AD1980 Posted April 7, 2010 Posted April 7, 2010 I met this bartender at a local bar last week,went in there late it was just me my friends and her there bartending.. we were real friendly with each other hit it off pretty well were talking for about a half hour.. I didnt ask for her number or anything because i figure maybe shes just trying to be nice because shes a bartender or at the very least is numb to guys always hitting on her.. Maybe in a few weeks ill go back test the vibe again see if anything happens.. Who knows..I have zero expectations My question is I went on the bars facebook page and saw she was a friend of it..Would it be creepy if i tried to friend her on facebook?
Bejita463 Posted April 7, 2010 Posted April 7, 2010 Would it be creepy if i tried to friend her on facebook? I don't understand why people do this. She was right in front of you. Also, it's pretty much her job to be nice like that. You don't get tips by being rude to your patrons after all.
cooldudeinberlin Posted April 7, 2010 Posted April 7, 2010 1. she's a bartender... service oriented people in bar/restaurant are usually friendly for tips - doesnt mean that she wouldnt be interested 2. not creepy to connect to someone on facebook if you have met them otherwise - hell even people I dont know connect to me on facebook, I dont think they are creepy... why is it only a man trying to meet a woman is creepy but not vice versa? 3. If you indeed had a vibe with this chick, you can forget about it 2 or 3 weeks from now, time has passed and you failed to act... hate to say it, but women are never attracted or impressed with an inconfident man who fails to act. probably a guy the next night who wasnt afraid to get her number has already been over to her place going wild with her in the meantime.
boogieboy Posted April 7, 2010 Posted April 7, 2010 Im pretty sure if she was into you she would have given you a hint. If you try to continue this on FB, you wont get any interest from her. You have to do it in person. Dont add her until you actually start dating her.
DustySaltus Posted April 7, 2010 Posted April 7, 2010 If you "friend" her on Facebook, that's exactly what you'll become. Ask her in person. If she's interested she WILL give you her number. I know that it's their job to be friendly but I've had enough experience to say that if she's feeling you, you'll get it... ...also got shot down a few times too.
Author AD1980 Posted April 7, 2010 Author Posted April 7, 2010 I thought there was a vibe but who knows..I never have luck with womenand am lonely so maybe thsi is just any girl who gives me the time of day and doesnt ignore me i get overly excited by.. Shes pretty cute so the chances shed want anything to do with me is slim to none..
DustySaltus Posted April 7, 2010 Posted April 7, 2010 I thought there was a vibe but who knows..I never have luck with womenand am lonely so maybe thsi is just any girl who gives me the time of day and doesnt ignore me i get overly excited by.. Shes pretty cute so the chances shed want anything to do with me is slim to none.. You can't win the game if you don't take the shot. Just ask her in person.......
sullysteve Posted April 7, 2010 Posted April 7, 2010 I agree with the other posters: if you were going to make your move, you should have done it then. Not now over Facebook. Bartenders get hit on constantly and she might have forgotten you already. Oh well, next time!
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