Men, What Qualities Should Women Look For?

[Jersey Shortie]

Men, what qualities do you think women should look for in a man who they would be considering for a serious romantic relationship?

 

Basically, I am curious what qualities men respect in themselves and other men that qualify as a good man.

[espec10001]

Good, strong hearted

Loyal

Assertive

Strong

Has hobbies and passions outside of a relationship

Keeps a level head and doesn't worry over petty things

Focuses on what's important in life like friendship and family

[MrNate]

This is kind of a weird question, if you think about it. I mean, we could say a million things that women SHOULD look for, but they're only going to go off of your their own personal list anyway, you know?

 

I could sit here and say, 'but i'm a good man! I really am!', but what's the point? Millions of others can say the same thing.

 

I assume you're asking this for dating purposes, if that's the case, then it all depends on your perception of what a 'good man' is.

 

But what I can tell you is that all the good men I know are respects others, and is respected...highly.

[The Paper Knight]

Men, what qualities do you think women should look for in a man who they would be considering for a serious romantic relationship?

 

I can't believe its not butter!

 

Basically, I am curious what qualities men respect in themselves and other men that qualify as a good man.

 

- respects and spends time with family

- is loyal to his friends

- is a good listener

- likes to socialize occasionally

- works to live

- cares for his body

[Jersey Shortie]

This is kind of a weird question, if you think about it. I mean, we could say a million things that women SHOULD look for, but they're only going to go off of your their own personal list anyway, you know?

 

 

Of course. But I am not asking for the reason you are thinking. I am just curious what men respect in other men and what men think women should look out for. I want to see what men value.

[bayouboi]

I donno what they SHOULD look for, but it seems like they DO look for:

 

-someone who abuses you

-someone who cheats on you and sleeps around a lot

-someone who's filthy rich

[threebyfate]

JS, this is a good thread if the guys on LS would answer seriously and honestly.

[laRubiaBonita]

JS, this is a good thread if the guys on LS would answer seriously and honestly.

 

let's all hold our breath!

 

think of it this way guys- what qualities would you have your sister/ friend thats a girl look for in a man?

[PJKino]

Honesty, integrity,caring,trustworhty

 

Kidna hard to find that in any gender these days unfortunately

[Crusoe]

Qualities I respect in other men? Integrity, honesty, compassion, patience, dedication, fortitude and generosity. Applies to women too.

[phineas]

i'm honest.

I don't play games

I don't cheat

I grill.

I clean

i'll bend over backwards & forwards, even sideways & twist just right to please you in bed.

 

i don't pull disapearing acts & i'll accept you for who you are.

 

sadly, a lot of women I dated got bored with all that & actually dumped me for a looser-jerk that treated them badly.

 

Go figure.

[bayouboi]

let's all hold our breath!

 

think of it this way guys- what qualities would you have your sister/ friend thats a girl look for in a man?

 

Much better question & easier to see/relate/empathize with. I love my bro-in-law, his qualities are that he's a nice guy, funny, great father. He's very atypical for what most women go for i.e. he's not a jerk and doesn't make a lot of money. I'd love to meet someone like my sister. One of my platonic girlfriends also met a guy that I dig. He's a nice guy, funny & easy to get along with.

[Woggle]

Look for an honest man who gives what he gets.

[TheBigQuestion]

This isn't necessarily stuff that one can pick up on after only knowing a guy for a few minutes or hours, and it also requires watching the guy's interactions with other people. This actually goes for both sexes, and they are qualities I value.

 

You need to pay close attention to the guy's interactions with others, how he talks about people who are in his past, and all things that entail these two. For example, if you find a guy who seems to have a lot of conflicts with (ex) friends over mostly petty reasons, you might want to be skeptical. This indicates a war-like or uncompromising personality, possibly selfishness, and it usually isn't compartmentalized to only the platonic part of his life. It could also indicate a lack of loyalty. Obviously, if you start to sniff out tons of similar relationship baggage, you ought to also be skeptical. A person who is easy-going, rational, and loyal is not going to have an extensive history of interpersonal conflict. The biggest mistake people make when entering relationships is thinking "Well he cares about ME, and that's more important than how he sees or speaks to people as a whole, and his relationship baggage is all or mostly all in the past too."

 

So it goes without saying that I think women need to look for men who possess loyalty, a history of being reasonable, and a healthy attitude towards people as a whole. These are qualities that don't grow on trees, and if you spot a guy who possesses them (and it gets reinforced through you taking mental notes of his actions over a sizable period of time), you'd do good to stick with him.

[Woggle]

Loyalty is good but don't confuse it being a doormat who will stick around no matter what. A man be loyal but if he has any ounce of self respect he will quickly kick a woman to the curb for treating him wrong.

[carhill]

My short list, based on the close male friendships I have....

 

1. Clean and sober

 

2. Emotionally stable

 

3. Has my back (some people would call this 'loyalty')

[Woggle]

All I ask for from my friends is loyalty and honesty. I have friends who are not so perfect but they let me sleep on their couch when I was on the verge of homelessness and that is something I do not forget.

