MrNate Posted April 7, 2010 Posted April 7, 2010 Hmmm, that's a big hypocritical no? If you want other men to treat your sister well, shouldn't you treat other women, just as well? I really thought you were going to say that you treat the women you date like you expect the men your sister dates to treat her. This is an issue I find among men. They expect women in their family to be treated with respect by other men, but don't hold that standard completely up to themselves when it comes to other women. ah see, well this is just a misunderstanding. your question is worded very weirdly. and yes, what you thought was true. i treat the women I date like i expect the men who date my sister to treat her. It's very hard to get my point across in relation to how I expect men to treat my sister. I'm a great guy and I treat people well. Never disrespectful. I expect them to be able to match, and heck, even outdo me. I want them to be able to make me ask myself 'am I the best person I can be to my woman? where can I improve?' no hyporcisy whatsoever.
Author Jersey Shortie Posted April 8, 2010 Author Posted April 8, 2010 My bad Mr.Nate. Thanks for clearing up my miscommunication. You sound like a stand up guy to be honest.
MrNate Posted April 8, 2010 Posted April 8, 2010 My bad Mr.Nate. Thanks for clearing up my miscommunication. You sound like a stand up guy to be honest. Thanks. There are some awesome dudes out there. Definitely.
Jaytb Posted April 8, 2010 Posted April 8, 2010 Men, what qualities do you think women should look for in a man who they would be considering for a serious romantic relationship? Basically, I am curious what qualities men respect in themselves and other men that qualify as a good man. Women should look for whatever they want to look for Well I think women do search for the right qualities in men much of the time, but I think they also want many qualities that are rare to find in a person. For instance, too many women want a nice guy, who's tall, assertive, and "powerful", but on the other hand it's too rare to find someone like that. What they should look for are the "good to have in a relationship" qualities, (good attitude, cleanliness, helpfulness, happy, nice, positive) and focus less on men with power, money, good looks, men who are tall, men who are "bad boys", etc. Reality is there's plenty of nice, friendly good for a relationship men who work 40 hrs a week, drive Honda Accords, and aren't exciting in any way that women overlook constantly.
Author Jersey Shortie Posted April 8, 2010 Author Posted April 8, 2010 What they should look for are the "good to have in a relationship" qualities, (good attitude, cleanliness, helpfulness, happy, nice, positive) and focus less on men with power, money, good looks, men who are tall, men who are "bad boys", etc. Reality is there's plenty of nice, friendly good for a relationship men who work 40 hrs a week, drive Honda Accords, and aren't exciting in any way that women overlook constantly. Yes, I would agree. But sometimes even those hard working 40 hr week, Honda Accord (that's a good car by the way) driving men will pursue the hottest girl at the party instead of their contemporary. Or they will date their contemporary but oggle the ubber hot girl. It does go both ways.
cooldudeinberlin Posted April 8, 2010 Posted April 8, 2010 Well I think women do search for the right qualities in men much of the time, but I think they also want many qualities that are rare to find in a person. For instance, too many women want a nice guy, who's tall, assertive, and "powerful", but on the other hand it's too rare to find someone like that. . That maybe true... but not as rare as one might think What they should look for are the "good to have in a relationship" qualities, (good attitude, cleanliness, helpfulness, happy, nice, positive) and focus less on men with power, money, good looks, men who are tall, men who are "bad boys", etc. Reality is there's plenty of nice, friendly good for a relationship men who work 40 hrs a week, drive Honda Accords, and aren't exciting in any way that women overlook constantly. hmmm... confusing DNA, thousands of years of human instinct, sexua attraction to logical thought.... it just doesnt work this way. Sure there is the old addage of the guy a woman might like to have a wild, passionate affair with and one she would seriously settle down with are usually two, entirely different people... one appeals to her pure fundamental sexual attraction and the other her logical, stable well being... rarely, these two can meet... but not impossible... but very rarely... most people settle for the lesser of two evils and compromise the happiness and satisfaction. Due to this, a lot of people say they never see any happily married people...
Author Jersey Shortie Posted April 8, 2010 Author Posted April 8, 2010 Well, it's possible to have both! I've had great chemistry with average, even unattractive by most people's standards, men.
cooldudeinberlin Posted April 8, 2010 Posted April 8, 2010 Well, it's possible to have both! I've had great chemistry with average, even unattractive by most people's standards, men. hey, that comes from experience, wisdom, growth... good for you trust me... when I was in my early 20's I barely knew who I was, much less what I wanted in a female or potential partner.... now, I feel like I know exactly/ have much higher standards and wont even settle for anything less (okay, maybe not so dramatic ;-)... and its not what you think... its mostly about the stimulation and emotional reaction... that connection has got to be there
ADF Posted April 8, 2010 Posted April 8, 2010 Only three: honesty, honesty and honesty. If a person is fundamentally honest, there is very little wrong with them that cannot be dealt with. If they are fundamentally dishonest, there's not much hope for them.
lino Posted April 8, 2010 Posted April 8, 2010 Hmmm, that's a big hypocritical no? If you want other men to treat your sister well, shouldn't you treat other women, just as well? I really thought you were going to say that you treat the women you date like you expect the men your sister dates to treat her. This is an issue I find among men. They expect women in their family to be treated with respect by other men, but don't hold that standard completely up to themselves when it comes to other women. Wow! I never thought it'd be possible but... I completely agree with you! The part in bold is something I see a lot too. I've always treated females that I'm interested in with the same respect that I'd want shown to my sister by a guy that's involved with her. Hasn't gotten me very far surprisingly
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