and cross about my own behaviour. I wrecked it too by the way I treated him. Anyway following his message this week, I wrote back the following day, just a one-line answer and I said that's good news, so what is your new job? I have had no answer from him. Not sure why this is.

 

Do you think he would like to speak to me really but had to correct himself and pulled back again? He's trying to sort his marriage out. I think he had a moment of weakness contacting me then he fights it and goes quiet again?

 

Maybe because I didn't go overboard with excitement (I felt excited but I didn't want to show it) and I only wrote the briefest of answers? I didn't know how to react really apart from saying well done, that's great etc.

 

He would have written back yet again if he wanted to I guess? Or like I said above, is he wanting to really but daren't in case it all starts again? All the turmoil.

 

I am still finding it really hard to just forget about him. There are things I would like to chat to him about, like we used to (and after kind of sharing with him his frustration about having no job I hate not knowing what his new job is). I am really pleased he felt the urge to tell me and share it with me, but now he's disappeared again. I kind of understand that he feels he shouldn't be contacting me. But it was so nice to see a message from him. It was in reply to a question I sent him asking about if he had a new job (don't ask me why but I had a 'feeling' - no information at all from anybody, just a feeling).

 

I am wondering though, why he suddenly felt the urge to contact after 6 weeks of nothing.

 

Just out of interest, on the subject of the psychics, I had been told earlier this year that I would have a surprise in April and he would contact me to tell me what was going on, but he wouldn't be free at that point. And that there was something about '6 weeks' It made no sense at the time but I guess it does now, 6 weeks go by then I hear from him, so you could say that came true?

 

I don't post much but love reading everyone's stories on LS! And I'm posting on here today so I don't write to HIM, thank you for being my distraction, Loveshack, LOL.

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PO, miss chatting with you but glad you updated us on what's happening in your world! Hang in there! Hugs!!:)

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Hey PO,

 

So glad to see an update from you! I was wondering how you were! Hmm, well I don't know that I would take a message or two as wanting to start contact back up again. I would have thought that at one time (myself), but after so many one liners...they are just that, one liners. It is easy to second guess your reactions, however there is nothing you did or did not do to cause a response or no response. You must realize that your "Mr. Right is actually Mr. Not Right Now". Having said that, he contacted you b/c you do mean something to him or at least he cares. Does that mean you are on your way to the relationship of your dreams? Not necessarily. Just know, that people will really do what they want ultimately, even if they are in turmoil, best to get out of their way. If you aren't confused about what you want, then it is really tough for you to converse with someone who isn't clear on what they want. You just need to stand your ground firmly, but nicely. Remember that. Remind yourself why you needed to tell your AP NC was necessary to begin with, ok? It is because you want/need something he cannot or doesn't wish to deliver at this time. You have every right to feel this way.

 

Have you tried looking at any of the sites I mentioned in a much earlier post on this thread? It isn't a requirement, but I have a strong hunch some of the articles listed on those sites will help you out. Just a suggestion.

 

Give us another update when you get a chance. I don't lurk/read here on a daily basis for lack of personal time, but I will get back to you as soon as I can. I understand and only know too well what you are going through and how you feel! Ugh! Again, have you done something nice for yourself lately? Get a massage! Those always help me. :)

 

VBH

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Thanks for your interesting thoughts about psychics everyone.

 

VBH, I'm 'survivin'. Still not heard a word from him since the phone call three weeks ago where he was very stressed (stuff going on at home, money problems, his marriage was about to collapse, and all he could be was a friend to me etc). I argued and got mad at the huge pull back, and I'm still mad and sad. Anyway following that I then sent a-do-not-contact-me-again message, which I regretted, it's not what I wanted really but I was upset, and I've since sent him a couple of brief messages saying I was sad about everything (my own behaviour as well as his) and I'd like to talk if he did, but he has ignored them. So I have no news really. I am not going to try to make contact him again, I'll leave him to sort himself out, and see what he has to say when (if) he resurfaces. As I've said, I wanted more and he couldn't give it. I wouldn't be the other woman as I'm looking for a proper loving 1-1 relationship. It's really hurt me though, the whole thing, he and I would be happy together I know we would.

 

You must update us on you VBH?

 

And so the silence is quite a shock really, since we met I have never had this long without hearing from him. And the worst thing is not knowing if and when I will. I feel like I should be DOING something. Yet I know that leaving it is for the best. If he's going to get in touch it has to be when he's ready (and apologises). I feel really a bit lost and that's why I've been going through all my psychic readings (I have notes from them) and I realised that so many of things they predicted or bits of information they gave, they couldn't possibly have known, and I was hoping that this outcome they predict will be reality one day in the future.

 

Carefull with psychic..They will tell you want you want to hear so you can continue spending money on them. Yes some predictions will come to pass like contact from the person in question. That's just a guess on their part because even those predictions are off. Don't hold your breath on the major ones.

 

I've gone to psychic and spend alot of money on false hope. They all feed you the same thing...hot/cold, he has feeling for you but the feeling scare him so he pulls away..he will come around and you will end up with him. Blah Blah Blah..

 

Carefull you don't become addicted to these psychic many people do. I was on my way thankfully I woke the hell up.

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