[MrNate]

Of course. But I am not asking for the reason you are thinking. I am just curious what men respect in other men and what men think women should look out for. I want to see what men value.

 

Ah well in that case, the first page should suffice as far as answers are concerned. I can't imagine anything unique coming up.

 

and to la rubia: Im going to hold the men my sister dates to a MUCH higher standard than regular guys i have a basic respect for. That just spawn's from a brother's want to protect his sister.

[cooldudeinberlin]

ha ha ha ha.... a lot of comments talking about "what women should look for"... but in reality they dont::: DNA, human-animalistic instinct....

 

 

What women should and do look for:

• CONFIDENCE
  
• RESPONSIBILITY
  
• STRONG CHARACTER -SELF RESPECT - RESPECT FOR OTHERS
  
• COMFORTABLE WITH HIMSELF AND IN HIS OWN SKIN
  
• SOCIAL VALUE - STATUS
  
• KNOWS WHAT HE WANTS AND GOES AFTER IT
  
• TAKES CARE OF HIS HEALTH/ BODY
  
• HUMOR, HUMOR, HUMOR
  
• GOOD LOOKS (which could be his good health, great natural smile, body language or just the way his confidence makes him appear)
  
• INDEPENDENCE (not only financially, but emotionally... has his own friends and interest outside of a relationship)
  
• HEALTHY
  
• ADORES HIS FAMILY
  
• ADORES HIS FRIENDS
  
• ENJOYS HIS OWN TIME WITHOUT BUILDING HIS LIFE, INTEREST AND OPINIONS AROUND OTHERS (including women)
  
• HAS HOBBIES AND PASSIONS
  
• CAN COMMUNICATE (including not talking but listening)
  

[Stockalone]

JS, this is a good thread if the guys on LS would answer seriously and honestly.

 

Was that really necessary?

 

let's all hold our breath!

 

 

 

 

think of it this way guys- what qualities would you have your sister/ friend thats a girl look for in a man?

 

Basically, I am curious what qualities men respect in themselves and other men that qualify as a good man.

 

Well, that depends. My friends are good men, though certain character traits are quite different.

 

It also depends on the women. Not every guy will be a good match and vice versa.

 

That said, if I look at the things my friends have in common, it's that they are:

• loyal
  
• honest
  
• down to earth
  
• reliable
  
• smart
  

[Jersey Shortie]

and to la rubia: Im going to hold the men my sister dates to a MUCH higher standard than regular guys i have a basic respect for. That just spawn's from a brother's want to protect his sister.

 

MrNate, do you hold yourself to the standard of the men that date your sister, such as you treat the women you date like you'd want another man to treat your sister, or the standard of the regular guy? Also, are you the older or younger brother?

[lino]

I think women should look for whatever qualities they like, so long as they are honest about them and are willing to deal with the consequences brought on from the choices they make.

 

I don't think any guy can tell a woman what qualities she should be looking for.

[MrNate]

MrNate, do you hold yourself to the standard of the men that date your sister, such as you treat the women you date like you'd want another man to treat your sister, or the standard of the regular guy? Also, are you the older or younger brother?

 

I hold myself to the standard of the regular, respectful guy. Not too the standard that i would hold my sister's suitors to. I expect the guys she date to almost make me seem like a bad person, which im not in the slightest. Again, that's just from a want to protect her. I am the eldest of 3. She is the youngest, with my bro in the middle. 21, 19, 18, respectively.

[troggleputty]

Men, what qualities do you think women should look for in a man who they would be considering for a serious romantic relationship?

 

Basically, I am curious what qualities men respect in themselves and other men that qualify as a good man.

 

1. He should be completely heterosexual--not bi and definitely not gay.

 

2. He should be a hard worker and earn a decent living. Enough at least to get a three bedroom house in a decent working class community. (I.e. to raise children if things go that way.)

 

3. He should not cheat.

 

4. He should be in decent physical shape.

 

5. He should be honest and trustworthy.

 

6. He should not have any obvious mental health issues.

 

7. He should not have a serious criminal record.

 

8. He should not be a narcotics or alcohol abuser. Some would throw in not being a tobacco user either, I couldn't disagree with that.

 

9. He should be comparably attractive as is the woman.

[Jersey Shortie]

I hold myself to the standard of the regular, respectful guy. Not too the standard that i would hold my sister's suitors to. I expect the guys she date to almost make me seem like a bad person, which im not in the slightest. Again, that's just from a want to protect her. I am the eldest of 3. She is the youngest, with my bro in the middle. 21, 19, 18, respectively.

 

Hmmm, that's a big hypocritical no? If you want other men to treat your sister well, shouldn't you treat other women, just as well?

 

I really thought you were going to say that you treat the women you date like you expect the men your sister dates to treat her.

 

This is an issue I find among men. They expect women in their family to be treated with respect by other men, but don't hold that standard completely up to themselves when it comes to other women.