Author Els Posted April 8, 2010 Author Posted April 8, 2010 Right, I'm easing my frustrations on them, which is why I'm trying to explore their options with them, as opposed to telling them to change themselves to become carbon copies of what people claim hot women want, to get the sort of woman that they don't really need but which society has conditioned them to think that they need. If that's your own principle in life as a man, AO, good for you. I'm sure women all respect that.
A O Posted April 8, 2010 Posted April 8, 2010 Right, I'm easing my frustrations on them, which is why I'm trying to explore their options with them You're trying to shake them to their senses, that much is true, and you do so because as you said - you're tired of it all. And its not a case of exploring options either, as it is a case of - this is what they should be choosing and this is what they should be avoiding. That's limiting behavior not exploring it. as opposed to telling them to change themselves to become carbon copies of what people claim hot women want, to get the sort of woman that they don't really need but which society has conditioned them to think that they need. First off, its human nature to try and attract the best possible mate we can and we can increase the likelihood of this happening by being the best, most attractive mate that we can be. If folk are having a hard time with the former, then working on the latter is a prudent thing to do. That is my main point here. The choices they make thereafter, well, that falls on them. .
shadowplay Posted April 8, 2010 Posted April 8, 2010 Most men would love a nice and sweet woman that treats them well but we can't find it. I was like this to my boyfriend and he dumped me out of the blue. It makes me totally question if that's what most men look for.
lino Posted April 8, 2010 Posted April 8, 2010 If by some miracle some girl does show interest in the back of my mind im gonna be thinking she probably got used and abused by good looking guys and is now looking to settle for a guy she knows doesnt have many options and wont hurt her.. I sort of worry about the same thing... I don't really want to be some idiots safety net just because she chose f*ckwits in the past! There are too many variables in your scenario. If the "nice" girl and the "party" girl were equally physically attractive, I think that the vast majority of men would go for the "nice" girl. How many guys really want a girl who goes out drinking all the time typically gets really drunk? Agree! Like I said before, most men will only be interested in sleeping with a party girl.
Woggle Posted April 8, 2010 Posted April 8, 2010 I was like this to my boyfriend and he dumped me out of the blue. It makes me totally question if that's what most men look for. Please do not take this as an insult because I am not trying to bash you but looking at your situation I understand exactly where he is coming from.
sumdude Posted April 8, 2010 Posted April 8, 2010 It is true that when we are young we all go for the hot guys and some of us wheter it be becasue we cant do any better or becasue we think average guys make better hsubands will then settle down in a LTR with him over the playboy Yes we dont melt at the site of him and get hot and bothered like we do wit the hot guy but as long as we treat him well give him sex and the average guy is with somebody maybe out of his league whats so wrong? How... sad? OOooh .. give him sex?! AArrgh! Always hated that phrase.. reminds me of my ex wife! Sex as a commodity. So you marry the guy you're not really hot for. Have a couple kids.. then you hit midlife, hormones start raging. You're life is getting shorter and you ask yourself Is this all there is? OMG did I [gasp] SETTLE?!Then the hot 26 year old at work looks pretty appealing. You take one little risk.. Next thing you know you're nice average husband who's been faithful and loving is blindsided with "I love you but I'm not in love with you. In fact I don't think I ever really loved you." Then the lawyers.. visitation etc etc etc
Author Els Posted April 8, 2010 Author Posted April 8, 2010 You're trying to shake them to their senses, that much is true, and you do so because as you said - you're tired of it all. And its not a case of exploring options either, as it is a case of - this is what they should be choosing and this is what they should be avoiding. That's limiting behavior not exploring it. First off, its human nature to try and attract the best possible mate we can and we can increase the likelihood of this happening by being the best, most attractive mate that we can be. If folk are having a hard time with the former, then working on the latter is a prudent thing to do. That is my main point here. The choices they make thereafter, well, that falls on them. . Again, if they CAN and truly want to attract the sort of girls that the stereotypical man wants (who wouldn't look twice at a geeky guy with glasses), and don't mind changing their entire self just to attract one, more power to them. But some can't or don't want to - and instead of paying for escorts and sex dolls, perhaps it'd be better for them to consider their options (or think about what they truly want out of a relationship - how much does 'hotness' contribute to one?), hmm?
Woggle Posted April 8, 2010 Posted April 8, 2010 Inside the nerdy and nice girls are just like the hot ones. They will treat a man the same way in a relationship because deep down they want to be one of the hot ones.
Author Els Posted April 8, 2010 Author Posted April 8, 2010 If that is the case with women, then there's an equal chance of it being the case with the 'nice guys', Woggle. From experience, I don't think it's true.
phineas Posted April 8, 2010 Posted April 8, 2010 Again, if they CAN and truly want to attract the sort of girls that the stereotypical man wants (who wouldn't look twice at a geeky guy with glasses), and don't mind changing their entire self just to attract one, more power to them. But some can't or don't want to - and instead of paying for escorts and sex dolls, perhaps it'd be better for them to consider their options (or think about what they truly want out of a relationship - how much does 'hotness' contribute to one?), hmm? Ahhh, beauty is just a light-switch away.
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