ashbash5 Posted April 6, 2010 Posted April 6, 2010 i met this guy at work back in september. we also go to the same university. at the same time, i've been dating this guy for almost three years. the guy's name from work is zack and my boyfriend's name is alex. zack and i started talking and he said many times how much he likes me and would like to take me out on a date if i ever became single. well, i'm finally single. near the end of february i hung out with zack and we ended up having sex for the first time. i really felt a connection with him and two days later i broke up with my boyfriend of almost three years. since then we've been talking all the time and i've been spending the night at his house every weekend. we've had a sexual relationship ever since. he constantly tells me how much he cares for me and wants to be with me when the time is right. well last night he told me that since he's going back to school for his emt certification in may he won't have time for a serious girlfriend. he said he even has to give up playing with his band (music is his passion) because he'll be so busy. he said he's not going for anyone else and he really does like me but he has too many things going on in his life at the moment. he also said that come august, when the certification is over, he will have a lot less things on his plate. i guess i'm just having trouble dealing. i know it's healthy for him and for me (since i'm newly single) but it's just so hard because i want someone that i can't have at the moment. i think that we moved too fast to begin with and it's hard to take a lot of steps backward. does anyone have any advice for how i can handle this? also, do you think zack has any sort of ulterior motive or is it very plausible that he needs to focus on himself for a while even though we have such a deep connection?
torranceshipman Posted April 7, 2010 Posted April 7, 2010 I think Zack is a player who enjoyed winning you (in his mind) from your ex, then got what he wanted (physical) & got you hooked, so his ego got what it needed and now he has come up with a lame excuse to end things. Hit the ignore button on this guy! Definitly move on...you did nothing wrong, but this just happens sometimes if the guy is no gent-the mistake would occur in continuing to crush on the guy.
cooldudeinberlin Posted April 7, 2010 Posted April 7, 2010 What's the real dilema? You were thinking of breaking up with your boyfriend prior to lying and cheating, right? That has nothing to do with the other chucker... that was for you. You, like he did you, basically used him... it was sort of a rebound type thing that wouldnt have lasted any way. You are young and have a lot more experiences awaiting, with a lot better guys, one day men... its all in the experience... always good to take the time to reconnect to yourself for YOU after a long relationship. Zack, Frack, whatever was just some small piece of the chain... you both got something out of it, move on.
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